I will not change this for you

It's just one person that doesn't like the name. It's long story I could explain if you want to hear but I'm sure others didn't really want to read the whole thing. My brother's wife she doesn't like the name because my son's middle name is the same middle name as her son its just that we are spelling it differently. So now she is having a big old childish fit about it saying all kin do of things. The first thing she asks me when I tell her yesterday that it's a boy was "You aren't using the same middle name Dillion." I told her yes but its Dillian. My nephew's spells his Dylan. Thank you I love the name's and I wouldn't change there names ever if they want to when they are bigger it's okay with me but other wise they are staying the way they are. My daughter's middle name is my middle name as well as my husband's little sisters middle name. We call our son JD for short because my husband's name is Joseph but he likes being called Joe.

I had two friends that had a similar disagreement, the mother of my God Son, Hunter, found out a friend who was in her last trimester had decided to use the name to, they each were naming them after a relative, and the argument went on for months. Now I was friends with them both, but I've never understood why my god son's mother went so berserk over it. I think some people just need something to get worked up over. Not realizing they only stress themselves out, not the other party.

It's a name there are millions of people in the world with the same name and some with the same first and middle name as yourself. I told her I would be upset if she used any of the same names or a combo or even revised the names it doesn't bother me. If those are the names that her and my brother like then I"m going to respect that. She will use what ever excuse to try to make me feel bad and not use. First it was because my nephew is autistic, then the fact that he doesn't know his own name. He is 4 not many 4 year old no there own name every well, let alone there middle name. Then it was you hurt my feelings you don't care about how she feel. What about how me and my husband feel? Then it was my brother mad. My brother hasn't said anything to me at all so to me that is lie because she has done that before said that my brother has said or done something that he didn't do. Now it's because I'm just disrespectful of my family, that my husband is stubborn like it was all his choice in the naming of our son. No it's not it was both of our choice. That if I love my nephew I will change for him. I love my nephew as much as I love my own two but I will change it because I love him. The middle name has nothing to do with him at all. Its a name that I have clearly stated for year's even before he was born that I liked and would use. Now I'm using it. my husband wants a jr and I don't so we compromised. JD it is. I didn't like the name she named my nephew but I never said anything to her and I'm still not going to. She should show me some respect I raised her son for 3 years, I did a lot of things that she wouldn't do and still doesn't do as mother. My mom does them instead now. I think she is just one jealous and two wants to cause drama over nothing. We are having our second child before our first born is even 2 years old. She isn't allowed to have any more kids right now because my brother doesn't want another kid right now. Her sister is pregnant again 3 kids but second pregnancy. I'm sure she will have a fight with her too over something. She does this all of the time. She can yell at my parents for it. She lives in there house and they raised me she has issues with my and my kids name she talk to them about it. Because I'm not dealing with it.

what? she is one childish person! Over that she is having a fit? what is she thinking? that is just a name.. yes just ignore it and eventually she might get tired of it..

My brother's wife she is through a big fit over the fact that we went with the name Dillian as our son's middle name. Her son's middle name is Dylan just that we are spelling them differently. I don't see what the big deal is. But she keeps saying mean and hurtful things. I just ignore them and tell her to leave me alone because I don't want to hear it. Someone else can listen to her craziness. Because her excuese are so childish they are not even worth my time. She had the right to name her son what ever it was and just because he is the first born doesn't make him any more speical then the rest of the kids of the family. A year ago she had no issues with the name when i was having my daughter and now with this pregnancy she does. Even before we found out the gender she was making a big fit about it. Me and my husband are sticking with our son's name it doesn't matter if they are the same middle name or not. This child is my child and I have ever right in the whole world to choice what ever names I feel like. She can say all those mean things to me but it won't change the name. It just shows the world how much she is so immature and wants me to say something back to show my brother that I was mean to her when I'm not. So I haven't say anything outside of taking it up with my parents you live with them and they raised me. Other wise I don't want her what she has to say unless its nice. I don't like her son's first name but I never told her that because it was and is her son.

Lol! I'm glad you like it! I first read that saying in a Lawrence Sanders' book. Didn't I tell you the WIC card was in the house laughing? I assume you had it in your hand and Sugar needed to be changed so you put the card down! I'm so relieved you found it! I hope you get to have doughnuts real soon.

Lol, you always know what to say to kind of cheer me up. Here you say that makes me laugh a little on the inside. That so true they can take a flying f@ck for all I can with some big fat doughnuts. Now your just making me hungry for Doughnuts because girl I have been craving them like crazy. JD must really like doughnuts I'm guessing. Oh I finally found my WIC in the one place of the house I would never look unless I cleaned it. The changing table.

No we don't use the changing table to change her she moves to much now so we do it on the floor in front of the changing table. When we come in we just put things down on the change table because of all its compartments and stuff. It's for bills, putting some snacks that we eat through out the day my drinks so she doesn't knock them off the table, little things we put the key's there. I probably came in from the store, pulled it out of my pocket and it got covered up by stuff which I wouldn't have found it unless I cleaned the table top. We are going to use it once JD comes to change his diapers and just move the diaper pale back upstairs from the bedroom. I had to get my doughnut fix last night.

Good for you, it is harder if it's the grandparents saying no..but at least it's just one person.

I wouldn't let anyone try to talk me out of the names we picked. It's just one person having a problem with the name of my son and that would be my brother's wife. Her son has the middle name Dylan and we are using the middle name Dillian but she doesn't like want us to for a list of reasons that don't even make logical reasons at all.

Why would the grandparents have a say in a kid's name. My parents haven't say a thing about my kids name. Well I know my dad doesn't care for the name JD so we told him its okay to call him Joseph or something but he didn't even like the name Skyler when my brother and his wife where having him. I don't blame I don't like that name either but they never try to make them change my nephew name or anything. They picked our names and that is the extent of them choicing names. My brother's wife is just the anunty no body besides the parents have says in a kids name.

Yeah sorry to hear that she is having a problem about what you are naming your son. And most of the time people don't call their child by their middle name. She will eventually get over it. It's just sad that she is making such a big deal about it.

Yep we are calling our son by his middle first and middle name because there are several Joseph's on my husbands side of the family. She making a huge deal out of nothing she has done so far as to call me names and insult my husband and try to use every excuse she can come up with to make me feel bad which hasn't worked. She has gone so far as to tell me not to call or text or anything her which I don't talk to her that often at all so that is fine with me but even though she doesn't want to talk to me she thinks its okay to talk back to me when I haven't said anything so 2 days ago I had to tell her to leave me and knock it off and take it up with someone else that would care because I'm not dealing with her behavior because its so childish. So hopefully she gets over it and if not her lose.

I think older names are cool some times. Some I wouldn't choice for myself but I would tell someone that they shouldn't use it. Its that's mom and dad's right to pick what ever it is. It's just one person that doesn't like my son's middle name that would be my brother's wife. She thinks her son can be the only Skyler Dylan in the world and we spell Dillian this way and not the way that she has. They aren't even like really close cousin or nothing because they would only see each other like a few times a year since we live like 2 states away.

Wow your making me work tonight. Thank you I thought it was a very pretty name. Yeah it wasn't popular at least the name Madison till I was on the list this part year. But we don't know anyone seasonality that has a Madison we don't even call her Madison she goes by a shorting of that. There is a county around where we live named Madison its not to far from where we live now. The only places I've lived in is Colorado Springs in Colorado,Sterling Virgina and of course now Lexington Kentucky. I've never lived in any of those other cities. None named after a person or a name that you would use as a child name. I don't like names because of there popularity and this year for 2012 Joseph isn't a popular name. It is a popular biblical name so a lot of babies are named that around Christmas. If I had it my way it would be Dillian Alexander but my husband didn't like that name we both have to like and love the name. So we both like Joseph and that is my husbands name. I don't like his middle name or else our when son would be a Jr and my husband would have is ways. I don't like the middle name Dane. The other names we picked our for when we have another baby is Hayden Michale which Michale would be the family name after my dad and my oldest brother. Girl name we can't pick if its going to be Rachel Michelle which Michelle is my husbands mom's middle name or Kaylee Elizabeth with Elizabeth would be for several family members mainly my husband Lisa and a few other cousins with that either being there first or middle name.

The good thing is we relook at all the names in each pregnancy just in case we have changed our mind. Witch with both times we liked the same names and wanted to use the same names that we had talked out so that worked out. Yes it is good for our us to talk about it and either like and love them both. I can live with having a JD unlike with a JR and then it would really get confussing to whom I'm talking to. There ae 2 other Joseph in the family but they all have nick names so its every easy to talk to one of them with out the other one thinking your talking to them. Didn't want people getting our son confused with my husband. That happens to my dad and brother all of the time.

It is good that you and your husband are cooperating on the names. You have a lot of great names from which to choose. I have always liked the name, Alexander. I had wanted to name one of our babies that, but it didn't happen.

If you read closely I said my son's middle name is different then his dad. The discussion has nothing to do with my husband and his name. My oldest brother is a junior but my dad has Spanish spelling and my brother has the English spelling making it easy to tell them apart even though he dose carry the Junior part now he has no kids at the moment and I doubt think he would use his name. In my family you name a child after someone you love weather they are part of your family or not. My parents picked one name each first or middle name after someone they loved. We named our daughter after me so she has the same middle name as my self Nicole. Her first name is Madison we don't have the same first name. Naming your child after yourself doesn't mean they actually have your first name as there first name. Yes my husband and son will have the same first name but there middle names are different. My sister-in-law my brother's wife she doesn't want our son's having the same middle name. The name might be the same but it's different spellings. They spell my nephew middle name Dylan and we are spelling my son's middle Dillian. My husband middle name is Dean so you see we aren't having a jr. I don't want a jr my husband did but I wanted a Dillian so we compromised almost 2 years ago when we have a son we would name him Joseph Dillian and my sister-in-law new that last year when I was pregnant with my daughter and didn't say anything then at all. But this time when she found out I was pregnant again had a fit before we found out the gender of our son saying she didn't want us to use Dillian because only her son can have that middle name and no one else on either side of the family. I disagree with that because she isn't the mother of my son I am and that is between me and my husband. Now she is made knowing we are having a boy and that we will not change it. My husband and son will have the same initinals that is all and that has been settled for 2 years.

Of course there isn't anything wrong with them. My brother's wife she doesn't want us using Dillian as a middle name because my nephew's name middle name is Dylan. So she wants to say all kind of things to me like I don't love my nephew, I'm disrespectful and so on and so one. I can list everything she has said but I don't think everyone wants to hear all the excuses that she is using to try to get me to change just one of my kids name. She is fine with my daughter's name she has been for like over a year its my son's name she doesn't care of right now. She was the one being disrespectful by calling me names.

that's a pain! my mother, my daughter and i share the same middle name. we have made it a family tradition. my daughter says, she'll pass it onto her daughter. :)

That's cool. My husbands one of his sister's middle name is Nicole so that is okay my daughter will know three Nicole's outside of every long distance cousins on my side of the family.

It is just her that has a problem just that no one was answer the other post for some time so I started a new one and just didn't say who people where and are assuming its more then one person but its not.

Hi, It is alright, some are much particular about the names and (though there is no meaning for it). Also, I was referring to your son's case only and not of your name.

I know who you where talking about but still I wouldn't tell someone that I don't like there kid's name or there own name just because they are saying they don't like one of my kid's name or what ever reason why they wouldn't want me to use that name.

I would never do that to someone tell them I don't like there name. I'm not immature like that at all that is just love and childish sinking down to other peoples level of childishness. I'm not your bud so don't call my your bud if you read the whole discussion you would know its not about my name but about my children's name or more like my son's name that someone is having and issue with.

I don't see names like that to me a name is a name it has no real meaning to it at all. Thanks for thinking his name is great. My sister in law my brother's wife she doesn't want us to use it Dillian because its my nephew's middle name but they spell it Dylan. So now she wants to make a big mess out of nothing and she has been really mean thank goodness we live 9 hours away from her.

Yes being a mom brings me a lot of happiness. I love my daughter and I love my unborn son like there isn't a tomorrow. To others naming a child might to be a big deal but to me it is because that is there name the start of who they will be one day. I'm hoping my immature sister in law will get over the fact that our sons will have the same middle name.

No is it related to people and there family being mean and rude because they don't want others in the family to use the same name?

The problem that someone is having is the fact that we choice the same middle name as my nephew. My sister in law she doesn't want our kids having the same middle name. They are spelled differently of course that is the only problem. Everyone else on either sides of our family loves our kids name and if they don't they didn't say anything about it. Bullies will bully a kid weather there name sounds funny or not. Any name can be made fun of if you try hard enough.

I'm not naming my son after my nephew. I just have always loved the name Dillian and I told her when she was pregnant with my nephew if I had a son I would name him Dillian and my husband love the family tradition we have on my side of the family where we name each person after someone in the family. Even if its just part of there name in a name its kind of a nice thing to do for people that you love and admire. So he wanted a Jr and I didn't so we went with a combo to make us both happy. He gets a little Joseph and I get a Dillian. JD it is. I'm ignoring her as best as I can and since yesterday morning she hasn't said a thing to me so I hope it stay's that way. She should think it's kind of cool that two cousin's have the same middle name just spelled differently make them two every different people.

When your pregnant there is no wrong emotion to feel or go through so angry I will get some times no matter what. It's stress that isn't good for a pregnant women because it increase heart beat and blood pressure but mine is just fine. I'm not letting it bother me too much. It's just one person that doesn't like my son's middle name because its the same as her son's middle name just spelled way different. Thank you, I like to try to make my kid's name go well with our last name. Madison just seemed right for a girls name for our daughter and it stuck well. Everyone in our families love that name that I know of. Everyone loves Joseph Dillian but not my brother's wife.

Yep only you and your partner have rights to your kids name weather other people like it or not. Most people won't say anything if they don't like the name or names. I didn't say anything if I don't like someone's kids name it wasn't my choice to make but after a while those names that you don't like stick to you.

I didn't ask for anyone thoughts or suggestions for either of my kids name. Everyone loves my daughter name. Its my brother's wife doesn't want us to use the middle name Dillian because its the same as her son's but they spell it a different way then we do. To me my sister in law is being every childish.