Sorry if, I do not respect older people ..are you respectable?

@jaiho2009 (39034)
Philippines
April 27, 2012 12:08am CST
I don't know how to express exactly what I mean. I myself is "old" thu life begins at "40" but the short life span makes 40 old already. So,let's clear things here- old maybe 70 (is that enough to call someone old?) I wonder why some "old people" demand for "respect" when they don't know how to respect others. Does it mean, younger people should/must respect the older ones? (always?) What if that "older person" is not respectable? This morning I heard an elderly woman nagging to a young lady in the market(maybe her daughter or grand-daughter- I do not know) Fine- she can nag at her, but she's cursing too (uh uh)in front of many people (it's a market place) The young lady suddenly burst into tears and shouted back at her (at the elderly woman) I don't want to justify the young lady's action, I don't want to blame the elderly woman as well. So,I leave the judgment to you dear mylotters. How do you respect old people, I know everyone respect the old- but how. And would you respect an elderly who always curse- and never use any good word (as if his/her tongue and mouth smells like grave) It's weekend again....enjoy weekend ahead dear mylotters "Learn to respect first before others do" jaiho®- remembering my grandpa's advise "respect the young ones and they will do the same" 4-27-2012 1:08pm Friday PT
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@lynboobsy11 (11347)
• Philippines
27 Apr 12
Age doesn't matter to me in terms of respect, even my own children I do have some respect with them in their private life. Specially the elders too. But sometimes it is hard to accept that the old since they knew that they are old it seem they already knew what life is, and the young ones has no right to be against with them. Which is not right every body has it's own opinion and we must respect it. In that situation even the older woman is angry with the young lady still she has no right to curse her in public even it is her own child. She can be angry and talk to her in private with only the two of them and not with in front of the others she is humiliated.
@jaiho2009 (39034)
• Philippines
27 Apr 12
hello lyn, Imagine an old person asking/demanding their young generation to respect them when they never show respect to those young ones. Yes, some old people believes they are always right and young ones are never been rightful. Some elders do not accept their mistakes too- don't say sorry all because they are older. My grandfather taught me to say sorry to my younger cousins whenever I did something wrong. I even say sorry to my kids when I know I am not in the right place. Regarding my topic- I find it odd when an old person cursed and say bad words. Does old age gives them the right to curse and become rude duh! Thanks and have a great weekend ahead
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@lynboobsy11 (11347)
• Philippines
27 Apr 12
Well we can't blame her but If I'm the one I would rather cry and go away. have a great weekend too.
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@jaiho2009 (39034)
• Philippines
27 Apr 12
I can't remember being rude to any old ones. I just can't tell right now what exactly will be reaction if same thing happen to me :x
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@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
27 Apr 12
I do agree, age is no difference here.. i mean you can demand respect at any age. I remember my encounter with the SSS lady again, i do not like to respect her even as she does not even know how to respect us. Do unto others, what other do unto you.
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@jaiho2009 (39034)
• Philippines
27 Apr 12
hello jazel, That's it, how can we pay respect if they do not know how to show respect. Sometimes, we cannot blame youngsters who grown up and become rude- because some old ones do not know how to show respect to them (youngsters) So,what would we expect then... :( have a great weekend and enjoy crafting
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@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
27 Apr 12
i am enjoying crafting.. hope i could upload the pics! well we really cannot blame the young ones now as i have seen so many who can retort that easily at their parents.. which i could never do.
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@jaiho2009 (39034)
• Philippines
27 Apr 12
waiting for those photos It is saddening that our young generation are getting wild and irresponsible, moreover, disrespectful :(
• Philippines
27 Apr 12
hi sis! just like what your grandpa has said, respect needs to be mutual. respect is given to those who know how to use it in the first place. regardless of age. public tongue lashing is so disrespectful especially using curses, unless the recipient is involved in a crime. i myself would be enraged if any of the kids in my family would talk back to the elders (their grandparents, parents, aunts and uncles). we don't do that. and we don't use curse words at home. not a good example for the kids. for me, any adult acting childish and unreasonable deserves less respect than those kids acting maturely and responsibly beyond their years. i can't help but compare my nephews and nieces sometimes. i have a 17yr-old nephew who whines about being treated like a kid. i told him, when he starts acting responsibly, he'll be treated like an adult. then there was a niece of mine who is 14 yo now but has earned my respect since she was 4 yo. at 4 yo, she has become a responsible kid who does homework first before playing, who arranges her own school bag as soon as she gets home from school, who doesn't make unnecessary demands beyond her parents capabilities, who never talks back to elders but can be assertive on occasion, who has never initiated a fight between her two younger siblings and has never given her parents any form of headache at all. cheers sis!
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@jaiho2009 (39034)
• Philippines
27 Apr 12
myles dear Honestly, my eyebrows arch I don't know maybe my eyebrows becomes one liner (lols) Goodness- I can take your nagging even in public place (if reasonable) but to curse me- that is way too ugh!!! Age doesn't matter when it comes to respect- this reminder is flashing back in my mind always (yes always) Anyway, the curvy lady is too busy now and out of reach (hahaha) plus stress = wrinkles (laughs again) Wish you a great weekend with hmmmmnn...."yummy"
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• Philippines
27 Apr 12
hahaha did the curvy lady said anything to yah? hahaha i believe she needs to prepare the day before the wedding, making her too busy until tomorrow. hehe you have a great weekend too. i guess the curvy lady's wards are already with you camping. hehe as for my weekend... hehe the yummy part has not yet started. i can settle for a cuddle, still would be yummy for me. but for now, i have just cooked some pasta for the kids... yum.
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@jaiho2009 (39034)
• Philippines
27 Apr 12
cuddle +yummy = whatever my son will pick the gang tonight :p I like pasta
@SIMPLYD (76513)
• Philippines
27 Apr 12
I feel the same as you Jaiho. Although, it is said that we have to respect our elders, but in that situation, i think anybody would react that way too. Good if it was done with you and the old woman present only. But, with other people around hearing what has been said to you in a humiliating way by the elderly, i think you will surely be pushed to your limit and forget respect to old people.
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@jaiho2009 (39034)
• Philippines
27 Apr 12
hello simplyD, That's exactly what I mean "push to the limit" No matter how respectful a person, if humiliated in public place, I am sure they can do unwanted and unexpected things in return. If the old woman has the right to curse (if they think so) that also justify the young lady's action. Sometimes elderly people forgot their manners. Thanks and have a great weekend dear
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@thesids (22448)
• Bhubaneswar, India
27 Apr 12
Hi di How do I respect elders - maybe offer them my seat in the bus... or even be polite to them when talking... there can be many things that would reflect the respect. Well, there are two sects of old people - one whom I know, and mostly they would always be respected (my parents, inlaws, relatives, parents of friends etc). And the second are the outsiders - unless I am quite sure that they dont deserve the respect, I will continue respecting and showing in some way or the other.
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@jaiho2009 (39034)
• Philippines
27 Apr 12
sids, You made sense with two sect of old people. Maybe you are lucky to have a family and kin of old people who are respectable. But some are abused by their own family- particularly the older ones. Well,there are few instances that young ones abused their elders. So, it's a case to case basis indeed. I always show respect to elders, as long as they are respectable. I won't show any rudeness- but it doesn't mean I respect them if they don't deserve such respect. Being un-respectful to elders doesn't mean being rude to them, but I have ways of disrespecting un-respectable folks. Have a great weekend ahead
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@sid556 (31018)
• United States
27 Apr 12
Treating people whether they are older or not, with respect is a whole different concept than actually respecting them. I was raised to treat everyone with respect and that included my peers, older people, younger people and animals as well. If someone was rude to me or disrespectful then I would never be right in being rude or disrespectful back. That just brought me to their level. I would "act" in a respectful manner but did I respect that rude person? NO! I did not. Two wrongs never make a right. Remember that little phrase? In the example given, they both are wrong. The older lady should NEVER have spoken to that child that way and most especially in front of others where it is humiliating for the child who probably doesn't know how to yet handle those emotions and it should have been humiliating for her. As a bystander, my sympathy would have probably gone out to the child who was still learning these lessons and I would have been disgusted with the older person who should have already learned them and be setting an example. Even if that child had been respectful, I can almost guarantee that the older person would never ever really be respected by that child and the child will not feel close to nor look up to her. Age does not give anyone the right to be disrespectful to anyone for any reason.
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@jaiho2009 (39034)
• Philippines
27 Apr 12
hello sid, That's what my grandfather taught me and that is what I am showing and setting example to my kids. I couldn't agree more with your response. Thanks and have a great weekend ahead
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@thesids (22448)
• Bhubaneswar, India
27 Apr 12
I agree with my namesake. She is right. Respect has to be earned @sid
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@sid556 (31018)
• United States
27 Apr 12
OMG...You guys are typing as I post. Love you both! My sids:
@marguicha (83819)
• Chile
27 Apr 12
I want to be respected and I surely think that I should respect everyone (no matter what age, cree, race, culture, genre, you name it). I don´t think people should be respected because of their age or because the car they have or their money ar their skin color. Unfortunatly, not many people respect others. Just read a newspaper or talk to the neighbor next door. We are all full of prejudices.
@jaiho2009 (39034)
• Philippines
27 Apr 12
hello marguicha, You are right ma'm- we should respect other regardless of age, race, color etc. Respect and be respected. If one doesn't know how to respect the others- should never demand any respect too. I agree, not many people know how to respect the others. There are people who are egoistic and doesn't show any respect even to their elders- moreover to other older people around them. thanks and have a great weekend ahead
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@marguicha (83819)
• Chile
27 Apr 12
It comes to my mind that "elderly" is an adjective as so many others that define people but not nessesarily separe them from the rest. So that youn man as opposed to elderly man is not an opposition, but something extra to visualise better the noun: man. And it´s human beings who deserve our respect.
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@jaiho2009 (39034)
• Philippines
27 Apr 12
human beings who deserve our respect
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@maharlikah (1045)
• Philippines
27 Apr 12
Respect begets respect. Respect is earned no matter what or how, no matter when or where and most of all, it is age doesn't matter. The older ones must be the model of this virtue. Just what your grandpa said before, that when we respect the young ones they will also pay us back what we give them.
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@jaiho2009 (39034)
• Philippines
27 Apr 12
dear amiga Glad to see you once again :) I cannot understand why some oldies can do such actions. I always look up to elders- as I thought they mellows as they get older and more patient. But it looks like in contrast to what I have known- or I am expecting too much from oldies. As they say young generations of today are rude, irresponsible,disrespectful etc. So, how can they (old ones) make the young ones becomes responsible, respectful etc if they (old ones) don't know how to show respect and be a model to them :duh! Thanks again amiga and wish you all the best ...
• Philippines
4 May 12
Thanks amiga. I wish all the best in life too. Haay I just do not know why they are like that. Their actions sometimes pave the way for us to disrespect them. But anyway, even though they are not doing the modeling thing, we can let them feel the need to respect everyone despite the age in order for then to be respected too.
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@MsTickle (25006)
• Australia
11 May 12
I was taught to respect my elders. That's all...there were no conditions...if you answered back, questioned their instructions or authority, ignored them or any of that sort of behaviour, you got a clip over the ear. Respect seems to be a forgotten word. A lot of younger people are so selfish they care only about themselves and have no respect for anyone. They don't show respect to anyone and they also don't teach their young ones, their children to respect anyone. If that young person was being yelled at she probably deserved it and got what she deserved...a tongue lashing. Why was the woman speaking to her that way...we will never know. It's not our place to guess or even judge people. So many things are being forgotten these days...respect is one, morals, standards, values, many traditions. It's the direction we are travelling now and we can try and hold on to these things but they will soon be gone.
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@jaiho2009 (39034)
• Philippines
12 May 12
hello Ms Tickle, That's it, one should show/teach/act as model to the young ones. I agree that on this modern day lot of people do forgot about manners. As we can see and read from the news- more of bad news than good ones. Thanks for your kind words and have a great weekend
• India
27 Apr 12
I am not so old according to you-i am just 20.Exactly 20 when it was January 2012.But i do have concerns wit these issues.Let me tell you what happened when i was exactly in my sixth standard.(grade) It was the day of Annual-the final examinations.We had our Language exam a day-and the next day my teacher asked my question paper(i wonder why she always preferred asking mine-but she would ask and i always would give it to her)So since it was the annual exam-no one would love to retain the question paper.So i lost my question paper somehow.Or maybe my friends tore it for that sake-the exam was over after all.The next day walking to school-my teacher asked me the question paper.So what i told her was i would bring it the next day. In the evening,i asked my best friends but they were all like me,who lost the question papers-some even tore it to pieces.So what i had to do was,i was going to ask that to one cunning girl in my flats-and she said she wants the question paper-so i told i would xerox it and give back.She said okay.Since my mom was working in the bank, and at that small age-i never knew where money was-i kept it safely at my house till my mom came.Then lo! Before mom had come, she came once and asked for the question paper.I said i would give it in a few minutes-immediately after mom comes-i would xerox it and give-i said. So then my mom came-i went for xeroxing with the money-i had to see her house before i went.She called me when i was going and her grandmother came out of the house--She said-'you are not giving the question paper of my grand daughter-and trying to hide it,eh?I will kill you with the sword-she said with a sword by her hand-to me(a 110 or 11 year old girl) So you could imagine how i reacted-i cried (being so afraid and friendly) and cried and gave the paper back,walked back to my home.Since that day,i would never respect her.Later on,as time passed, she came talking to me, but i always ended up with a non-smiling face. People are like this-so you could not just respect them easily!That old lady should not have cursed like that-okay i have done a mistake too, but what was she going to do with that Q.Paper after she was going to be promoted to the next standard?It's not math and science too!Why then would she need it?And what right has her grandmother got on me? So i will not and could not respect all elders.I will rather respect decent and good hearted people.May it be a year younger than me, i don't care because i have respect in my heart for them-not for these bad ladies!Whatever the case maybe-i am my grandma's best grand daughter-so is she to her grandma.That's it.She's nothing related to me. In my opinion-the younger lady has scolded back only when the elder one nagged at her.So fault is with the elder one.The younger one didn't respond or behave so,first. My mind says "Give respect;take respect" So you respect me, i respect you, you kick me, i kick you too! But when it comes to some ladies (old) who are really on the right side but are being cheaply treated by the younger ones-then i wholly support the old.And when they are disabled as well-i would support them.Only when they are going to be 'right' you could see me supporting them. But i respect all my elders-like my mother,grandmother,and family members.They have all proved to be a signature of the times.Gem of persons and i would support them and 'ONLY them' whatever be the situation!
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@jaiho2009 (39034)
• Philippines
27 Apr 12
hello shrinithi, Thanks for this novel (hehehe0 just kidding. I wonder why that granny wants to kill you all because of her grand daughter's question paper (lols) Okay fine, maybe her grand daughter tells something "story tell a lie" to her granny that makes the old lady become a "ninja" (opps- sorry, I don't mean to be rude :p ) Back to the topic, I think the same. The young lady wouldn't act like that if only the old woman gives her a little respect. The old woman can wait till they get home and there she can shout her lungs out- bur cursing (that's one bad attitude that pissed me off) I am not used to hearing cursing (my folks never cursed no matter how angry they are) I do respect my elders too and always respect them -not because they are my elders, but because they show'd and teach me how to respect. So, I am paying the same thing. Have a great weekend ahead
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• India
28 Apr 12
Yes she indeed is clever,cunning and selfish.No doubt she was doing NINJA work there but then i didn't have this emoticon to tell she was a ninja (lol).. They showed and taught you how to respect.. That makes them elders after all..So so cool!The young lady has no mistake in her again i would say.It was all because of the old lady.not all are like that.But there are some and never can be called "elders".Elderly qualities-are present only in some,not all.
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@rekhum (2435)
• India
27 Apr 12
I respect elderly people...Luckily, for me I have not came across of any elderly swearing/cursing at me. If it happens, I'd really talk to the elderly in person. lol.
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@jaiho2009 (39034)
• Philippines
27 Apr 12
hello rekhum, I will talk to the person too and ask why he/she needs to curse me in public. I cannot tell what exactly will be my reaction if it happens to me... :P Thanks and have a great weekend ahead
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@SViswan (12095)
• India
27 Apr 12
Though I generally believe in respecting elder people and teach my kids the same, I've been in the kind of situation that you mentioned and it's really hard to be respectful to the person's age. Even though it is judgemental, I think I would justify the young girl's actions. It isn't the ancient ages to nag and curse in public (I don't even condone it in private ...but it's easier to handle in private).
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@jaiho2009 (39034)
• Philippines
27 Apr 12
hello SV, So long my dear, glad to see you again in my discussion Honestly- I cannot say how would I react if someone old/elder will ever treat me that way. Especially if I haven't done something that will justify such action. Like what you say - it is easier to handle in private. And yes, the cursing- that's what made me feel like "ugh- does being old give them the reason to curse in public" :xx Thanks again and have a great weekend
@viju0410 (2286)
• India
27 Apr 12
Hi Respect is something very hard to earn but easy to lose. If I have to respect someone especially according to their age/look then I would definitely expect him/her to be polite with me. I always treat the seniors with respect and until unless I don’t give respect to juniors, how will they respect me. if someone is ill treating me for no reasons, then definitely whatever good he/she do to others, respect will not come from my heart for that person...
@jaiho2009 (39034)
• Philippines
27 Apr 12
hello viju, Absolutely! No matter how other people respect a certain person- if he/she never respect me-how can I respect him/her. I know a few who looks respectful to other people because he/she treated them well,unknowingly to others that, that person is mean to others who knows him/her well. People can pretend to be respectful to others- but cannot deny their real behavior to people who knows him/her. Age is not a matter when it comes to respect. We should show respect to younger ones to teach them and be a good example. In such a way, we do not need to ask respect from them. Thanks and have a great weekend ahead
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@sukumar794 (5047)
• Thiruvananthapuram, India
27 Apr 12
Older people especially those senior citizens(people over 60 years of age) deserve all the attention, care and respect from the entire society. In fact respect for elders is a virtue much adored in most societies.
@jaiho2009 (39034)
• Philippines
27 Apr 12
hello sukumar, I always respect the old ones, moreover the senior citizens. Actually, I love being with seniors- they're caring and I've learned a lot from them. Sometimes I hang out with seniors when we held special function for the "elders". Thanks and have a great weekend ahead
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@sjvg1976 (16849)
• Delhi, India
27 Apr 12
Hello Jaiho, I always respect older people hardly matters what they say even if they curse me i don't care i just listen from one ear and let it go from the other one.I understand when one gets old his/her body and mind gets dull and he/she does not know what they are talking/doing so let them do it its not their fault. Hope that young lady had realized it once she would have reach home but of course that old lady should not have done it in the market place.
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@jaiho2009 (39034)
• Philippines
27 Apr 12
hello sj, I was taught to respect my elders and old people. As I grow up, I've met few old ones that seems not respectable. Of course I don't shout at them or I was never been rude to any one, but in my mind I am feeling rebellious- how to respect bad old people. I understand about aging, how elders become too sensitive and moody. But it's not the main reason- there are old people who really are acting too bad. Thanks and have a great weekend ahead
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• United States
27 Apr 12
I will say always respect your elders. Personally if someone spoke to me like that I would tell them off. I demand better treatment than that..
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@sid556 (31018)
• United States
27 Apr 12
I don't agree with you on this, Gifts. Age shouldn't matter. I was always taught to treat everyone with respect and respect is earned and not by your age but how you treat others.
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@jaiho2009 (39034)
• Philippines
27 Apr 12
@ gabc, I agree that the young lady should be treated better and I demand the same too. that won't be a big deal if my elders will nag or preach the whole day- but please not in front of many people and -cursing- no please :x Have a great weekend ahead
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@jaiho2009 (39034)
• Philippines
27 Apr 12
@ sid, That's what my grandfather taught me- respect first before others do,and age is not the main concern as well.
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@else22 (4319)
• India
4 May 12
I am the one in my family who is known to be respecting elders.I never hurt or disrespect them.Still I know many old people who are just cheats and unbearably cunning.They are my neighbors.I don't know you would believe me or not if I tell you that they would not think twice before harming you even if you respect them by heart.I have seen them abusing their own parents when they were alive.They are old,but not respectable at all and I don't and can't respect them.
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@jaiho2009 (39034)
• Philippines
5 May 12
hello else, No matter how we want to respect them if they don't show anything respectable about themselves- we just can't. And it doesn't mean you/we are bad for not respecting them. If they can't respect others- let them and all we can do is avoid those kind of people. There are few people I know who are old but acting so bad. Thanks and have a great weekend
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@else22 (4319)
• India
5 May 12
Yes,'avoid them'.You are right.I don't respect such people,but I don't insult them either.I just ignore them.Being old does not always mean being respectable.
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@jaiho2009 (39034)
• Philippines
5 May 12
Yah, being old does not mean anyone has the right to demand respect. It is so sad that, some old ones who should set examples to younger generation are the one's showing bad examples.
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@riempie9 (1026)
• South Africa
12 May 12
Why only old people? Why not respect for everybody even if they are older? I am 65; look at my picture. Do I look it? First define old or older. You can be 25 and be old depending on your outlook on life and your views. And you can be 65 with a healthy mind and attitude and be gorgeous. Would you call Meryl Streep or Helen Mirren old? Okay, maybe Judy Dench - but why so wrapped up in old? You mention the age 40 and feel you are old. Balderdash! If you think you are old, you are. I am hip and forward thinking and work as hard at my writing as when I first started, if not more. Look at my writing. Does it seem jaded and old-fashioned? - although old-fashioned is not bad.
@jaiho2009 (39034)
• Philippines
12 May 12
hello riempie, I am not here to debate with your comment- but did you ever read the whole content? anyway, thanks and have a good day :p
@riempie9 (1026)
• South Africa
12 May 12
Yes, I read the whole comment Jaiho. Did I miss something? Please let me know... and sorry if I did.
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@betlynfrnds (1138)
• United States
30 Apr 12
I go out of my way to respect people of all ages. However, it's not always automatic. There's a Bible verse that talks about gray headedness being a crown of beauty when it is found in the way of rightousness. So anybody, young or old, who demands respect better be thinking about treating others with respect as well. I avoid people who don't know how to treat others kindly.
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@jaiho2009 (39034)
• Philippines
3 May 12
hello betlyn, Yes, anybody who deserves respect should be respected, regardless of age. It doesn't matter if the person is older or younger, respect must and should be given to people who deserves the right. Older people who admit their mistakes and ask apology to younger ones gain more respect and honor from the society as well. Thanks and have a good day
• United States
10 May 12
It really is that simple. We all make mistakes and it takes a humble person to admit them. It's so much easier to respect people who respect themselves. Admitting that you are wrong and trying to make necessary changes to improve the situation is the type of person who respects themselves. I, in turn, can easily respect them. I hope you have a great day too.
@Kalyni2011 (3503)
• India
13 May 12
Always respect the elders, teach this to your kids from the very childhood, if you ever visit our home, you will see Subhee and Bishu will touch your feet. Hugs from maa to Jane beti HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY Sorry for late response.
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@jaiho2009 (39034)
• Philippines
14 May 12
dear maa, I do respect my elders, my grandfather taught me to respect everyone. My grandfather taught me to respect first, even the younger ones to teach them (younger) to respect everyone as well. Age doesn't matter when it comes to respect. I really wish to see Shubee and everyone in person