falling for a friend..

@rave700 (247)
Philippines
May 6, 2012 8:39am CST
..my feelings is kind of different from what it was used to be..my heart leap with happiness each time we are together..my problems seems to fly away when I'm with her..and there are times that I really miss her company in case that we weren't seeing each other for after a week or so..I don't know if it's right to fall for a friend it's kind of betrayal on my part using friendship as a disguise to be with her which I never thought of..I'm afraid to tell her the truth which might lead to broken friendship because of what I feel and I don't want that to happen its like she's my BFF already..and she's a friend whom I can say I can treasure the rest of my life...
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@alberello (4755)
• Italy
6 May 12
Well, I think that your friendship is very tight-knit. It is clear that when two people linked by a bond friendly so intense, at the occurrence, maybe when you're not seeing also for a little time, feels the lack of one to the other. I think it's normal. I think if I were in your same situation, the result, for my part, would be the same. The friendship is precious!
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@babyEj (1525)
• Philippines
7 May 12
Absolutely! Friendship is precious and must be taken care of with great virtues in life,
@rave700 (247)
• Philippines
23 May 12
I agree friendship must have been the best thing that we have in each our lives..and that I'll treasure for sure..thanks for all of your advice...:]
• Philippines
6 May 12
nah, i felt that to my bestfriend too.. try this (this what i did): ask her what's her reaction about a situation that bestfriends will turn to lovers.. that a safe way and her answer will give you a clue about your first move :))
@laydee (12814)
• Philippines
7 May 12
But first think about real friends becoming lovers scenario and don't go saying those things in an instant, try not to be too obvious. Don't worry, you'll know she likes you too (even if she seems against it) if she's really curious and interested of what your answer to that question would be.
• Philippines
7 May 12
Hi, I don't know what must be the best option for you to do since I didn't have any experience like this one,but all I can say, It's hard to hide your true feelings for her. Time will come that she will notice that feelings of yours, so you have to choose between your friendship or your love for her. Just an advise.
@babyEj (1525)
• Philippines
7 May 12
true! girls can notice what do their loved ones feel towards them especially if you are both too attached,
@rkennedee (333)
23 May 12
what you need to do is to make sure of your feelings for her. A true friend is hard to find. If you are not sure about your feelings with her better stay as friends because having a relationship with her might just end up your friendship if you fail at the end. Have some space, mingle with other girls. In this way you can help yourself to tell what you really want.
@SIMPLYD (81469)
• Philippines
7 May 12
There's nothing wrong in falling for a friend. That usually happens, because a bond is created. It can really be a problem to you, because you don't if it will just be alright with your friend. Maybe you can ask for the help of your mutual friends. Ask them to "test the water". At least, your will know what to do next, when you know it will just be okay.
@narnia007 (1051)
• India
7 May 12
I had fallen for my best friend too.Many a instance,best friends become lovers.Its one of the most understandable and enjoyable relationship.If you ask any best friends marrying each other,they would have taken their relation to the next level just because they dont want to miss each others company in life.If you feel like that,go ahead with your feeling and express it to her.If she agrees,it will be great.But if she disagrees your relationship wont be the same as before.Even though both of you agree that you guys can remain ah friends,at some point of time,it wont go well and the present friendship will be in disaster.This is my experience.Decide yourself what you have to do.
@kukueye (1761)
• Malaysia
7 May 12
Friendship is sometime more better than romance. - Friendship may not be suitable to upgraded to romance.Beware.
Well,it is alwasy beautiful to have romance that started from good friendship, sometime it is better to remain good friendship , because not all friendship is suitable to be upgraded into romance, especially those friend who have many broken relationship , the trauma of friend romance relationship maybe too much for them, i guess only time will tell , better be close good friends as long as possible and let the feeling grow more until further notice.
7 May 12
i'm not telling you not to fall in love with your friend but for me i value friendship because true friend is hard to find but lover is anywhere.
• Philippines
7 May 12
That happens usually... Because of the closeness and the time you spend with each other made you fall for her... There is this connection that you, yourself, cannot deny. It is your decision to tell her or not. Think if you can keep the feeling to yourself, if you can supress it or not and for how long can you hide it to yourself... also consider the possibilities that she might be feeling the same way towards you too... and may be she is just waiting for you to take the first move.. remember girls don't make the first move... we just wait and answer back... It is you who can determine or weight things.. If you decide to tell her how you feel, dont forget to tell her that you are not expecting anything in return.. all you want is to be honest with her. And tell her that you fall for her because of her good qualities and you believe and hope that after your admittance her treatment to you will not change. And you believe that she is mature enough to understand. Good luck!
• United States
7 May 12
I have had friends who have done this, and sometimes, it works out, but then there are a lot of times where it doesn't, so don't let it ruin your friendship if it doesn't. I once dated my friend, and we tried to keep the friendship even after he asked to marry me, and I wasn't ready and didn't want to, but he was so insistent, and it drove me away. I wanted to just stay friends because I wasn't really in love with him, but he wanted more than that. I felt bad for him, but I didn't know what to do because he was making it complicated. Know your friend well is all I can say.
@babyEj (1525)
• Philippines
7 May 12
Examine your feelings before you make a step. It's kinda hard to break friendship after things might get rough.
@airasheila (5458)
• Philippines
6 May 12
good day rave700, same as you are i was also trapped in the same feeling. that i have fallen in love with my bestfriend. luckily he also feel the same way as i have felt, so we end up on the same bottom line.