Have you ever been curse out by a child.????

@bjc66bjc (6745)
United States
April 21, 2012 1:59pm CST
I was just at the window of my next door neighbor, she was having a discussion with her 17 year old daughter, and I was saying good morning, when her daughter saw me at the window she begin to call me nosey, and a B I T C H, needless to say, I was livid, I actually have never been spoken to like that by an adult let know a 17 year old... OOHHHH, I am really heated..I wish I could whip her BUTT but I am an adult..an old adult.... Whats your take...her mother did apologize for her behavior...I have been nothing but extremely nice to that family...
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• United States
21 Apr 12
She is 17, so she is so close to being an adult that someone might just give her what's for some day. They might end up in jail, but there are some folks that won't play with that kind of mess. For a kid or adult that kind of language is uncalled for. Seems to me that kids like that don't have any upbringing. They are allowed to run rampant and do what they want. I've been cursed out by a 3 year old in the same way.. I was called a Honkey by a 3 year old in Brooklyn last year.
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• United States
21 Apr 12
sad as it is it was my rude child who did it. I am trying to find out how to get her out of here. I don't want to move and bj does not deserve this treatment.
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• United States
21 Apr 12
Make her apologize, Gifts. You might tell her she has to apologize and mean it. She might even be made to do some 'community service' for her actions. Her actions should have consequences. I bet if you called the law and explained what is going on and you want her to do some community service to learn some respect, I bet they would direct you. My guess is thought that you would protect her rather than out her about her behavior to the cops and the department of family and children's service. She needs to know there are repercussions for her actions. If she were my kid and she did half the stuff she has done at your house, she would sit in jail for a few months.
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• United States
21 Apr 12
The police will not do anything for this at all. I would not even be able to get het to say sorry. That girl is stuck in her own ways. There is nothing but hitting her that will fase her and I will not do that. I am working on getting her legally out of my house next month. that is all I can do. she will not listen to nothing I say for her to do. trust me when I say this. even bj knows this about her.
@BigMoney25 (1257)
• Philippines
22 Apr 12
I think you just have to be patient with the girl since she is immature and still a teenager so she doesn't clearly know what is right and what is wrong, maybe just forgive her out and if you do time will come that she will apologize to you because she did something wrong that she didn't realize was back then she'll just be looking at the things that happened before. Just don't let her get into your head and relax and stay kind with her family instead.
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• Philippines
22 Apr 12
Yes, stay kind with her family...
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@bjc66bjc (6745)
• United States
23 Apr 12
BigMoney, what planet are you living on?// unlesss a child is handicapped in some way, 17 years old is definately old enough to know right from wrong... As far as still being kind to her mother,,,,,always....
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@ryanong (9694)
• Vietnam
22 Apr 12
Well, if i am you, i am not happy also. That girl is 17 already, she is not a small kid, she is really unpolite. However at least the mother dis apologize for her child behavior. Then you can "ignore" this time. But if it happens many times, the mother should do care more with her child, it is not good when a child is too unpolite with the adults.
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@bjc66bjc (6745)
• United States
23 Apr 12
thanks for your response...yes the mother was very apologetic...
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@factorial (982)
• Philippines
22 Apr 12
Oh! that is too much... I think it depends on the upbringing... I have remembered when I was strolling with my 2-year old son when an old woman past by. I did not say a word to the old woman but my son smiled and said "lola" (grandma). I was so happy that my son greeted an unknown woman by saying "lola" (grandma).
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• United States
21 Apr 12
Hello sir, I am a teen exactly her age and I see whats the matter here. I myself had bad mornings but for her it might be worse. Being frustrated and annoyed she might have wanted to be alone for a while which her mom ruined and that's when you interrupted (not really but according to girl you were interrupting) and that was the reason for her inappropriate behavior. Now you being an old adult I just hope you forgive the girl and hold on to your good relationship with your neighbor.
@bjc66bjc (6745)
• United States
21 Apr 12
Hi jigpatel, first I am not a sir, secondly I was actually invited to come over by the mother, third I can appreciate you response, but you have no idea of the situtation of her inappro[riate behavior...
• United States
21 Apr 12
True but that's what I interpreted from what you said. Calling you sir was just a respect since you said you were quite older than me. :) Have a nice day!
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• United States
21 Apr 12
Ji,Nice to meet you and welcome to mylot. That child of mine is very rude and has no intentions of changing anytime soon. I asked her to come to my house,and my chidl was totally out of control. I wish she would hurry and get out of my house so I can live alone in peace. she is not like you in any way. You can go back to my posts to read about her actions.
• United States
21 Apr 12
I just told adrian about it and he is pissed. She is in her freaking room with the door closed. I want her out of this house. I feel so bad for how she talked to you. I don't know what I can do to make it better. She will meet her maker and it will be handled. She just told me she is not going anywhere till she turns 21. I hope to find a way to get her out of this house. You are one of the main reasons I don't want to move. She knows you have been good to us. she is just a spoiled rotton mess. I am so sorry for your pain.
• Denver, Colorado
21 Apr 12
Gifts, don't take her threats. You may have to go to court and have her removed from your home when she turns 18 years old or have her emancipated before then. In our state, once they turn 18 it is your turn to put them out. Some kids don't have to be spoiled to be brats. New York is the only state that makes the age of majority 21. Some states make them adults at 19, but the majority is 18. Indiana is 21 only if they stay in school. I think there should be laws about parental abuse just like there are laws about child abuse. Some children take full advantage of their age, even when their size and abilities speak loudly otherwise. I do know verbal abuse doesn't qualify either way. Seems to me if we can try a child as an adult, they should be responsible for some of their behavior even if it isn't criminal.
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@bjc66bjc (6745)
• United States
21 Apr 12
Thanks again gifts, But I am so angry I am crying because I did not deserve what she said to me and the terrible names. I will definately be alright because I have tough skin but when you have been nothing but nice to someone even got them out of terrible situtations and then get that, it kinda hard to accept...
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• United States
21 Apr 12
My daughter is walking around like nothing happened here. it makes me sick to be in this house with her. she told me that this is her house not mine. I told adrain I will come get my meds and go back home.but,I can only see my heart breaking from the stress if I stay here. I am so lost right now I don't know what to do..
• Philippines
22 Apr 12
Well, i hate the child when say something n bad or something.I don't like to support it but i love to tell and discipline it. It's not so appreciated about child say a curse word.
@ryanong (9694)
• Vietnam
22 Apr 12
I hate a child who says curse words too.
• Philippines
23 Apr 12
Yes ,me i think i have shut up the mouth of the kids,and face to face discipline it. I would love to teach it than just to leave it and nothing do.
• United States
24 Apr 12
My take is from that of a 22 year old, who is NOT jumping to the conclusion that this happens often with her. First off. I do understand where you're coming from, but no one seems to be taking the daughter's side, therefore I am. Is this a one time thing, or has it happened more than once? People tend to lash out when they have a bad day. That probably was a private conversation the daughter didn't want heard and took your presence the wrong way. I know I have done that. Times have changed, instead of that getting a three day suspension from school, it only gets a verbal reprimand. If a movie has that one or four times it only gets a PG-13 rating instead of R. Games that would've be forbidden from stores maybe even 15 years ago, are now proudly on display. Seriously. Go read the reviews for Grand Theft Auto, one of the most violent games I've seen. It's very common. Granted I would bristle at being called that but I wouldn't want to beat that person over it. 17 is not a child. A child is 13 or younger. I have heard language like that from someone like that and have heard worse. I hear nearly everyday when I go to the library from adults. That's my take on it, yell at me if you like. Before you do it let me tell you this. I can say whatever I want. I can say what you don't want to hear, or what you do want to hear. If that pisses you off fine, it does. Evidently you don't understand that society is now more accepting. Just as it is about women wearing pants, or two piece bathing suits, or women working instead of staying at home and raising the kids.
@bjc66bjc (6745)
• United States
25 Apr 12
Kiya, I appreciate your response, and you are entitled to your opinion...but i see you are a new mylotter and therefore not familiar of this on going sceniro.... First a child is between birth and adult...17 is definately not grown..obviously you are unaware of that fact. I am not going to yell at you, for what reason would I do that? But neither will I continue this explanation with you. thanks for your response....
@garson (886)
• United States
30 Apr 12
To me, she was plain disrespectful. Has she been arguing a lot with her mom? Some teenagers have this type of typical behavior, which signify rebelliousness.(Someone can correct me if I'm wrong.) I would also be curious, if she has mental and psychological disorders, but that is none of my business. Not that, rebellious, disrespectful teenagers need to have some kind of disorders.
@celticeagle (120447)
• Boise, Idaho
22 Apr 12
My granddaughter has cursed me out. I had guardianship of her and she swore alot. My grandson does. He has a moood disorder and when he gets angry he will call me names. He comes back later and apologizes. He and I are the same sign and we have quite a bond.
@cupkitties (7545)
• United States
22 Apr 12
I haven't yet met one brave enough and hopefully never will. Its no reason to speak rudely to an adult, but perhaps she thought that you had been spying and she got annoyed.
@GardenGerty (103964)
• United States
21 Apr 12
I say someone needs to teach her some manners. I do not remember if I have ever been cursed by a child. It certainly would not have been my child and they would have learned their manners when they were much younger. On the other hand, I have a great niece that I tried to raise while her mom drove a truck and she was subject to my discipline and she still would have screaming tantrums at school and other places. I had to have her mom come home and find another job as I could not handle her and I was very angry all of the time. I see on Yahoo news that in various parts of the country little kids are being arrested and handcuffed for things that child did while living with me.
• United States
21 Apr 12
Yes I have. My son has cursed a time or two, but I told him to not do that when he was younger. It is not nice, and they do deserve to be punished. Children have to learn somehow.
• Portugal
21 Apr 12
really sometimes happens.. in these days childrens dont respect theyr helders -.-
@Bluedoll (17050)
• Canada
21 Apr 12
I’ve had a similar experience in my neighborhood but not quite as dramatic. I tend not to want to associate with people that behave like that unless they apologize themselves. I am not sure of all the situations (name calling sometimes has very little justifications) but I think she wants privacy and therefore she and her mother should seek that somehow away from view. You could take pictures and if asked tell them it is for you private photo album of memories if you should ever move someday?
@hydra877 (14)
21 Apr 12
THat happen sometimes, teens are known for having bad temper. She was pissed so it's not hard to see why.