Favorite Family Members/Favortism

@dubbc3 (125)
United States
April 23, 2012 4:28pm CST
Do you have a favorite sibling, cousin, aunt or uncle? If so, why do you think you relate with one over the others? Are you favorited by more than one family member? Is anyone in your family favorited? If so, how does that affect your relationships in general?
7 responses
• United States
29 Apr 12
Well I like my uncle more than any of my cousins (who only see me when the want me to give something to them...) or other relatives because he encourages me. I don't see him often at all (I wish I could though, especially since my graduation is in a few months!) because he lives so far away but he calls to check up on the family whenever he's not working. I don't really know if I'm favorited by more than one family member, unless my parents count? :D
@dubbc3 (125)
• United States
30 Apr 12
It is what it is! thepooloflust...we can't help who we connect with. Yes, your parents count! :)
@jureathome (5363)
• Philippines
26 Apr 12
Yes. My very first niece is a favorite family member. She was our first baby, and even now that I have my own kids, I still give her special attention. She's not a very fortunate kid, because she's a product of teen pregnancy, and her parents are not together, so I try to do my part as her aunt, to make her feel loved and wanted. She's grown up to be a good girl, and I'm proud that I did my part in nurturing her.
@dubbc3 (125)
• United States
27 Apr 12
That's sweet and of course a blessing for her and you. Young people need our encouragement. She was your only niece at the time, so her being your favorite wasn't an issue. Is it now though?
@GemmaR (8527)
26 Apr 12
I think that everybody will have their own favourite family member, and this is something that can cause problems within a family. I was convinced for a long time that my younger brother was the favourite in my family. I was right about that, and he was treated very differently to the way that I was, but you just have to realise that just because you're not the favourite doesn't mean that you're not loved just as much as your sibling. It's like most people will have a favourite parent, but it doesn't mean that you love the other one any less than the one who you tend to prefer.
@dubbc3 (125)
• United States
27 Apr 12
Yes. I think whether we admit it or not, we all have our favourites. I don't believe anyone sets out to prefer one family member over another. That's just the way it is naturally.
@jinky2012 (438)
• Philippines
24 Apr 12
my daughter is my favorite,My only princess.
@dubbc3 (125)
• United States
25 Apr 12
Jinky...can you elaborate? Do you only have one child? What about your other family members? Are you close to any of them? If so, why?
@doroffee (4233)
• Hungary
23 Apr 12
I bonded with my grandma really well. She loved me so much, and what I liked about her most is that (apart from her telling awesome stories from her life :D) that she treated me like an adult when I was 10-11 in that sense that she didn't act as if I was stupid and didn't understand anything of the world.
@dubbc3 (125)
• United States
27 Apr 12
doroffee, grandparents do have that special something that causes us to feel intelligent and secure. Grandparents seem to have more patience and understanding.
• Philippines
23 Apr 12
I don't have any favorite cousin, aunt, uncle or what-not. I can say that I have a closest relative but that does not mean that she is already my favorite. She is the closest to me because we are always together, we make fun of each other, we share stuff and others. It does not affect my relationship to the other members of the family because everyone is the same for me. Good thing that we have this close family ties that all of us are really close.
@dubbc3 (125)
• United States
23 Apr 12
Kimmy, its great that you feel equal love and closeness for all of your family members. But, why do you think you and this close relative you spoke of are so close? Other than because you're always together? Why are you always together? Do you two live near each other? Or do you have similar interests or personalities?
• United States
23 Apr 12
I have a favorite cousin and se has no idea she is my favorite either. I love her sisters very much as well. It's just that she has so much in common with me that I just love it.
@dubbc3 (125)
• United States
23 Apr 12
Exactly, giftsandbagscom! I have a feeling your cousin knows instinctively knows she's your favorite. You have the kind of bond with your cousin that is so strong you don't need to verbally tell her she's your favorite cousin. I know its so cliche, but birds of a feather do flock together! People are drawn to other people most like themselves. Thanks for commenting!