What are the usual preachings your parents keeps on nagging at you?

Calgary, Alberta
April 25, 2012 1:43pm CST
Its been seven years since I left my parents, well I still visit them but I aint going to live with them again. I think they will still treat my like a kid if I will still leave with them. Anyway by this coming weekend I will give them a visit, I wont give them money though, they cos they hve plenty... You I will just buy them some gift or something..... Back to the topic,what are annoying speeches that your parents keeps on nagging at you that annoyed you in your youth? I remember my mom and dad kept on preaching the same thing over and over again whenever they nag at me. What I hate the most is when I am not doing anything wrong, but they remembered a thing I did in the past, they will nag at me hard core.... what are things your parents kept on complaining about you?
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@bunnybon7 (31004)
• Holiday, Florida
25 Apr 12
mine was the usual and i should have listened for id be a lot better off today. one was stop having so many kids. there are times when i feel it was a mistake at least so early. anyway, now im having to live with them and try and make them listen to my advice so the tables have turned on me as it will them some day and they will see its not easy.
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• Calgary, Alberta
25 Apr 12
That doesnt sound like what a parents will nag to a teenager or a child, Did they nagged that at you as an adult who is married?
@bunnybon7 (31004)
• Holiday, Florida
26 Apr 12
i didnt explain that right. yes, i was about 18yrs when i had my second child and my mom started nagging about that then. now im nagging my kids i guess.
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• Calgary, Alberta
3 May 12
what are the things you usually nag at Coconut? she seemed like a very rebellious girl.
• Philippines
26 Apr 12
I think parents only do that because they still worry about us even if we don't live with them. They only want to be sure you're doing okay, and tend to set their expectations much low so in case they feel like they failed it wouldn't hurt as much. I'm used to my parents doing this. The preachings/sermons usualy evolve as I go along in life. Like now, my parents are bugging my husband and me to get married in a church. We're married by civil. But she still wants us to get married in a church. She went as far as calling us up for an appointment with her for the weekend to discuss some 'important things'. When we got there, she launched into a litany of the importance and significance of a church wedding. Of course, It's part of my parents wishes to see their only daughter properly wed. But with lack of understanding for the most part of the day, it can get annoying.
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• Calgary, Alberta
26 Apr 12
well at least your parents dont tell their autobiography over and over again everytime they nag at me. They kept on bragging how they were much a better person when they were younger.... I am having a headache whenever I remember those.
• Philippines
27 Apr 12
Oh that's a given. :) My mom never never can start a litany without having to compare me to her when she was young, or however it is that she met my dad. Or whatever she was able to do while she was at college. I just usually let her run that by me. I've given up answering back. Sometimes she likes living the moment when she was young so I let her have that. But you know that facebook photo where (I don't really remember much of it) but when you're 18 you say, I hate my mom, when you're 28 you say, I wish I was living with my parents. when you're 38, you say I wish my parents where here. I forgot the rest of it, but I so can relate!
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• Calgary, Alberta
3 May 12
I wish once I became a parent, I would be a cool dad not a grumpy perfectionist strict dad or a nagging dad. I want to have kids who will respect me as a parent and at the same time love me as a friend.
@doroffee (4233)
• Hungary
25 Apr 12
Mine is about tidying my rooms. I mean, they are not super messy, but my mom prefers rooms which look like a museum room, sterile and plain with absolutely no "junk" here and there on the desk for example.
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• Calgary, Alberta
25 Apr 12
Just to make things different,Have you seen the controversial 'facebook parenting' video. that video reminds me of my dad so much.
@ckyera (17235)
• Philippines
2 May 12
Hi Capt! When I was still a student, my mom often complains about me being difficult to wake up in the morning even if there's no classes! Times like that and specially when mom is not in the mood, she will then start talking about her younger years, when she's a student. She keeps on telling how lucky I am that I don't need to do this and that in the morning like cooking for breakfast and other things before going to school...hehe I get used to hearing those until I learned to ignore it. haha Now, its great that i no longer hear any nagging from my parents...I think these days I am already the one who nags at them...sometimes specially when it comes to some health issues.
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• Calgary, Alberta
3 May 12
Why do parents love narrating their "younger years" as a way of nagging to us. I thought my parents are the only ones like that. wow it seemed like you have a role reversal with your parents.
• Philippines
26 Apr 12
There have been a lot of things my parents would keep nagging about me.Like sometimes I don't feel doing laundry my mom would be like "blah blah blah". And during at weekends(the only time I could rest) she always tells me to do my chores even I don't feel like it and if I tell her I don't want to she'd be nagging about it like crazy and it drives me nuts! I always keep telling my self when I'm gonna get a job I'd swear I have to own my place and move out of here,but I still have to wait for that tho.
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• Calgary, Alberta
28 Apr 12
Hope you found that job and be free. Moving out is one of the best decisions I have ever done. My parents loved me more cos they miss me and at the same I appreciate them more at phone and skype cos at person they will nag at me again, I do love them though.They were still parents.
@annierose (17254)
• Philippines
26 Apr 12
My daddy is a quiet type of person. He doesn't nag me. When he sees something bad on me, he will direct it to my mom and my mom will be the one to confront me. Well, the things that always bothered my daddy are things related with my health. For example, too much staying in front of computers, taking a bath after hours of watching tv or in front of computer and staying too late at night.When it comes with my mom, she always nag me things related with my attitude. For example the way I treat other people or the way I spend so much whenever I have money. I know they just do it for my sake too so even I get irritated on it, I just calm myself and listen.
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• Calgary, Alberta
28 Apr 12
Is there improvements now? once of the things I learned on calming nagging parents is dont fight back, just shut up and absorb what they say. The nagging gets longer when we talk back. Even if we say sorry they will nag more. Just stay quiet and try to look guilty and you regret what you did. kinda works for me/
@thesids (22455)
• Bhubaneswar, India
26 Apr 12
Hiya captain They want me to grow and mature. Do some serious work - somewhere in an office - even knowing that I am medically restricted to drive, climb stairs and forced to stay at home.
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• Calgary, Alberta
26 Apr 12
stay at home.... now that reminds me of the times I sneak out of the house to hang out with some friends at the videogame arcade'
• Philippines
26 Apr 12
Of course i could still remember. Number one is going out with my peer group. They thought that these group could influence me in doing something bad and i will neglect my studies. Second is, to avoid the boys and i should not have a boyfriend yet until i have finished college. For them finishing a course is the most important. Third, not to stay late at night outside the house with boys and with my friends. They were so protective of me at that time or shall we say strict. Anyway, since i was younger at that time, i could not do anything but to obey.
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• Calgary, Alberta
26 Apr 12
I do obey orders,I think the preaching of things I had never even done over and over again get them on my nerves.
• Philippines
26 Apr 12
They kept treating me as a child even though I'm in my 20's. That's what annoys me the most. I can understand that they are just very caring towards me and my parents are over-protective. But they should give me some room, in order for me to grow and learn to be independent and responsible.
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• Calgary, Alberta
26 Apr 12
that is how they treat me too, even if I already moved out from them for almost a 8 years. but now they dont nag to me that much, maybe because I dont live with them anymore.
• United States
25 Apr 12
For me it was about my friends not being my real friends. I did not listen and soon I found out she was right and I left all of them alone. I almost got killed in the process but,i learned.
• United States
25 Apr 12
I would leave as well. I could basically wear what I wanted and she bought me what I liked as well.
• Calgary, Alberta
25 Apr 12
Can I say my parents are racist too, Remember Natalie with Blond hair and blue eyes... They discriminated her cos she is white. They think all white women are ....I wont even mention the word. I am sure if I dated a black woman My dad will disown me. there arte many things I dont agree with them. I bet if I still live with them,they will force me to marry a pastor's daughter who doesnt have a sexy bone on her body.
• Calgary, Alberta
25 Apr 12
@Jaiho...... you just gave my discussion a mature content tag..... teens would have been great for this topic.
• Philippines
28 Apr 12
Well, the usual things...I didn't clean up my room, My clothes and hair are wrong. I should style this and cut this even though I don't want it that way. being the stubborn child (as my mother once blurted in anger too many times), of course I didn't obey her and she keeps nagging at that. well, I guess I am headstrong and I still keep acting this way because I kinda 'missed' my parents when I was growing up. nobody minded my business then and I don't why they should mind my business now. But my mom and dad only visit us once a month so we kinds have less confrontations over things that we didn't agree on. What I hate the most is when I am not doing anything wrong, but they remembered a thing I did in the past, they will nag at me hard core.... I also have this issue against them - they seem to have a perfect memory when it comes to mistakes or misdeeds. That's why sometimes, I zone them out when they are in preaching mode. I mean, I did a wrong thing once and I learned from it but seem to think that I should be monitored so tat I won't happen again. As if I want them on my tail for every minute of the day. They seem not to move on over those kind of stuff. Everyone makes mistakes, even parents. it's just that they have the seniority and authority thing going and they know well when to practice it. Also, one little mistakes turns into litany of many things that of things that I even forgot. And they don;t seem to stop. I feel like I never done anything right. and if I did right, I get nothing. Seems like they only notice teh abd things and let the good things I do come unappreciated. Damn, I feel likr I talked to a shrink.
• Philippines
28 Apr 12
Sorry for the types. I got too much emotional, I guess.
• Calgary, Alberta
28 Apr 12
When my parents nag at me they have this piggy bank of mistakes (dont take that literally) as in when I do somethign wronmg, they will bring back my mistakes of the past that I did 5 years ago. Imagine when I was 15, they nag at me for things I did when I was like 8. That really pisses me off cos they keep bringing it over and over again. Then my dad, whenever an appliance got broken or an item got missing I will be the first person he will accuse, guest what I didnt do any of them, he just love accusing me. His wallet got missing and he accused me I stole it, when its actually on his effin pocket and he just forgot that its there,. i almost forgot he is my father.....I almost punched him..
• Philippines
29 Apr 12
well, I guess we share similar experiences when it comes to our parents. I am also so basically the person who gets blamed when things got missing or not does work the way they are supposed to to. In my teens, I learned to fight back in a way that I point up that other people besides me actually did them. I got fed up owning other people's mistakes.
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@doroffee (4233)
• Hungary
25 Apr 12
Mine is about tidying my rooms. I mean, they are not super messy, but my mom prefers rooms which look like a museum room, sterile and plain with absolutely no "junk" here and there on the desk for example.
• Calgary, Alberta
25 Apr 12
My mom also nags about doing my bed, folding my newly washed clothes, bathing the dog, walking the dog, how much she hates my pet cat, and yeah i have to clean my dishes too,. and when I do those, its still not enough,it has to be perfect.
• Philippines
28 Apr 12
looks like my mom is like your respective mothers. I hate it when she cleans because I felt that I didn't clean it beforehand. I'm not exactly as neat as a pin but I know to keep my spaces livable. Then, I get a light scolding over my 'cleaning'. Sometimes, I wish I signed to be chambermaid.
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• Calgary, Alberta
3 May 12
I am so glad I dont have fights with my parents again. I think my relationship with them is much better now.
@jaiho2009 (39084)
• Philippines
25 Apr 12
hello Capt, I think parents are really like that. I mean,I am also a parent myself now and when I nagged for my son who's the best kid I have among three, I use to give him a preaching about the past. Maybe because my son is still a young teener and needs to be reminded again and again since he keeps doing the same mistakes too. But in your case- well..that's another case. It seems your mom nags about the past because she has nothing to nag about the present (hehehe) My mom is like that- she can't say anything about what I am now- so, when is annoyed of other things,she nags about the past- just to vent out- sort of ohh....mothers
• Calgary, Alberta
25 Apr 12
being reminded over and over again with those preaching though annoyed the heck out of me and make me rebelled. I also hate the comparison thing....You know when your parents will try to compare their younger self to you on how much better they were, or when my mom will compare me to my other siblings.... I cant stand that.
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@jaiho2009 (39084)
• Philippines
25 Apr 12
I always avoid comparing my kids to each other -that's not good and won't help either. that will lead to hatred - I mean,one might start hating one due to comparison -so, I really avoid that comparison thing. Every individual has differences and no two individual not even identical twins will have exact duplication when it comes to behavior and attitude (not even with likes and dislikes)
• Calgary, Alberta
25 Apr 12
if she is not a nag and doesnt say those hurtful words, I would have still be living with my parents. Well at least they werenot nice to me when I gave them a visit, once in a while and they dont midn the clothes I wear or my hair cut.
• India
16 Oct 12
Nagging puts pressure on you to do something, but is not so outright aggressive that you can fight it easily. As the saying goes “Mother knows best. Actually my mother is not really nagging but teaching us what to do and not to do. They nag us when we commit the same mistakes over and over again.
• Calgary, Alberta
16 Oct 12
sorry but I dont think you get what the topic is.
@jureathome (5363)
• Philippines
28 Apr 12
I was generally a good daughter to my parents and I don't really remember any strong and annoying nagging from them regarding my attitude or activities. But, its my brother who got a lot of that. They always have to call his attention about his studies. I think that was just right for them to do that, since they're the parents and he needs guidance. Although, perhaps they could have done it differently each time, so that it doesn't get annoying.
• Calgary, Alberta
28 Apr 12
does he complain about it? I remember I tried my best to ride under the radar so I wont do anything wrong and they wont nag at me but they still notice me a lot....Those teenagers complaining they dont have their parent's attention should realize how lucky they were,,,,LOL