April 30, 2012 10:29am CST
I was thinking a lot over the course of the past couple of weeks about my relationship and about where it was equal or not. The more I think about it, the more I don't think that it is. He is on government benefits for living, and this means that he is in his apartment all day without having to go to work or anything like that. Even though this is the case, he will always expect me to come home from work and still cook his dinner, which just isn't fair at all in my opinion. I am not happy with it, because I think that he should be doing just as much at home as I have to do at work. I get up at 6am and have to leave for work by 7am. I will only usually get home at 6pm, at which point this is what I have to do in the house: -Put a load of washing in. -Put dinner in the oven. -Hoover at least two of our rooms. -Remove washing from maiden and put by the ironing board. -Wash up dishes from the past 24 hours. -Get dinner out of the oven and serve it. -Eat. -Get washing out of machine and arrange it on the drier. -Iron clothes that I had washed yesterday. But by the time I had got everything like that done, it is at least 10pm which means that I have to go to bed again and don't have any time to myself. Although I should be able to have some time to myself at the weekend, I have to change our bedding and clean our bathrooms, along with doing more washing and ironing, so I am just finding that I am doing everything all of the time. The question that I am asking you is: is your relationship equal? Would your partner support you through life if you were working and they were not? Should you expect them to help out with household chores? It would be very interesting to hear your views about this, and hopefully we should be able to get a good discussion started out of it.