Would you rather die ahead of your spouse/partner?

yes its very scary, i saw may couples who, think alike. life becomes miserable , after we loose our partner. we start missing them , more after we loose them. My grand mother and grand father always used to quarrel , about one of the other thing, of course that was not on a serious note, but still, i have seen them like that. They were like south pole and north pole. but recently grand mother passed away, to my surprise, at that point of time i came to know how much my grand father loves her, how much he misses her and what not, previously ,he never use to care about hose and household things, but after losing her, he started keeping the house according to her interest, and everything according to her taste...may be this is the true love for each other.., and in this way he is keeping her in thoughts and remembering her.....

I often think,I would die ahead of my wife.And I don't know why,but I feel I may die of a heart attack or a cancer.I don't know why I think so.We have two kids;a son and a daughter,both in their twenties.I have deposited money for them and my wife,still I am worried about how my kids would live after me.They love me so much that they can't even think of such a situation.My son always inspires me to have faith on God and think big.They are more attached to me rather to their mother.My wife too can't love without me,but I don't know what I should do to my instinct or the sixth sense.

this topic we also discuss... i often times joke around that i would rather die ahead as i am the one insured, it is the other way around for me jure, see i work in an insurance company and i am insured - i have three life insurance..so i get a big amount of money if ever i die. But honestly i would prefer dying first than he leaving me first as i could not bear without him.

I really don't know. I really can't decide. I haven't asked him about this. I'll ask him one time. I just imagine this yet. I don't want to be ahead and I don't want him to be ahead too. If we can have a chance to die at the same time, I'll take that. But I want us to grow old together first and have grandkids.

Oh yeah. That`s a scary thought. I my self want to die before him. But it may happen that his life become miserable after me passing away.So I better not think of it. This I think is a hypothetical situation.Only time can answer what should happen and what will happen.