How to become a good son to my parents?

India
May 5, 2012 4:23am CST
I know how bad I am, sometime I hurts them, I woke up late so I could not join hands in some house works, They always think I don't love them I always disobey them, But I don't know how to show how much I love them, I am careless may be due to this they feel like so, well leave all this now you all assume me as that I am the worst boy in this planet now tell how should I become at least a bit good to my parents? I love me them so much than anything else. I am mentally disturbed , help me please.
6 responses
@lady1993 (17500)
• Philippines
6 May 12
You could tell them face to face that you love them and apologize for hurting them sometimes.. Having a heart to heart talk with them might straighten things out. And you could ask them how you could make up to them.
@bing28 (3798)
• Philippines
6 May 12
You must grow up and be matured. Just change gradually, never stay out late so you could wake up early. Do little and lighter things first like fixing your beddings. Talk to them politely, show them your concern. Never disobey them again. Ask them how can you be of help even just in little things. Remember them in their especial days like birthday or anniversary. On mother's day simply greet your mom with a hug or a kiss and so with your dad on fathers day. Little by little they would realize you're changing and for sure they would appreciate the change you're doing. By doing this you'll soon realize you're a good son already to your parents.
@WakeUpKitty (8707)
• Netherlands
5 May 12
To be honest I don't understand what the problem is. Why your parents do think you are a bad son. You are raised by them, a product of them, you share the same dna. What do they expect from you, you are not able to give? How open/willing are they to let you be who you are? Do they understand your life/dreams/goals/needs? It's useless to always give and try if the other(s) keep pushing you and you can't be who you are. If it's just about being responsible then change your behaviour and show what your value in this case. But remember there is a limit for everything. If they can't see or feel you love them I think it's useless to make them see/feel that way, since they will stay blind anyway. Care, love can be shown in many ways, obeying is not a way to show you love them.. it can also be a sign of being scared of them. You don't sound like someone who is mentally disturbed to me btw.
@vertu007 (683)
• Romania
5 May 12
Well is not that hard. Get your phone or alarm clock set it to wake you up earlier and start helping them around the house. Go shopping with them or instead of them. Do more chores. Talk to them in a more respectful way. And don't expect results very soon. Don't expect them to praise you for every single thing. It may take a little time for them to say something about it. Don't think they won't notice tho.
@ardoy0731 (6865)
• Philippines
5 May 12
You should not do things that might upset and make them sad.Don't do anything wrong that are against to their values that taught to you.Try to be more considerate and follow them.Love them and respect them.Spend quality time with them cause they will really appreciate it that much.
@mensab (4208)
• Philippines
5 May 12
i think you know what to do. you know the reasons why your parents see you as bad. so to change their perception of you, you have to change also the way you do things. words are nothing if those words are not backed by actions. no matter how you say you love them, if you do not show them, you appear to be unbelievable. show them that you love them through actions.