Why I get jealous every time when my boyfriend is hanging out with my friends???

Philippines
May 1, 2012 4:51am CST
I get jealous when my boyfriend is asking me that he's going to see my friends and have fun. I know I should be happy that he and my friends are getting closer but I got jealous along the way. I just wonder if I'm acting normal? Hey guys! Help me! :)
12 responses
@sjlskl (3382)
• Singapore
2 May 12
Maybe you would like to share with us if your boyfriend's friends are male or female. If the latter, then it is pretty normal. If they are the former, you may have a possessive streak in you.
• Philippines
2 May 12
To clarify the situation, I'm jealous when my boyfriend is seeing MY girl friends and not his friends. :)
• United States
4 May 12
ok your clarification has helped me to understand the situation better. Yes you should be jealous about this and speak up about it. He should only be spending time with your girlfriends when you are there. There shouldn't be any need for him to do this otherwise. If you don't speak up now about it either to him or your friends it will more than likely cost your relationship with him.
• Philippines
1 May 12
If he always hangs out with your friends who mostly consists of both boys and girls, then that's just fine. But if he only hangs out with your girl friends, you have a reason to be jealous. Talk to him about it. He'll understand.
• Philippines
7 May 12
Uhmm. That's so bad. I will understand if he sleeps in boys' house but it's your girl friends' house! So it's really wrong. You're not immature, you're being reasonable. Maybe you should talk to your girlfriends and tell them not to allow him to join them anymore. Maybe they'll understand, because they're your friends.
@alienstar (5142)
• India
2 May 12
You seem to love your boy friend very much and you are also over possessive now. When things go beyond certain limits, these things happens. Being possessive is common in everybody who are in love, but you have to cautious in being over possessive which might turn out to be dangerous in coming times as your boy friend may not like this and chances of picking up fight over it is high.Hence to avoid this, you have to change yourselves first before it worsens later on. Try not to be over possessive to save your relationship as you might repent if you don't do it now as it is already high time now
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
4 May 12
Your boyfriend wants to hang out with your guy friends or your girlfriends? If I were in your shoes I would be a little jealous if he was doing it often. And I wouldn't want him hanging out with my girlfriends. As you just don't do things like that because emotions get involved and it could be the end of a relationship.
@Timeout (419)
1 May 12
Are your friends girls or boys? I think he should not be hanging out with other girl that just sounds weird to me. If they are boys, then I wouldn't care.
• India
2 May 12
Hello friend, It is a natural thing my friend. So don't worry. Every girls are behave like that. Actually we don't share our lovers with anyone. It is also my problem. Have a nice day.
• India
1 May 12
every people who are in deep love will get these kind of jealousy and angry by seeing their boyfriend/girlfriend chatting or hanging out with your friends. This is because you love him very much
@jricky1 (6800)
• China
2 May 12
Maybe everyone would have the same situation as you.As i see this is really normal for there are indeed many cases like friends are grabing th boyfriend of their friend.Anyway,just need more trust and you would feel less worry and easy to deal with the relationship.
• Philippines
1 May 12
If you are his girlfriend, he shouldn't be seeing your friends. Maybe he likes your friends more than you. :3
@bluespygirl (2112)
• Philippines
1 May 12
I get jealous too even with my now husband is with his friends. It is normal, don't worry. I hope you tell your boyfriend what you feel. In a way, he'll feel that you really like/love him a lot
@superbadx (484)
• Malaysia
2 May 12
Well, for me this is not a normal thing. If he says he's going to see HIS friends and have fun i get it, but to see YOUR friends and have fun with them ? That's just wrong. And you should be jealous with this things. And what the top post said is very true, that most of us do not want to share the closes things we have with everyone. It means that you are afraid of losing him.
@kdnater (135)
• India
1 May 12
Yes it is a usual thing . Every one behaves like this . Actually we are not agree to share our very close thing , then what ever it maybe .