Being talkative

Bulgaria
April 27, 2012 3:01am CST
Hi,MyLotters! A new friend of mine said that when she first met me she thought I was very quiet and reserved because I tend to be silent in front of strangers because I'm shy.But then,according to her, after she got to know me she discovered that I was an unstoppable chatter box.She,on the other hand, also talks nonstop but she is very social and I believe she never felt shy in her entire life.So,my question is what kind of person are you?Are social,talkative,shy,silent...Do you behave differently in front of friends and strangers and do you behave online the same way (conversation wise) as you would face to face with the people you talk to?And are there days in which you feel more like talking to everyone and days in which you'd rather not say a single word?
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@annavi23 (6306)
• Philippines
30 Apr 12
That can be an impression on me on my friends back then when we first met. I was a silent type and shy at first but when i get to chat with you and be able to know you, I will become a normal chatter and when we became close, I will become a normal hyper mode. Not so hyper cause I am not that energetic at times... Well, yes I do tend to behave properly and i'm not that sociable where anyone can be friends that instant. I only have few friends who i share my secrets with. But i do have to be sociable at times when it has to...
• Bulgaria
30 Apr 12
The more I read the replies to this discussion the more I convince myself that I'm not alone in this matter.I really want to be more sociable when I have to,like you,but I find it pretty hard to get over my shyness.
@annavi23 (6306)
• Philippines
2 May 12
I know you'll get over it. Get into sports or participate more in what you love doing. take dancing classes or singing lessons, whatever you like. Having more people around you and always being with them can help you more of being sociable. Shying away cannot help you unless you let it...
@ckyera (17261)
• Philippines
2 May 12
vi, I wonder what will happen when we finally meet each other in person...haha who will talk first?
@ckyera (17261)
• Philippines
29 Apr 12
Hi ShadowSky! I think I am like you. Most of my friends said that their first impression on me is that I am a quiet type but after we spend time together things will change because the talkative me will come out. Its rare that I started a conversation with people that I newly met, but I'm trying my best to be more sociable because I know that I have to. But since the real me is the quiet type(at first) its really not easy to change. hehe and yes, there are also times that I don't feel like talking to anyone, even my husband! haha
• Bulgaria
29 Apr 12
I'm also trying to be more social but since I'm actually pretty shy I end up either feeling a little awkward or sounding a bit TOO cheerful.But I think I am getting more social after all so I guess it's working.
@annavi23 (6306)
• Philippines
30 Apr 12
ckyera, is it true that there are times you don't want to talk to anyone even your husband? Hmmmm...sounds like me huh? Well, there are times I also don't like to talk. Not to my family or even single person. I just don't want to. There are times I have a mood like this. Seems like I also don't want to have phone calls. But there are people who are close to me who doesn't know that side of me so they keep on complaining why don't you answer my calls? I don't know. I just don't want to talk to anyone. even my family members who are with me in the house. But of course, I have to talk to others always, right? there's just this mood I can't avoid at times...
@ckyera (17261)
• Philippines
2 May 12
hey vi, I think we are the same on this matter. yes it's true that there are times that I don't feel like talking to anyone, even to my husband, even to my parents when I am still with them. Such mood creates a lot of misunderstanding between me and people around me, sometimes they think that I am angry or what, but as time pass by and as they know me more, they come to understand me. Like my mom, before, she always complains why I don't talk or why I talk very little, and she gets mad when I am like that and when she ask me why I act like that I will just say nothing, I just don't feel like talking...haha Thanks that my mom come to understand me and learned that when I am quiet, they just don't talk to me, they just wait for me to start a conversation and wait when I am back in being talkative in the family again... So people who knows me well already know how to handle me, people who don't know me much...misunderstood me and think bad about me...haha
@vaishnavc (556)
• India
5 May 12
Yea i am like that too. My friends.They used to tell me too. People who are strangers say that i have a big attitude or something.I mean i am not shy.But i don't go start conversation with any stranger.Whoever that maybe. But with friends,i am not like that at all.I am always bugging then or they are bugging me.Or we are messing with each other of having fun most of the time.
• India
5 May 12
Hey..I just posted my 200 post.And i did it in your discussion itself.
• Bulgaria
6 May 12
When talking to strangers I always behave very seriously and try to think before I speak but once I think someone is my friend I also relax and start to show a my fun side little by little. By the way,thank you for posting your 200th post in my discussion,it makes me feel sooo flattered and kinda warm inside :)
• India
6 May 12
Yea..Just imagine if we go and behave as if you are friends with strangers. And You are welcome.
@prashu228 (25614)
• India
27 Apr 12
i am very reserve kind of person , with strangers, but as i tend to know them, i open up,..being online is completely different from face to face...
• Bulgaria
27 Apr 12
It not all that different. Shy people open up more online but in the end their opinion remains the same as well as the things they say although there are people who adopt an entirely different personality online.
@prashu228 (25614)
• India
27 Apr 12
i am not shy personality , i am just reserved....what i mean in my message was, people wont behave the same way online,, , as they behave when face to face...
• Bulgaria
28 Apr 12
I understood your response perfectly and I mostly agreed with it and also gave shy people as an example and not a suggestion that you are shy.My point was that the people won't behave ENTIRELY different,they still have the same character and opinion after all. Thank you for responding!
@Dominique25 (9475)
• United States
27 Apr 12
I think that I'm in the middle. I can talk but I'm not overly talkative. And it depends a lot on the subject at hand. Generally I'm comfortable talking with people and I don't mind starting a new conversation with others. But I'm not the type of person who just keeps talking. Online I think I talk often like at mylot.It's a social site and that's how others get to know me. I have to express my thoughts and feelings.
• United States
20 May 12
lol. I understand what you are saying. It's nice to have someone that we can talk to for awhile. After all we all enjoy good conversations. And if you talk a lot I'm sure you have a lot to say.
• Philippines
27 Apr 12
It's really confusing. I'm just naturally a shy and silent type of person. When I was a kid until I get to high school, I've always been shy and quiet, there are times when I've become noisy and talkative too but that's just rare. In college, that's when I become more talkative and noisy. I don't get shy or quiet anymore. It's like I have slowly got to be talkative and noisy. Sometimes I still get shy and quiet too but that's just rare. I'm more noisy now especially when with close friends.
• Bulgaria
27 Apr 12
I've always been a motormouth around friends but as I get older I also seem to be like you-I get less and less shy as the years pass.Besides that it's only natural that people get more loud and open since the older you get the longer you've known your friends,that's what I think anyway.
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• Philippines
28 Apr 12
Yes and also as we get older, we get more confident of ourselves that's why we get less and less shy.
@celticeagle (119060)
• Boise, Idaho
27 Apr 12
When I was young I was very very shy and even ran into the house when I saw the mailman coming. After I had my child I would have her do things because I was still shy. I do talk when I need to just am not very social and am happy that way. I do act differently with people I know and with strangers. I think it is smart not to talk alot until you know a person anyway.
• Bulgaria
27 Apr 12
I was also incredibly shy as a little kid but when I grew up some of the shyness went away but I still keep a wall between me and strangers.
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@celticeagle (119060)
• Boise, Idaho
28 Apr 12
I'm pretty much the same way.
@berting600 (3458)
• Philippines
27 Apr 12
The first encounter to anyone is that you are tame and precautionary because you try to adjust who you are talking to.I am also like that but I am also a talkative one when I got to know anyone I meet especially when the person is also approachable and friendly.
• Bulgaria
27 Apr 12
I guess everyone is like that more or less but there are people who instead of getting more talkative just show their more vulnerable side...
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• Philippines
28 Apr 12
Being talkative is just playing of being friendly and hospitable.Others are just shy that is why they can not show how talkative they were or they are just not really talkative.
@ryanong (9694)
• Vietnam
5 May 12
I don't talk much in the beginning time to meet strange people. However, i will talk more later, especially that guy's talk matches to me. I am not talkative but it depends on who i am talking with. Sometime i feel so bored to talk with this guy but talk much with that guy.
• Bulgaria
6 May 12
You're right. The topic of the discussion and how interested you are in it is definitely important and has influence on behavior.
@megamatt (14327)
• United States
29 Apr 12
I tend to be rather reserved. I won't want to go as far as to say that I am shy, but I choose my words rather carefully. I believe in only saying things when I feel that it is necessary to be said. I don't really tend to be one that just talks for the sake of talking but I don't hold back if I really feel like there is something that needs to be said. I guess compared to some people, I don't talk that once. There are just some people that won't shut up, unless they lose their voice and even then, bless their hearts, they would still try and press forward the points that they were trying to make. To me, there are some situations, where I just keep my mouth shut and my ears open, because you tend to learn all kinds of interesting things at that point.
• Bulgaria
29 Apr 12
It seems to me like you have found the golden mean,as people in my country say,between saying to little and saying too much. I don't talk so much as to never stop I just like to exaggerate that trait of mine so I can see how you can get annoyed with someone who doesn't know when to stop talking.
@lkbooi (16101)
• Malaysia
28 Apr 12
Hi ShadowSky, it depends on the situation then. We would have lots to chat with if we come across people who have common interests. It doesn't matter the opposite is an old friend or a stranger lol....Yeah, this is the moment to come to know how talkative I'm It's the same to meet online friends as well. It would be rather tedious if there isn't any interesting topic to share with and just keep on greeting with meaningless words. Happy posting and have a nice day
• Bulgaria
28 Apr 12
You're definitely right about that. I guess the discussion itself is a pretty big factor and if something is interesting for somebody s/he would open up even to people more as his/her opinion on the topic is stronger and clearer and definitely requires more words and involves talking more.
@doroffee (4230)
• Hungary
27 Apr 12
I feel the same. When I first meet people, I'm really shy and quiet... but if I learn to trust someone or feel relieved in their company, you have to shoot me down if you want to stop me talking :D...
• Bulgaria
27 Apr 12
I guess you are just like me.Strangers don;t believe it when my friends tell them I'm impossible to shut up once I start talking about something that interests me.But then when people get to know me they discover that i talk even when I sleep. :D
@almond24 (1250)
• Hungary
27 Apr 12
I have always been a shy and reserved person. Sometimes it's better and I can open up, especially among friends, but even with friends I stay rather silent if there are more people than three or four. Sometimes when I'm in a good mood I can be chatty. Even though I can express my thoughts more easily if I write them down, I remain shy online, actually I'm much more friendly in real life.
• Bulgaria
27 Apr 12
This is an interesting inversion of the usual case.I've always thought that people open up much more when they will not be held responsible for their actions and everyone online is basically anonymous so people express their opinions and flirt and chat more and generally get more talkative and friendly.
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