i've been pretty sad lately...

@birdie816 (1277)
United States
May 5, 2012 4:56pm CST
lately my life has not exactly been going well. yes i am having a baby, but i can't be completely happy about it. i am concerned about bringing a life into the environment i am in right now. me and my husband argue all the time and i am sick of it. i really think he wants a divorce at this point but is trying to force himself to deal with me for the sake of the baby. i feel like he has changed quite a bit, so i can't say i am even that upset at the thought of us getting a divorce. however, i am not working and i don't have anywhere to go if we were to be separated. this is really taking a toll on my well being but i keep telling everybody i'm ok. i'm lying! i hate my life with a passion. alot of days i don't even want to get out of bed because i can pretty much predict what crappy events will take place...it's so depressing
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@SIMPLYD (83191)
• Philippines
6 May 12
Meantime that you are pregnant, take the time not to fight with your husband. At least, what's keeping him from divorcing you is the baby in your womb. So, take care of yourself and bring that child out in the world. Your husband will change once he gets to see your baby. Meantime, try to be as loving as you are to your husband. Serve him well, when he comes home from work. A husband likes it , when he comes home with a loving wife waiting for him, ready to make him feel rested after work.
@igi266 (26)
• Croatia (Hrvatska)
7 May 12
Excellent advice :) I wish i have that kind of wife.
@SIMPLYD (83191)
• Philippines
8 May 12
I speak through experience igi. My husband becomes so much loving if i prepared his favorite food.
@krizzy (237)
• Philippines
6 May 12
keep holding on..be strong..ask God for help..you know whatever problem we have, how big it is, God is much bigger than our problems..after you talk to Him and letting Him move His powerful hand in you life, you will see that eventually you will feel better..don't give up:)
@MoonGypsy (4613)
• United States
6 May 12
it is so important that you don't leave yourself alone with this. you must talk to someone on the outside. besides what is going on, you hormones are just doing a double take. i am not saying that your worries are not valid, i am just saying that you have to make sure you don't make your self get post partome depression thing (i didn't spell it right). if you do end up having to be single, this won't be good for either you or your baby. you must do what ever you need to do to take care of you and your baby. avoid getting in to arguments with him. lots of couples go through this phase when they are expecting. i would say talk to him, but i think you have tried that. another thing you could do is write him a note expressing your fears and hopes for your relationship. this way he can't argue back at a note. when you do be careful to express to him only to communicate not to bash him or make him feel like the fault of everything. use words like, "i feel like this and that", instead of "you do this and that". it auto puts someone on defense. i hope i was of some help. feel better soon . keep us posted.
• India
6 May 12
Hey birdie816, It is quite common to have such depressing things in your life. In life it is very important to have compromises between you bot of you. Compromises makes your life quite easy to move around here and there. I think this is the thing what you are missing in your life. Make sure that you people don't for a divorce becuase it will create many problems on your kid. A kid must be allowed to grown with care and love of the parents. Make sure that you people give him the best of you.
@igi266 (26)
• Croatia (Hrvatska)
5 May 12
I have same problems in my marriage, and a wife with which its almost imposible to talk, because she doesnt know what she wants and never gives answer on most of my questions. First of all it would be good to know the reason why and about what are you argoung. Im sure that you believe its all his fault and he also thiks that its all your fault. The truth is usually somewhere in the middle. It would be good to talk alot and be objective. Try to see things from his perspective and find a solution which is best for both of you. Cant say much more because i dont know the details but depression wont help you solve the problem. My wife is acting like that, and she dont want to talk about it which is just one more reason for me to be pissed of and most of the time stay away from her. Talking is really important here because problems cant be solved if we just ignore them
• United States
5 May 12
I think you should have a talk. For now though i would try and ignore your stress i know its very hard but, you dont want to affect your baby because, they can sense things like that. and if you cant work things out with him it might be better for the sake of your child if you break it off for a little maybe not dicorce but, maybe you both just need a seperation to figure out what you want.
• Philippines
5 May 12
I'm sorry to hear all of this. Times like that you need a solid family and truthful friends to back you up. I understand that couples argue but I think having a divorce will make it worse. Especially that you are expecting a baby, you guys should talk. I hope you guys can fix it. You deserve to be happy and your baby deserves a complete and happy family, too. God bless.
@NailTech (6890)
• United States
5 May 12
Been there done that and I know how alone it makes you feel, not with a hubby with immediate family members though! Can you go to a women's shelter perhaps? It's not fun hating your life, i wish I could get you out of that situation, and myself. Since I have been told I have a cyst and need an operation on my ovary (I have a huge cyst) my family has been nicer to me, go figure, but I hate that that's what it took for them to be nicer. People are just so cruel and not nice.