She wants another woman..

By Toni
@toniganzon (72317)
Philippines
April 26, 2012 8:31am CST
No she's not a lesbian! A friend of mine confided to me today that he almost lost his girlfriend because of a silly fight. She wanted to experiment with another woman and he felt so insecure. He thinks that he is not normal because other guys would die to see two women doing it but he doesn't. He doesn't like the thought of her doing it with another woman or a man as he only wants her for himself. What do you think about this? I mean would you allow your partner to do it with another gender?
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8 responses
• Valdosta, Georgia
26 Apr 12
My husband feels the same way about me! Lol. I am bi and my husband used to have a really hard time with it. He has no desire in having anything to do with it at all. He hates even the thought of me being with anyone else. It has nothing to do with him not satisfying me or anything like that, I have been with females since 8 years old. I am just attracted to women, cannot help it. My thought is the other gender has different parts than I do so I would not be mad, if he wanted another woman that would be a totally different thing!
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• Egypt
29 Apr 12
you are selfish as u make it right for you to be with any one what ever man or woman but its principle as u have a right also he have a right to make it with any one or u must stoping doing that
@toniganzon (72317)
• Philippines
27 Apr 12
Yeah if he wanted another woman it would really be a different thing! But your husband accepted you as you are. My friend feels a bit insecure telling me that he might not be satisfying her that's why she wants to experiment.
@Cranos (273)
• Belgium
26 Apr 12
Just out of curiosity, if your husband wanted another man it'd be totally fine then?
• United States
27 Apr 12
It is true, I think most men would love to hear this. But, I feel if the man has good morals it would probably be a turn off for him as she would be wanting to cheat with another person whether it be male or female. I hope she reconsiders and thinks of his feelings.
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• United States
28 Apr 12
But then again, there are reasons you love someone. So realistically if she wants to do something like this, it could change his feelings about her. Don't you think? I mean when I was with a guy I loved dearly, I ended up ending our relationship because there were a couple of things he wanted me to do in the intimate department having to do with adding others to the act, and I just decided I would rather not be with him. But you know, everyone is different. I am sure that some can really accept things that others can't.
@toniganzon (72317)
• Philippines
27 Apr 12
She is one lucky girl actually for having found a man who accepted her as she is. But she really wants to do it and i think he couldn't do anything but accept that fact since he told me he loves her.
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@albto_568 (1268)
• Costa Rica
26 Apr 12
I think that I wouldn´t like that either, I believe that if we are with one person, should remain with that person alone, this sort of things, are not as innocent as they might seems, all too often, leads to other things, and, sooner of later, come out, in a fight, or something, and can end an entire relationship. I think that I wouldn´t concent this.
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@toniganzon (72317)
• Philippines
27 Apr 12
Yeah i can understand your point. In fact they almost ended their relationship because that really made him so insecure.
@albto_568 (1268)
• Costa Rica
30 Apr 12
Maybe it was just a phase she was going through, yet, this sort of things usually grows stronger than we may expect, I hope they are fine now.
@vertu007 (683)
• Romania
27 Apr 12
Maybe he felt insecure about this and didn't want to loose her. Maybe she didn't say that he could watch, maybe she just wanted to be only the 2 of them. It's true that a lot of guys would want to be in bed with 2 women. Although I support that I don't know if I would be ok with it. But for people who feel fine with it I think it can be a nice experience.
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@toniganzon (72317)
• Philippines
27 Apr 12
He's a very conservative man and he told me he can't imagine seeing her with another woman. She's a bit wild but he loves her so much that he's willing to accept her as she is.
@arlera (86)
26 Apr 12
hi,it all depends on the persons involved some couples get a kick out of things like this,i definitely wouldnt.
@toniganzon (72317)
• Philippines
27 Apr 12
I wouldn't too. But she's that kind of woman and he loves her that much to accept her for who she is. I just don't know if he would really be able to handle it.
• United States
18 May 12
I couldn't allow my partner to do it with another gender, just as I know he would never allow me do the same. Even if it's 'experimentation' I could never be fully convinced to allow my partner to go through with anything like that. When you take the time to commit yourself to somebody, it should only be with one person. That person should be the only one you are willing to experiment with in my opinion.
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@toniganzon (72317)
• Philippines
21 May 12
I share the same opinion. But i guess to some people, it's quite normal to do that.
@KrauseHome (36449)
• United States
19 May 12
Personally there is NO way, and one of the reasons I had to call it off with someone I was engaged too many yrs. ago. I have always believed it should only be between 2 people a man and a woman, and personally it should wait til marriage because then the relationship is so much sweeter then. Personally even if that is his woman he wants, unless they are married, this could be warning signs of something lacking, and maybe he needs to examine his feelings more.
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• India
11 Oct 12
In my own opinion, I won’t allow my partner. The reason we are together means that we are enough for each other, and the demands will only tell that I am not enough anymore. But this is just for me, I know a lot of people that accepts this kind of open relationship.
@toniganzon (72317)
• Philippines
13 Oct 12
Same with me. I just can't take sharing my partner. But some people and their culture allow that and it makes them happy.