I lied and my friend smiled – Should I thank God or be Sorry?

Hi! I am not too sure if your did the right thing by telling while lies to your friend. However, the bottom line is - she did not know that you were telling her lies and this made her happy, so you could be let off ............lol! I think if it helped her felt de-stressed then it is OK, but you need to check if you provided her a temporary solution/smile on her face or a lasting one. As you have not narrated the problem in details, it is difficult to make assessment about the problem and lies told.

Hi Viju0410, how are you? I suspect that what you did could fall under the category of flattery. I am not sure whether this approach (of flattering someone) is to be classified as a white lie; as in the end, this method usually make the recipient happier than not being told. Historically, it would 'appear' to be (1)the thoughts and (2)expectations for men to use flattery to compliment a woman for her physical appearance, or an action that is 'seemingly' good. Women do flatter each other or men as well. Anyway, I do not think that flattering someone who obviously need that compliment, in order to improve their day, is essentially bad. However, like all things, caution is necessary when practicing this activity. Why? Because the recepient also has a brain that works! The recipient knows that, while you may be trying flattery to make their day better, you may have gone overboard with it. Therefore, be careful with that practice of telling 'white lies', as if the recipient thinks that your efforts at flattery is being used in inappropriate ways, it can backfire.

Hi Viju, I've done it myself. I think it all depends on the situation and what it is that you are lying to them about. If telling the truth will do nothing to help them and only would hurt them worse then I'd probably tell a little white lie. Thankfully, I haven't been in that spot too often. If the truth is potentially hurtful but will possibly help them to improve then I'm pretty careful in how I choose my words. You seem like a sensitive person. If you lied, I'm sure it was for all the right reasons.

I think it depends on what it is, but there is a saying going around that personally I prefer and that is, "I'd rather be hurt with the Truth, than to be comfortable with a Lie" (well maybe not the exact words, but similar) Of course this is mostly due to my beliefs, as I see the lies in the religion I grew up in and so I speak the truth and want others to speak it as well. Like I said though, it depends, but personally, I try to not lie, not even little white ones..

Hi Viju, I don't think there is nothing wrong with it sometimes one has to tell lies for a good cause i have done it many times. I can corelate it with a person who is dying lying on the bed and ask you what is going to happen with him you can never tell him that he is goind to die shortly of course any one will say don't worry don't panic everything is going to be fine.

Not at all times, when the issue is really hard to deal with, being blunt and expressing your real thoughts and opinions will help more. Saying white lies for addressing serious problems is like helping your friend dig her own grave. I've been there, done that, the result is not ideal. My friend ultimately believed that what she was doing was alright for she has a friend who supported her, but in the long run it changes their reasoning. It's always good to keep your friends in reality check.

I feel that in ordinary situations it is better to keep quiet than utter anything at all.Telling even a white lie normally goes against my conscience ; however if you feel that no harm was really done then it is alright. Sometimes even white lies can harm a person and if she is a close friend she would prefer the truth to any white lie.If I have difference of opinion I always say "well this is my feeling; but each to one's own because everyyone's situation is different.

I believed that depends upon your purpose and the situation as well. If there is a person who looks very angry and is looking for your brother or sister- lying about their whereabout is not that bad- you never knew what is the reason why an angry person is looking for your loved ones right? Assuming your brother or sister did something wrong- I still won't point my finger where my brother or sister is- I would prefer to talk with my brother/sister and ask about the truth. If proven he/she is wrong-I will convinced to settle the matter and won't consent whatever wrong doing he/she has done to anybody. So,if you think you did the right thing for that friend- have a peace of mind.

Hi Viju Religious Based response? Okay - Rama lied ( I do see his hiding and killing bali as a lie and also planning to kill Laxman for me is more gruesome than a Lie) and so did Krishna... So Gods (of Indian Mythologoy) Do LIE! And when they can why not we mortals. From conscience views - I am always in for anything that can make anyone smile - with only one string attached - what in the long run? Will that revert back and come as a shock or sad thing! If not, there is nothing from my viewpoint to be sorry about... And here is my original response - Lies white or black... are all fine as long as you dont get caught and when it is about bringing on smiles... there are more ugly lies that people tell... so forget all this and enjoy the fact that you could make a friend smile... now, be honest and let us know if the friend smiled coz your lie was caught! if yes, it defeats the purpose of the lie and you should join some school to master this one

you should do both. hehe thank God because your friend was not mad and be sorry for yourself because you told a white lie. a white lie, for whatever purpose still remains to be a lie, it's just up to the consequences if that would come out as bad or not that harmful.

I am more toward justice-kind of people. So I say you should be guilty for lying to your friend. But i think you do the right thing to give her a smile when she is feeling down. Just ask her for forgiveness later. If she appreciate you, she'll forgive you. If not, well, she is not suited to be a friend of yours.

Friend, you have to thank God that your friend is now ok, and at the same time you have to say sorry for telling lies. Because lying is not good even if your intention is to make them happy. Remember there’s always a serious consequence or effects of lying. One of this is trust, once trust is broken your relationship will be never the same again. And that person will never believe you anymore. Just take note this saying, “Honesty is the best policy.”