long distance relationships

Philippines
May 2, 2012 3:55pm CST
Hi guys.. I'm just wondering if you ever believe in long distance relationships? Those in such a situation would be the best respondents to this questions. But those who are not are also welcome. Do you recommend any "special routine" in order to preserve the "fire" in the relationship while both of you are far from each other? How about if both of you are still about to be in a long distance relationship? What places would you recommend to go before the departure date? Thanks for your responses in advance ;)
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@barehugs (8986)
• Canada
3 May 12
There is one important thing to be said of long distance relationships ~ If your girlfriend gets pregnant, You know for sure that you are not the father of her child!
• Philippines
3 May 12
haha...at least, in that example, their not married yet. It's really going to be awfully bad, if we're talking about wife and husband. But, it does happen in real life.
@gaiza12 (4889)
• Philippines
3 May 12
Exactly my thought! At least the knots are not yet tied so the guy can still look for another girl. Sad to say , it really does happen in real life. We just can't help but look for another person to be with us physically to love and take care of us.
@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
3 May 12
does it happen to you now?? LDR is harder than the normally relations why?/ because it need the trust among of them.. it must be done with love and both of them should not be jealous.. don`t think negative first when your message or your call is not responded by him or her.. just ask well..maybe he or she had done something or get in trouble so she or he can`t replied as soon as possible your message or pick your call up..
@gaiza12 (4889)
• Philippines
3 May 12
I agree, raging for not have any responses to your text or calls will give you no good. It will only result to a fight. Better to wait for the guy to call you and ask properly.
• Philippines
6 May 12
hi kyle, I am into long distance relationship and it's working quite well. there are lots of hindrances and some people tend to stop us but we just trust,believe and love each other and what's the best thing about us is that if we do feel and have anything in our mind like doubts and jealousy,we talk to each other and tell each other honestly.
@WakeUpKitty (8707)
• Netherlands
3 May 12
Each day I read exactly the same question. Perhaps you should read the answers over there first? It depends on what you see as a long distance relationship. If it works depends on what you expect from it and are willing to invest.
@gaiza12 (4889)
• Philippines
3 May 12
When my bf was about to go abroad, he just went to the city where me and my family lives. We had time together and we even ate dinner with his brothers and my sisters. I couldn't exactly remember what we did most of the days because I really am very afraid of him leaving me here. I haven't seem him personally and physically for over 2 years now, and we are still not sure when he is gonna come home. Technology right now really helps because it's easy for us to communicate. We talk everyday even if we have 8 hours time difference. It never really was a hindrance in our relationship. Being in a long distance relationship even made our relationship stronger.
• United States
3 May 12
Personally, I think true love really does triumph all. Super cliche, but if it's meant to be, it will be. But it is so hard to be apart, and there are so many factors that can get in the way... I always thought that sending letters/gifts (the old fashioned way, not just texting or emails!) keeps a little of the romance in your relationship.. It's shows you took the time, instead of just typing... As for the "fire"... well, use your imagination:) Hopefully time goes by fast before you are together!!!
• India
3 May 12
I believe that distance between the person doesn't have any problem in the relation and i say this because our technology has improved a lot and we people are able to contact each of them or we people are able to see face to face with the help of new inventions like computer.
@alienstar (5140)
• India
3 May 12
I was never in a long distance relationship before, but later on i did get some friends who are far away and i also got very close to some of them, but only to get disappointed later on. Distance does matter in most of the cases as the person at the other end will feel out of sorts or lonely sometimes and might get detached suddenly for few days and later on when he gets back in touch again, the same bonding or closeness which was there before will not be there and this will start effecting long distance bonding. But i am lucky to have found one great friend who is living far away and is in contact with me regularly since 3 years now which made me change my view of long distance relationships doesn't survive as i started believing in long distance relationships now, but all these things will depend heavily on each individual on how they are treating or taking their boding further in life. If the two individuals are serious and does cope well, then i don't think there will be any problem in continuing these type of relationships to last longer
@jureathome (5363)
• Philippines
3 May 12
Oh, I could never stand a long distance relationship. I think it's because I grow up always close to my family, so it's not easy for me to be left alone by my loved ones. I once had a boyfriend for 3 years who had to go to another country to work. I wasn't fine with his decision, but he still needed to go. I was only able to hold on for about 6 months. I fell for someone else, too soon.
@yosrinal (65)
• Indonesia
3 May 12
a relationship which ever to believe each another else, is always near and together, if the other from couple was far, i am sure this relationship it's not take good and being not normal. Because love starting and ending with together...
@fheroan (619)
• Philippines
3 May 12
Hi there kylegwapo... Guess you're a filipino like me... I totally believe that long distance works. Because I'm in one... You know, you don't have to find your "destined" partner, they just come along and same with them, you just came along in their lives. I've been in a long distance relationship for over 2 years and a half now, I'm a filipino, and he's indian, so we're definitely hundred of miles away from each other. Never seen each other in person as well, but excited to see each other. Trust is the most important thing with long distance relationships.. And don't keep secrets is another thing.. Coz it builds up the relationship... Because when you tell your partner everything even though you two don't see each other, its like an assurance that your partner feels good being around you and etc.. And one of the most important thing also is communication.. Without it, relationship can fall.. Anyways, have a nice day!
3 May 12
I am a big believer that the person who you're 'destined' to be with can live anywhere, and that geography shouldn't prevent you from being happy. I have been with my husband for 6 years now and for the first two of those we lived 200 miles from each other - it doesn't sound like much but for two teens it was incredibly expensive. I think the most important thing is to consider the future - one of you has to make a sacrifice to be with the other eventually, if this doesn't get discussed then it will always be hard to keep that 'fire'. I think that regular calls make it much easier, planning dates ahead of when to meet so you can have something to look forward to. Discover new placed when you are together, you will learn more about each other that way. If things are difficult, address the difficulties - never leave them to fester. Be honest about how you feel and do everything you can to make the situation easier. The further you live from the person you care about, the more likely that it will become a strain on both of you. This is totally natural, so stay strong and be persistent. If its meant to be, it will be.