What are differences between you and your partner?

@Porcospino (18396)
Denmark
April 24, 2012 8:03pm CST
My husband is hoarder. He doesn't want to throw anything away, because he thinks that he might need it one day. Our basement is completely full of his stuff and he still drives around and picks up the things that other people don't need anymore. I am a minimalist. I have some things that I want to keep, but I don't like clutter and I give my old things away to friends or to charity. My husband wants to have lots of free time where he is able to relax and do the things that he is interested in. I am a hard worker, and I have often had more than one job. I don't mind working every day if I am trying to save up money for something important. My husband loves to spend money and every day he talks about the things that he wants to buy (a new car, a new camera, an ipod, a new cellphone etc) I am good at saving up money for travelling or other expensive things. I usually stick to the budget and I don't buy expensive things when I am saving up for something important. Our differences sometimes lead to arguments, but we love eachother every much and we have been together for 4 years. I think it is good thing that we aren't totally alike, because we can learn something from eachother and we compliment eachother. What are the differences between you and your partner? Do you think that those differences are an advantage or a disadvantage? Why?
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@obe212003 (2302)
• Philippines
25 Apr 12
I am old and she is young, and honestly the generation gap is a real big deal, lol! but on the other hand, although we really have opposing personalities, the law of attraction is really great. Like a magnet, opposites attract each other and bonds together, lol! I think that differences would surely tend to compliment each other to be completely whole.
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@Porcospino (18396)
• Denmark
27 Apr 12
My husband is also older than me. When I was in the first grade he had already finished highschool The age difference is not something that we think much about in our daily lives, and we get along really well. There are other differences between us as I mentioned when I started the discussion, and sometimes we argue, but I think that we are also able to learn from eachother. I think that we compliment eachother because we have different strengths. My husband says that he has learned a lot from me and I can say the same thing about him.
@obe212003 (2302)
• Philippines
29 Apr 12
That's the best part in any relationship, complimenting each other, filling up the space to make things whole, two parts bonding to work as one. Arguments are inevitable, but everything could be resolved or if not, it could be compromised. The best thing is learning from each other which i think is what makes us aware of how fortunate we are being able to learn from people we truly love.
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• Philippines
25 Apr 12
I think a relationship really works if the two people are opposite to one another but does their best to love each other. Me and my boyfriend too, we learn so much from each other. It's both a disadvantage and an advantage too. My boyfriend is a confident man. He has enough self-confidence, and self-esteem for himself. He's a positive-thinker and he's always focused on his goals. He's good in his studies. He's also good in saving money. He only gets few allowance from his mother but I always wonder how he always have enough money. I, on the other hand, is a very shy girl. I am often worried and not confident about myself. I'm a negative-thinker and I always doubt myself. Sometimes I'm lazy, and it shows in my grades in school. I'm also materialistic and I always end up being broke because I love spending my money on makeup, clothes, and shoes. We're totally the opposite of each other but it's good because he's the one motivating and inspiring me whenever I'm down. Because he's a very positive and confident guy, he's the one who always gives me the pep talk. He believes in me and makes me feel good about myself which is the best thing about him. He can also understand the way I spend my money. Sometimes he doesn't permit me to spend anymore when he knows I'm already spending too much. He also serves as my inspiration in my studies. Ever since he became my boyfriend, my grades in school has really improved!
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@Porcospino (18396)
• Denmark
25 Apr 12
It sounds like your boyfriend really understands you and supports and inspires you in many ways, that is great. I can see from your description that there are many differences between you and your boyfriend. I think that can be a very positive thing because you can inspire eachother and learn from eachother. I think that a confident person can be a big help when we are shy and not very confident. I used to be very shy myself, and my first boyfriend was a very outgoing and confident person. He taught me a lot and I became less shy during the time that we were together. He talked to new people all the time and through him I met a lot of new people, too and after a while I became better at talking to strangers.
• Philippines
26 Apr 12
That is really great. At least our boyfriends help us to become more confident of ourselves instead of making us feel insecure. Some guys are too confident of themselves which makes girls uncomfortable but our boyfriends just have the right confidence and it's healthy and beneficial for both of us. Thank you so much for taking the time to read my long response and commenting back. Thank you.
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@Lucas818 (377)
25 Apr 12
I'm a right-handed, she's a left-handed; I'm an organized person but she doesn't; I plan everything but she does thing out of sudden; I watch english series but she enjoys chinese drama. I'm a socialist that work 8 hours a day but she work more than 12 hours in a capitalist company. Anyhow, we go along pretty well, and I do agree that it is a good thing that both of us aren't alike.
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@Porcospino (18396)
• Denmark
27 Apr 12
It sounds like that there are quite a few differences between the two of you. I believe that differences can be a good thing. You can learn from eachother and compliment eachother. My husband is like you and he usually plans things well. I am a more spontanious person, and I like to do things without planning much. My husband says that he has become more spontanious since we met, and maybe I have also become better at planning things.
@ravipors (81)
• India
25 Apr 12
I think me and my husband different worlds. I am very dreamy person and expects everything to be perfect. He loves reality. I am more expressive and talkative but he is reserved type. I love poetry, fictions etc. He loves history, socialism etc. I spend more on jewels and dresses. He is strict with budget and wants anything simple. I make quick decisions, take risks and win things. He is very cautious, makes slow moves and really never care for the result. Beyond all these we share a great love and bondage. We have a lovely son, and a happy family. Our arguments don`t last long. He is very good at convincing me. I think differences are good otherwise you get bored. Same poles repel and opposite poles attract each other. If you share true love, these differences are nothing before it.
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@Porcospino (18396)
• Denmark
25 Apr 12
I think that some differences are a good thing, because the differences inspire us to learn from eachother. When we have different strengths and weaknesses we are able to compliment eachother. On the other hand I also think that it is nice when there are some similaries between us and things that we both enjoy, because that makes it easier to do things together and share things. I prefer a mix of differences and similaries. I can see from your description that there are many differences between you and your partner. When I look at the relationship between my husband and me I notice the same thing. We are different in many ways, but we still have a very good relationship and we respect eachother.
@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
25 Apr 12
Hi porsocpino Me and my wife are quite opposite of each other and I find this "being opposite" which bought us together and even what makes us stay together. I have always been a worst time manager, a worst money manager, someone who always lacks patience and my wife is 100% opposite of me. This not only completes us but also keeps the love sparks alive. To us, these differences between us are advantageous for our relation - they kind of complete what we lack in us. Though at many times, we do start arguing, discussing and even fighting but we do feel that these arguments etc are short lived and we overcome them quicker as we do respect and recognize the "individual" thing.
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@Porcospino (18396)
• Denmark
25 Apr 12
It sounds like you and your wife really compliment eachtother. I think it is great that you are able to use the differences in the positive way and benefit from them. I recognize the things that you write about arguments. My husband and I experience that, too. The arguments that we have are often caused by our differences. We have different ways of doing things for instanse when we decide which things to keep and which things to throw away. My husband is a hoarder and he wants to keep everything, I am the opposite kind of person, so we usually disagree about this topic. The arguments don't destroy our relationship, we don't always agree, but we love and respect eachother despite the differences
@surekharathi (14134)
• India
22 Oct 12
Hahahha....nice question every thing is different between me and husband but main difference is they are very less talkative and I am more talkative. He is more smart than me. He is shy and I am open thinking nature.
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@Iriene88 (5352)
• Malaysia
1 May 12
Every individual are unique in his/her own way. The differences as you says is like the magnet, where north pole and south pole attracts to each other. I and my husband have many differences. We had a huge age gap, so our thoughts and priorities obviously have a vast differences. He likes to read newspapers, take time to do every thing and I am an impatience type where things must be done as soon as possible. I love to live life and seize the moment. Every moment to me must be used fruitfully and in a special memorable way. I love to watch concerts, musical, theme parks and I appreciate artistic and nature's beauty. To him it is waste of time and money. So, I have decided in the future if he does not want to watch any musical, he can stay in the hotel room and watch the television while I and my son can go to those great musical and concerts.
@unique16 (1531)
• United States
25 Apr 12
I am like your husband. I am finally cleaning out the basement of old clothes from materinty when I carring my children to clothes from college and high school and old text books that I never even touch to old toys from my childhood. I picking through stuff of few things I still want to keep but not much. My children are really happy I am doing this. I also painting the upstairs. Did end room where my young daughter of 19 sleeps when she home and middle just been painted a tangerine color for my older daughter who graduates from college on may 12 and moves back in with me for while. Then I starting my room which I picked light green. Cleaned out there rooms and my room of old clothes and donated them to charity. I got rid of Movie camera, heater, old fans like 1970s etc... very old dresser that we would never use again. I am feeling better but a emotional toll deciding to let it go finally. My partner much more neat than me and like to fix things around the house for or gives me clues or ideas if I want to do by myself etc... he loves his showers and I enjoy my baths. We are both light sleepers too and morning people. He loves paying for things in cash and does not like makes sure he takes it back to get a refund... I am not always that quick to judge a item. I not very good sticking to a budget either...actually I hate it... I know I have do it to keep track of the money but it is really a chore for me. Thanks Unique16
• South Africa
25 Apr 12
Not much difference... A few that I can think of is he has a deep, loud voice, while I have a soft voice. Apparently, I whisper... instead of talk! It's just the way I am, although I try my hardest to speak a little louder, at times. He's the leader, while I'm the follower. It's funny because when I'm with my friends or back home, I'm the leader. Friends follow whatever I want to do. Don't get me wrong, he lets me make some decisions and suggestions, but I just like the way he leads. He is the white bread, while I'm the brown bread :D - he came up with that, as he is Caucasian and I'm Asian. When we have breakfast in restaurants/cafes, the waiter would ask if we would like brown or white bread, and he would say. "isn't it obvious? I like brown, and she likes white"... :D I feel that we both have more similar points than differences. We believe that we complement each other.