Trying to build up my confidence.
By Erynn14
@Erynn14 (357)
Malaysia
April 30, 2012 9:31am CST
So as you can see, I'm trying to build up my confidence. Ever since I started to have a relationship witb someone, I found out that my confidence within myself had decrease. I have no more confidence on doing anything after having the first relationship. Maybe that is because I always do the wrong thing, that's why it decreases my self-esteem. After having the 2nd relationship, II'm much more no confidence than before. Scared of being unwanted, being not care by the others. And now, I'm single again. And I'm so sure that I do not want to have a relationship now just because I don't want to get distracted by it from my studies. So I would like to know the way on making me being self-esteem again in doing anything. Thanks for sharing. :)
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@GemmaR (8517)
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30 Apr 12
Building up your confidence, when it is low, is something that is very hard and people completely underestimate how hard it can be. I think that the most important thing that you could be doing at the moment is thinking about the things that you are good at, and making the most of them. For example, I know that I am a good singer, so I make sure that I go to a karaoke bar every weekend. When people admire your talent, you start to believe that maybe you are worth something, and it helps to get rid of at least some of the doubts about you as a person.
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@Lida2010 (84)
• Colombia
30 Apr 12
Hi there, this is something that is very difficult to deal with. My first recommendation is to stay free of any relationships and take this time to build your self-esteem. Get to know yourself better. Think about what you like, don't like, what you expect out of your relationships/friendships, and picture yourself as the confident person you want to be and think of ways that you can accomplish that. Most of all, be patient with yourself! This change takes some time and you have to condition yourself to think differently in order to achieve your confidence. Good luck.
@banta78 (4326)
• India
1 May 12
We all go through ups and downs. And our confidence levels also get affected during such periods. Important thing is to just be yourself and focus on tasks at hand. Just don't worry and let negative thoughts get you down. Don't get into any relationship just for the sake of it or do things simply to gets others acceptance.
It is okay to be vulnerable and lonely at times. So try to just remain calm and positive and keep faith in yourself and the higher power. If you will be patient and stick to what you good at, you'd start feeling good again:)
Have a good day, take care, Cheers!:)
@jtj_hello (627)
• Philippines
30 Apr 12
I use to have low self esteem to. It got me nothing but being so unconfident about anything that I say and do. Time comes that I need to make a decision on my own and I got no choice but to do what I have to do. I was happy that everything turned out fine.
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