how do i deal with an unwanted friend?

Hi Dawn, First of all, there is no such thing as an "unwanted friend". Those two words just do not go together. I honestly don't think you should worry about being "fair" to this guy. Calling you at 4am just to chat is not fair at all. You need to be very firm with these types of people. Don't give him ear time at 4AM. Truthfully, if someone pulled that on me, I probably wouldn't want anything to do with them. I have to ask you this. How in the world did he get your phone # to begin with? I would just tell him straight out to stop calling. If he doesn't then change your number. Good luck with this! Let us know how it turns out.

:P that sounds like a pretty annoying issue. What you should down, is kind of tie down your relationships with that guy, or if you have the confidence, tell him about your feeling, he might understand, and if he doesn't, it's not worth to keep him as a friend.

My first impression is that,this person knows you that is why he just told you his personal problems or just chatted you so that he could not felt his loneliness.Tell him that it is better to talk in person rather than in the phone and besides you are still sleepy that you still need a nap.You can still have other options so that he would not bother to call you at a very early time.

You can filter the incoming calls to accept only the ones stored at your phonebooks. Or have your phone set to silent mode. It's easy, isn't it. It happens to me too, I always do not pick up phone whose number I don't know. It really irritates me, too you see.

May really surprise me immediately turn off my phone number and replace my card, let the man do not call anymore.

Just ignore him, i sure he will tired and begone, but remamber if you answer him, he will keep haunting you

Calling at that time is something that no normal person would do. I mean, it's just phone etiquette. Do you truly know the person? Is he in your country? Because if you don't know the guy, then why do you keep on answering? Further, if he's in another country, perhaps you need to tell him that it's still 4am in your area and he should call back if he wants to talk. If I were you, I'd probably just turn off my phone or block the number or just ignore the calls at 4am. You could also call your service provider and report the number of the person if you don't really know the person. I think receiving calls from someone you don't like is creepy, all the more because it happens at 4am! I'd probably nag him to oblivion! Have a great MyLot experience ahead!

Do you know this person, because from the way that you have described it here it almost sounds like you don't really know him but he might be someone who is a friend of a friend or something like that rather than your friend? Have you asked him to stop calling you and bothering you or at least have you asked him to call you at more appropriate times if you would like to continue to talk with him? If you want to talk with him, then you could tell him that he can call you back and give him times that are more appropriate to call you. In addition, you could tell him that you are not able to talk when he calls but ask for his phone number and tell him that you will call him back when you are able to talk.

I wouldn't really call that a friend, because I doubt very much the relationship is rather mutual. I would be rather irritated, but it would be something that might really be a problem. There is really something that needs to be done, but the letting this person down really has to be gentle but rather firm, so you do not come across as the villain. And of course, with some people, the more you try to push away, the more they really are going to cling on. Which really does make more drastic action. This is really a frustrating fix when you think about it. Of course, I don't know how nice I would really be at four o'clock right in the morning, because I get rather annoyed me people call me early in the morning for absurd manners.

You can unplug your phone while you sleep. Then he can't call anymore. Do you know him personally? How did he get your number and why does he know much about you? That's weird.

First thing's first, don't answer the call. You could even try changing numbers if needed. Or you could simply be frank to him saying that what he is doing is rude and uncalled for. And that if he wants to talk to you then he has to respect your schedule because you have work and other stuff to do.

I agree with what many have already given you as sound advice. I hope you take it all to heart. Unless it is an emergency, no true friend would call in the wee hours of the morning just to talk or complain. Log his number in your phone so when it comes up again you know it is him and you can ignore it. Let him leave you a message for you to get back to him at a more civilized time of day. That is fair.

May be he is someone you are familiar with, and he admired you but didnot have the gut to confess to you.But no matter what the reason it is and what he wants from you, it is really sick of him for calling you at 4 in the morning.Be careful and don't let out you private information to strangers.

you want to avoid him my friend he will disturb your parents .he will find you last so cancel him now

first see the phone number from which you are getting call..and make sure the call is getting from the same number or not.if it is the same number then stop receiving the call from the next time.if you are getting call from different numbers then it is difficult to know the call.

The first thing you should do is to make sure whether the call is from someone you really know.If you are certain that's someone you know,just tell him/her that you don't want to be bothered at the inconvenient time. But whether it's someone you know or not,try to keep yourself from being irritated by such situation.If the situation continues on,call the telecom company to help you solve this problem.Don't hesitate to ask the telecom company to forbid the number's calling to you.It's telecom company's responsibility to provide customers better services. Hope you solve this problem soon and find your peaceful life back!

It doesn't sound like an unwanted friend...sounds more like a stalker or prank calls. If you actually know the person try to tactfully tell him that you're busy and you'd like to be left undisturbed.And if you don't know him you should alert someone with more authority,like the police because it's not good if a stranger gets your number...I've never dealt with such a problem but I think that this can lead to some serious consequences...