it feels so great to make your own money and not depend on others

@hotsummer (10308)
Philippines
May 5, 2012 12:50am CST
i do still depend on my family for money. although i don't actually ask for money. but the food i eat comes from them.i mean the daily things i need for electricity and etc as i still live with my family. but somehow every time i do get money from my online activities that i feel so satisfied. i do wonder how good it would feel if i do have a real job and not just some extra money online. so i would not say to be happily dependent on them. i am not happy at all. but this is the culture in the philippines. family helps each other.
12 responses
@lmpalco (89)
• Philippines
5 May 12
Being dependent on your parents is ok as long as you're still young and studying but once you graduated you should look for a good and stable job to make a living whether it's online job, office work, skilled work or any decent job that will give you enough earnings to buy for your needs and wants. Just be in the job that makes you happy. Happy earnings!
@hotsummer (10308)
• Philippines
5 May 12
yeah that is true. it is not my parents who is supporting or helping me. it is my 2 brothers at work in the other countries. my father is old and not working. i am taking care of him. giving him the medicines and every thing. giving the bath and etc. though i can't find work, still i am trying to be of help.
@Lida2010 (84)
• Colombia
6 May 12
Hey sometimes the circumstances tend to be the reason that some people are still at home with their parents. Don't be hard on yourself as long as you are helping your parents out and trying to find a job, things will work out. Although that may be the culture where you are from, eventually you will want to be on your own and have your own place. Until then, enjoy your family and work towards achieving your independence.
@krizzy (237)
• Philippines
5 May 12
yes..we thank for our family..but it's really nice to earn money from your hard work..I already have a job now, even if the salary is not that high, but I can already help in the household bills now..I feel like I'm independent and I'm happy that I could finally help my family:)
@whatrow (793)
• United States
5 May 12
I know about the disadvantages of being dependent on your family for your basic needs. If you want things to be different, good. But you need to earn a lot more than you are earning now. Frequently, not always, the situations we find ourselves in are the results of how we choose to respond to our problems. So, think very hard about everything that has happened to you in your life. Look closely at which decisions caused you to move toward dependency and which decisions would make you more independent. That is the only way you can really change things.
@averygirl72 (12651)
• Philippines
5 May 12
Very true, it really feels great to have your own money than to depend on your parents. When I started to work, I have realized slowly that everything I own from head to foot is from my own hard work. I dressed up myself now and does not have to wait for my parents to give some money. I am so happy to give a part of my salary to them. Same here I don't worry about expenses in food, shelter and electricity because I still live with them most of the time in our house.
• Philippines
5 May 12
I agree that here in our country, close family tie is very apparent and I have nothing against it. But in terms of money matters, I always believe that it is a good feeling having to spend the money you work hard for. It gives you the feeling of being independent and adequate. It is okay to depend to your family for a time, but it will also be nice to be able to become independent and of your own person.
5 May 12
Hi, I feel living with your family should not be considered a taboo as is thought to be these days. But yes being financially dependent on them should be considered one when you yourself are capable of earning yourself. So after a certain age, it becomes the duty of younger generation to let their parents rest and support them financially as well as emotionally. I think you should not feel bad that you are not able to support your family at all. You are earning some money through internet and soon you might get a job. Biggest thing is you realize this and are ready to work in this direction. But feeling low is not a solution. Go out, search a job and things will fall in place soon. And moreover helping each other in family isn't something that should be considered bad or down market. I am sure you'll soon be earning enough to support your family. Good Luck. :)
@doroffee (4233)
• Hungary
5 May 12
I agree. I mean, I still live my parents, and they pay for heateing, water, electricity, travelling and for my cellphone (but that I don't really use that much, and in the family we can talk for free with the package we have)... but it's nice that if I find something nice my parents would think is a waste of money (going to the cinema, having a drink with friends, some new clothes, jewelry, make-up, CDs), I don't have to ask for money but buy them from the money I worked hard for... but also, I'm saving lots of them so that I could actually move away and live an even more independent life.
@ryanong (9697)
• Vietnam
5 May 12
It will be hard when you live by yourself without any support from your parents. I am very ensure about it. But it is your life, you have to do like that one day especially when you have your own family. Earn money is hard, it is not easy at all. When you live separately from your family you have to care anything, food, house for rent, your clothes, electricity, etc...and sometime your income does not enough for your living. better you should be happy when you still get support from your parents like right now. Later when you live separately, you may have to wish be back this time.
@MoonGypsy (4615)
• United States
5 May 12
this is why i love your culture. my family's culture is the same way. we don't believe in kicking our kids out as soon as they get old enough to cook. lol. you are very very lucky. working a job will help you feel like your have your own money...and more of it, but you will be so drained you won't even know the victory. don't rush it. trust me.
• India
5 May 12
I feel that life is much better when we live with our money which we earn. I find little boaring when we do so. Life become more interesting when we do the things different from others. So try to find your job. Remember that each of the job had it's own dignity.
@sishy7 (26765)
• Australia
5 May 12
It is a great feeling to be independent in terms of supporting yourself or once you have your own family. Sometimes even if it is not as much as what you had when you still lived with your family, it still feels much more satisfying to be on your own. Then once you build your own life and in position to help others, you will be able to return the favor to whomever was providing you when you were still not able to be completely independent.