My Lady Fathima..

@vandana7 (59038)
India
April 29, 2012 10:33pm CST
Almost 40 odd years ago, I was on bed with chicken pox..my palms filled with blisters of chicken pox...and wherever I looked at my body there were these blisters. My head was filled with these blisters as well. So I couldnt comb it. I was not allowed to bathe so I must have been stinking. The nuns isolated me ..which is something I would have done too..so dont read something that is not intended. I used to get a few slices of bread with strawberry jam and milk..day in and day out...and I hated holding it in my hand. So this apostle..her name was Fathima. She couldnt have been more than 4 years older than me..used to patiently sit ..apply the jam on bread..dip it in milk and feed me. Was she not scared of chicken pox? Why should she have done that for me? Was she not disgusted at the way I was looking? From where did she get so much love in her.. I just feel thankful to her today on April 30th, 2012. Because she fed me in one April - for almost a fortnight. I never met her as a grown up. I remember her often. Just wanted to share this with you all.
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@sid556 (31018)
• United States
30 Apr 12
Brownie! You actually MET her??? This is so cool...tell us more. The stories of this lady are just so amazing but I've never ever spoken to anyone who met her personally. I think I just gained a new level of respect for my little brown friend. Ok no more mush. How did she hold so much love in her heart and not be repulsed? Easy. When you love and care..you don't even see things that might be repulsive to others...you just don't.
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@sid556 (31018)
• United States
30 Apr 12
I'm never talking to either of you guys again.
@sid556 (31018)
• United States
30 Apr 12
not ever!!! Suny...I've been kind to you and this is how you treat me????!! Brownie...i actually don't expect more from and I was actually patronizing her when I said I respect her. You I did expect were of a different caliber. Guess not. Have fun you two.
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@sid556 (31018)
• United States
30 Apr 12
Brownie...just go hide yourself somewhere where I can't find you and forget to come out. Ok? Oh and take your little friend with you to keep you company.
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@thesids (22378)
• Bhubaneswar, India
30 Apr 12
Hi vandana The Lord up somewhere, always ensures to give us the courage to bear the pains He showers upon us and if He feels that we do need someone to assist, He appears in some form or the other. I always assumed it was a Myth and something to console and keep going. But when I fell ill and was bed-ridden for 8 long months, my wife was by my side - feeding me, cleaning me and doing everything. I am glad you had Fathima by your side when you needed someone. I can understand those feelings of thankfulness but what shocks me is that you two never met again after those days. But a fond remembrance does tell me that - if you believe in rebirths - next birth you two are going to meet again. you do mention - Was she not scared of chicken pox? - obviously NOT, maybe she had already had Chicken Pox - it doesnt happen to anyone who has it once or if it is my belief - then she was God Sent and was better prepared Not to think or have it from you. Why should she have done that for me? - If she was your friend, she was a true friend - who never bothered about the consequences but always believed in what the word means and she was a true friend. I wish you could find her someday somewhere.
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@vandana7 (59038)
• India
30 Apr 12
thesids..honestly there were things I never really understood in that period of my life. I mean part of it was trying to master English well since I came from Hindi medium school, and part of me was growing up and not having anybody whom I could talk to. 8th standard final exams - so nearly 9th standard. That must be near 13 years. I did feel grateful to her..but nuns differentiated and kept apostles away from us. When I'd joined the hostel I was told those who are orphans are kept that way. So initially I lied that my mother was alive. Now you know why I understand an average German when jews were being exterminated. I didnt want to be made to do all the chores like washing clothes, cleaning kitchen, cooking in kitchen, washing vessels, and eventually getting a different type of food to eat. The worst part was wiping away the spoons because the cloth used to stink and I cant stand that stink to date. I told me I would never do it. I was running temperature - almost constantly high temperature and feeling hot and sweaty and itchy..I was too selfish may be. I really didnt know how to reward her because i had no money. It is one of those things that makes you feel I wish I had done something for her. She was from a poor family obviously. I didnt know people differentiated based on financial status!
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@sid556 (31018)
• United States
30 Apr 12
"too selfish"??? ya think??
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@sid556 (31018)
• United States
30 Apr 12
Hi sids... Sorry for the above but if you glance down, you will see how mean she is to me and now she has her very tiny little following joining forces with her.
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@KrauseHome (34152)
• United States
30 Apr 12
I am sure these are some fond memories, and one should always wonder what ever happened to someone like this. Many times I feel things happen in our life for a reason, and even if we do not know why, it is Good to remember these and be Thankful for them.
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@vandana7 (59038)
• India
30 Apr 12
I wish I get to meet her sometime..and thank her for her kindness.
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@KrauseHome (34152)
• United States
30 Apr 12
You never know what life might bring. Have you ever asked your family about her, and her last known name? Maybe she is on Facebook?
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@vandana7 (59038)
• India
1 May 12
It is a long story actually..I came from Hindi medium to English medium school. Initially, I couldnt understand anything that was spoken to me. One girl, Aruna befriended me. That was in sixth standard. I was about 10 years old or so, and financially naive. I'd asked her why apostles are kept separate and why they had to do all the work. And she must've run short of Hindi word to explain it to me, or she must've presumed it - whatever the case, she'd told me that they were orphans. Because of this, for a long time I was under the impression that apostles were orphans. I went to the extent of concealing the fact that I had no mother. It was only much later that I was caught and things were explained to me, and by the time, I could really understand English a bit. But in the meanwhile, I'd accepted that orphas are being made to work - like child laborers. I'd seen that in my aunt's place down south. So I didn't want it for me. I didnt mingle much with them till much later.
@kalav56 (11503)
• India
30 Apr 12
I am touched by that lady Fathima. Some are born gentle and selfless.From where did she get so much of kindness and love in her? Very valid question.GOd bless her!I wish you ahd the opportunity to connect with her once again somehow.BTW,which was the boarding school you attended Vandana?
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@vandana7 (59038)
• India
30 Apr 12
Mary Immaculate Girls High School.
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@vandana7 (59038)
• India
30 Apr 12
Borivali. :) Hoping she ges in touch with me some how. :)
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@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
30 Apr 12
Bless her then. But she must be immune to it, or had chicken pox before as i know you get immune after having it for the first time.. or her faith is strong plus when you help people you would not choose whether he / she has a sickness or disease if you want to help you will help. I had chicken pox before as well, i was pregnant with my middle child on my third trimester. It was awful. Itchy and all but i still took a bath my doctor didn't really prevent me from bathing instead asked me to bath as long as i didn't have fever as it will cleanse my body more.. but it was my hubby who stood by me that time, he patiently give me food as well and helped me bath as the blisters were painful. I still had scars from it, in my face and hands...
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@vandana7 (59038)
• India
30 Apr 12
I had a really bad bout..I was completely covered head to toe and I had fever because of which doctor said no. It was so bad that he suspected whether it was small pox so he sent for blood test in those days. Many of the boils had coalesced to form larger ones and palms were filled with them. I didnt want to see me in mirror, I covered my hands with handkerchief because I didnt want to see those boils. :) She may or may not have been immune to it. But come on..it is not easy to be serving a person who looks so bad.. especially a girl who must have been barely 16 or 17 herself. God truly bless her. Today I am truly praying with my whole heart for her. :)
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@vandana7 (59038)
• India
30 Apr 12
sorry.. it should have read ..."because of which doctor said no bath".
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@Devilova (5396)
• Indonesia
30 Apr 12
The one that love to us is not always the one that we love. The one that care to us is not always the one that we care. Sometime its all too late when we could figure it out.
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@vandana7 (59038)
• India
30 Apr 12
Yeah ..when we realize it - it becomes all the more painful because in some way we start caring for them and do not realize we cared. I hope we meet sometime. :)
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@Devilova (5396)
• Indonesia
30 Apr 12
And sadness is when we could figure it out. Everything has change. All we could do is regrat it when we remembering the past.
@Micmac (7098)
30 Apr 12
God is always there to look after children and He extends His care for them. Fathima was your guardian angel looking after you and helping you while you were sick. What a great blessing! Now you have fond memories to cherish of Fathima who has the heart of gold. Her kindness reminds me of a person who is concerned to not just live and let live... but live and HELP live! thanks for sharing this heartfelt moment luv.
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@vandana7 (59038)
• India
30 Apr 12
More than 40 years later..I still remember her face..She set a bar for me. I too should not hesitate when any sick person needs help.
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@momof3kids (1903)
• Singapore
30 Apr 12
Hmm since we are reminiscing, I shall share my story too. Mine is called My Dear Johnson. Long time ago when I was seven, I have the pleasure of sharing a class with an Indian boy whose name is Johnson. I was made a group leader and dear Johnson fell in my group. That time the teachers were allowed to do whatever to discipline the pupils and we (Johnson and I) were 'lucky' in getting one of the fiercest teachers in school. This particular teacher has had no qualms in slapping the pupils. One day one girl in my group refused to follow what the teacher had instructed. As a group leader it was my duty to make sure she did. But she remained stubborn and i got called up for her mistake. As the teacher was getting angry (from my denying) and was going to slap me, Johnson stood up and told the teacher that i had told her what to do. The next part was a blurr because I think I was quite faint from fright. I was sure I didnt thank Johnson. I regretted everytime I thought of it.
@vandana7 (59038)
• India
30 Apr 12
Yeah it must have taken guts for a seven year old to stand up. And the teacher..she must be hypertensive if she beat seven years old! Disgusting..
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• Singapore
30 Apr 12
Yes she was a terror. I hope you will meet Fathima one day, I still wish I could tell Johnson thank you.
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@vandana7 (59038)
• India
30 Apr 12
I hope so too. :) And I wish you can meet Johnson and tell him about your feelings. I bet he's forgotten. :)
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• Singapore
4 May 12
What a lovely story! You receive love and care from her and even though you cannot meet her now, you have remembered her loving actions. You can pass on this love and care to others and one day it will get passed on to her!
@vandana7 (59038)
• India
4 May 12
Yes, but the real wonder is ..she was not very old to have been doing that for me. :) In her position, at that age, I am not sure I would have done that. I know how terrible I was looking with all those pox blisters all over me. Sure I will try that. Thanks. I hope something nice happens to her. She must have been 16 or 17 when she did that. :)
30 Apr 12
"""""as people helping each other we must""""" maybe that is principle of fathima, she wanted to help everyone even if that person exist at short, but is a love fathima the someone that is very high...
@vandana7 (59038)
• India
1 May 12
Yeah. She was indeed lady Fathima who stepped down from heavens for me. :)
@viji_v2 (727)
• India
30 Apr 12
Hi aunty *hugs she is just wonderful to have a mother's heart. I am unable to say more than that.
@vandana7 (59038)
• India
30 Apr 12
Yeah..she must not have been more than 16 at the time! I remember her straight and long hair. She was a shade darker than me. She didnt wear the best of clothes. But she was love incarnate. :) No expectations..
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