it feels awful when others are more successful while you are not able

@hotsummer (10449)
Philippines
May 6, 2012 9:17pm CST
to make a stable living. that is why i don't try to classify myself as one of them. i just try to associate myself with people who have the same goals as me, which is not to have a high paying job but just to have a good life. not getting into much complications in life. and it also helps me to keep myself in my goal in life if i associate myself with people specially those who have same faith as i have. if i associate with people who are just into having good career and successful life, then i would be more focus in money and material things and would divert my attention to my main goal in life and would make me feel so low about myself.
12 responses
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
7 May 12
Hmm being successful does not necessarily mean someone who is into money and just the material things... it can be a whole different thing. i have friends who are successful, they have the money and the material yet they are not materialistic and are as humble as they can be. I like to be with them because i get to feel the positivities they have in life at the same time i acquire that too and it makes me strive for what i want instead of feeling awful with what i do not have. Instead they inspire me, motivates me to work more, to strive for what we need and at the same time be thankful for what i have.
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@cloud31 (5811)
7 May 12
You are right in everything you said. But being classified to people is not right.You may not know the one you are avoiding to be with you will be one of the instrument who can offer a better life opportunity. I don't and never classify myself to people around me.Some people helps me to grow and thought me of something... a lot of things about life. I avoid people who cannot give a good influence to me. Happy myLotting!
@SIMPLYD (81469)
• Philippines
7 May 12
I agree with you my friend in all that you said. Just try to mingle with them whenever you can. Who knows, they are the way , you can achieve some goals in your life. Just be happy you have friends of great stature. I know, they themselves would be happy to share some of their success with you, should you desire it.
@cloud31 (5811)
8 May 12
Exactly!! Thank you my friend.I got your point too. Great day ahead!
@CarlHalling (3629)
• United Kingdom
7 May 12
Gilded Youth... - Yes, my youth was once gilded indeed, but I failed to fulfill my true potential.
Yes, it does, it feels bad. In my case, I know I'm not as successful as I could be through my own mistakes, not through lack of merit. And that really hurts. But a good deal of the time, I try to focus on what I do have, rather than what I don't. And what I do have is far greater than any success: I have my Christian faith, a relationship with God, which I'd not trade for all the success, money and fame that has ever existed. So, why do I still yearn for success? Good question. I guess it's because I feel I haven't fulfilled my true potential, and becoming successful would make certain family members proud of me. I'd also be in a better position to benefir them. I'm not as young; nor as healthy as I once was, and this success of which I speak may never be mine. But...we'll see...we'll see...
• United Kingdom
7 May 12
Sorry; benefit, not benefir...
@kalav56 (11502)
• India
7 May 12
.The best way to get on in life is to just focus on your inherent strengths and try to do something based on this.When you are contented and work for your own satisfaction, everything else fades into insignificance.
@kalav56 (11502)
• India
7 May 12
Another important thing to follow is "you must feel happy looking at others who are less endowed than you are [by way of material or natural assets] you because your lot is much more fortunate than theirs."
@blue65packer (11835)
• United States
7 May 12
I just want to be able to have a better paying job! I am sick of living paycheck to paycheck! With the economy being crappy I am not going to look for another job! I am not going back to school because school was hard for me growing up! On top of that I am going on 50 and I am not in the mood to change careers! I am not a frugal person and never will be. I am a complainer and would not be surprised if I get an earful form you! I also am getting very cynical as I get older! Unless I win the lottery(which I really would do good with the moneyand be finanically secure) I'll live paycheck to paycheck!
@alberello (4755)
• Italy
7 May 12
Well, talking to you about myself, I can safely say that I did not feel like a failure if I can not reach the goals, where are the other make it. I do not want to be anything important, I just wanna be me! You think only of the fact that I am at the age of 34 years, still unemployed. What then should I say about this? Nothing! I still plan a future, long time, no hurry, everything is possible.
@SIMPLYD (81469)
• Philippines
7 May 12
Why do you have to think that way my friend. The measurement of success is not money and material things. It is the way we feel contented with our life. If you are happy and contented in life, then you are successful in life. Just like you, i chose to live simply. I may not have a very high paying job, but i can say that i am contented with what i have. Though, i want some things, i don't let them consume me. If i have them, fine. If not, then it's okay. For me that's success.
7 May 12
Please don't feel bad about it. Each one of us has different skills and capabilities. If you are going to base your success on what other people have achieved, you will never be satisfied and happy for what you have right now. My advice to you is to continue living a simple life. Material things are not the source of true happiness. Happy people are the ones who are satisfied with their own life even though they only have little things.
@allknowing (68647)
• India
7 May 12
Who are the others you are talking about? I will not compare myself such as with celebrities and their ilk. It does make sense however if you are side tracked because others around you are doing better than you. But if those that side track you can be ignored which you should then life is not as bad as you think it to be. Setting your own goals and trying to achieve them is the be-all-and-end-all-of-existence. And finally even the mediocre have a right to happiness. So what's the problem?
@hanuta (14)
• United States
7 May 12
I recently graduated college a little less than a year ago and I have a very hard time because I am constantly comparing myself to others who are more successful who graduated at the same time as me. My career is a difficult one to get in to and I need to remember that it isn't my fault I don't have a job yet and I'm not at the same level as others, but it is difficult. I try to be like you and just remember my main goals and that the things I've done will eventually help me.
@Devilova (5396)
• Indonesia
7 May 12
When the money in the only thing that we have in mind. We will do everything, even it could make other people get hurt, cheats, scammed, etc.
@viji_v2 (727)
• India
7 May 12
That is the wrong perception you have for yourself about life and winning in your goals. Just set your goal and plan for reaching it. After planning just execute those regularly without fail. Your scale to find your growth is comparing your previous work and the present. It is not with others, which would demoralize you mostly and wont let you think productively. Take care.