Family Restrooms

United States
May 4, 2012 3:49am CST
I just want to throw off a bit of steam here. I am a new daddy to a 3 year old little girl. I love her as if she was my own and as part I have taken on the responsibility of taking her to the restroom when my wife is currently occupied or some other circumstances. I normally take her to the men's restroom and into a stall but on a few occasions have been lucky to use a family restroom. As of recently though I was standing outside of one at Walmart waiting for whoever was inside to come out. After about 5 to 8 minutes an older man with no children walked out of the restroom and proceeded into the main store area. I let that one go...but as soon as me and my daughter started walking towards the restroom another man started for the door hoping to cut us off. I asked him to please let us go in because a child is not able to hold it and there might be an embarrassing moment. After a few seconds of him thinking he said alright fine I will go use the family restroom at the front of the store. My big complaint is that there were normal restrooms not more then a few feet away. I understand there might be some individuals out there who have a "shy bladder" but still we were waiting for the restroom first and above all it should be as it is marked a family restroom first. Anybody else have related issues?
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@much2say (34373)
• United States
4 May 12
I wouldn't think much of that first older guy. It's possible that when he needed to go, the mens restroom may have been too long or whatever - so he decided to use the family one - and perhaps at that time no one was using it so he thought it was ok. But that second guy I would have an issue with - how rude of him to try to take cuts when I'm sure it was obvious that you guys were there first! Not with a family restroom, but often I would use the handicap stall in the womens restroom because I had a stroller with me, along with my little daughter. She was in the potty training stage, and I had to take the stroller in with me as I had personal belongings in it - can't do it in a normal stall. Well, it took a while one time, but we got out - I didn't think anything of it. I didn't know, but this woman was waiting outside the stall and she got very upset with me. I guess she was handicapped - and she was yelling at me that didn't I know that this stall was reserved for HANDICAPPED people. Well, yes, I knew, but at the time, there was no one in the restroom when we got in - let alone barely anyone in the store - so I didn't think anything of it. It's not like she was in back of me in line for me to have known - otherwise of course I would have let her go in there. It was obvious I had a little one and stroller - but wasn't understanding of that - so what can I say. I love family restrooms if places have that!! Some of them are really nice!
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@GardenGerty (89997)
• Marion, Kansas
7 May 12
Off and on I have heard of misunderstandings about the handicapped stalls. I think the general thought now is that it is okay if it is not occupied to go ahead and use it. I know that they have been a real blessing to moms with small children. I have seen parents take two or even three kids into the stall at once. Some places even put the diaper changing stations in the handicapped stall.
@sid556 (31018)
• United States
4 May 12
Meeras, Welcome to Mylot! I've never come across that problem. I will say that it sounds very rude. A "shy bladder" is hardly an excuse for cutting off someone and especially if regular bathrooms were just a few feet away and rather than use those, he was willing to walk to the front of the store to use the other family bathroom? People are strange, heh?
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• United States
4 May 12
Yes and I am sure a lot think I am strange as well...but yes there are all types of people out there...lol
@doroffee (4233)
• Hungary
4 May 12
Not exactly the same, but I've seen men in the women's restroom. I kind of freaked out. I mean, it should be... private or something, because who knows what can happen in a restroom (like a door not working, and a man opening the door and seeing a woman semi-naked...)... and they don't seem to care and take others' opinions into consideration... and they don't even ask if it's okay, just go in (if they ask, and all the women are okay with it, that's fine)... just because there were two more men waiting in line at the men's one. Some people are just too comfortable and lazy.
• United States
4 May 12
Yes I don't believe men should be in the women's restroom no matter if they have a female child. Bit awkward and only response I ever got from taking my daughter in the men's room was actually from a little boy saying "Daddy there's a girl in here." LOL
@sid556 (31018)
• United States
4 May 12
My father took me in the men's room with him when I was little and I never thought a thing about it. I've seen women bring their little boys in the women's room and never have given it a thought. Back in the day, things were so less complicated!
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@GardenGerty (89997)
• Marion, Kansas
7 May 12
I got told off by a little girl for having my boy in the ladie's room at the Y. That was years ago. They now have a rule that over 5 years old must go to appropriate gender restrooms and locker rooms. However there are one or two "family" restrooms.
@GardenGerty (89997)
• Marion, Kansas
7 May 12
You were there first, no one should cut you off. I actually am pleased to see these family friendly rest rooms. I know that some like to use them like handicapped stalls because they are larger and easier to move around in, but families should come first. Just as the handicapped should get first priority on a handicapped stall. My experience was positive, but it might have been a problem with you. I have worked with the adult disabled off and on for a long time. We took a group to the public pool. I was escorting a person with MS, in a wheelchair. By being able to use that room I could help her with her toileting needs and help her get her swim suit properly adjusted, without demeaning her. I had a nightmare of a time when I took her to a concert at our State Fair Grounds as the handicapped stall door opened into the stall and blocked the wheelchair from going along side the toilet. There happened to be an attendant, and she helped me help my client so I did not literally drop her. I guess this is to say that there needs to be a lot of thought in how these "comfort stations" are set up. I am glad that there are at least some family restrooms for you to take Meera into.
• Jacksonville, Florida
4 May 12
I have never experienced it first hand but I have seen a family waiting outside of one for a while and a single person comes out. It should be kept for which it was meant, a family. Its true that children cannot wait like that. The one that tried cutting you off seeing you have a child with you is incredibly rude! I cannot believe the nerve some people have. Common sense tells us let the child go first, or better yet use the correct bathroom that you should be using! That guy should have went to the mens restroom.
@jureathome (5363)
• Philippines
4 May 12
We don't really have Family restrooms, here in our country, or not that I know of. But similar issues happen with reserved restrooms for pregnant women, senior citizen and parents with kids. These cubicles are supposedly kept vacant for the mentioned users. But, sometimes, if not properly supervised, regular users would line up for it, because its more convenient. Then, the intended users would have to wait for their turns and hesitate to take their right on the priority given just to avoid trouble.
@thanks1961 (7049)
• India
4 May 12
Though I didn't experienced similar incidents, there is a general behaviour that we should act wisely and nicely considering the surrundings. If he could manage a common place and look for a better alterntive, such situations can be easily manage. Any way, we shold understand that some people are NOT so bothered about what is happening around.