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I think part of us loves the person we are missing. but not all that we miss are special to us. there can be moments in our lives we have experienced with the person and not usually spent with other person... I guess there are things that longs us to be with that person again but then not all times or we can't turn back time when we are still with them...

I am not sure I follow here, but you are right. Many in our past were just memories, so we don't really need to get back there. Some were special, bu still to me they were all belong to the past. I need to concentrate to the ones in the now times...

haha,yes of course..we have to focus on those people who are in the present times. but then, friends or people we knew from our past can be loved as well. it just depends on what situation it made you apart from each other or what...

[i]plan to be tough but ended like an ice cream melting under the heat of the sun.. start to have my PMSs cause i get depressed..:D[/i] Like what you said, even if you plan to be tough, you know deep inside of you, you're like an ice cream standing under the heat of the sun and melting slowly no matter how you tried not to... haha, yeah, starts to get PMS because of depression. But I know it's all part of missing someone and we can make use of it. We have to move forward and motivate ourselves not to get drowned by this bad feelings...

yes, definitely! We have to divert all those sadness to smiles and one of the reasons to smile is having ice cream around...care to have some? just dig in! most of the time, people, or mostly women divert their attention or depression to foods. Desserts are one of them. SO, most of the time, women gets fat that easily. Don't you notice it? Actually, I have noticed that most of my neighbors are all getting fat, and fatter. I have seen them since younger days and then, we are all getting big. I guess it also depends on how much you are earning and makes you feel like wanting to taste all foods out there!

yeah, indeed, we just need to motivate ourselves to divert our attention.. hmmm.. one good way of diverting is eating - ice cream.. lol

My husband and I met in my hometown in Laguna, he studies in there. Then after that he was assigned in his hometown in CDO. Now after getting married we are assigned here in Cebu... Haha, yes but calling him costs me a lot. I am using landline to call on his cellphone and each call sometimes lasts for an hour! No no, I don't think much of those happy moments that we have coz I will be missing them more, what I am just doing is try to text them or call them and after that I will be okay since I know that they are just there...

Okay, so i guess the time you spent together in Laguna is not that long, am i right? Well, it's really hard to be apart from the people whom you learned to love. It's good that you still communicate with each other even though your somehow...miles apart... I guess it is more irritating when you really want to be together but you can't cause of so many things... The more you're away from each other the more you feel like wanting to fly from where he is... Things like that really happens... it is part of our lives. we have to learn to cope being apart from the ones we loved and realize how we really loved and willing to wait for them no matter what... that's true love! you have to wait for the right time to be together... Hope that I'll find mine as well...

that's the problem when we can't do anything cause we live far from the person we miss.i wonder where did you first meet your bf that time if he is your husband now... i guess he wasn't really from cebu,is it? luckily,there's mobile phone available for you that time so you can still contact him... as time pass by,there can be eifferent people we miss specially those who we lived with the rest of our lives then we have lived separately from them. the family we'll always have... it is sad to miss them,but all you can do is think of happy things youve shared that makes life fun..

I am really not referring to anyone in here, gen! I was just imagining the feeling of missing someone and the fact that how we really feel when we miss them and how bad it is that we can't do anything about missing them. Well,yes it is hard when you know you miss someone but then you can't do anything about it. The feeling of looking back on things you have shared with them, the feeling of wanting to be with them again and thinking how life can be if they are still with you. Holding back the feelings you have for them can be hard as well. Cause by doing this when you know you can't be with them anymore, might really hurt you so bad. It's just the memories we have to keep from them. Those good times we have shared with them when remembered can bring tears to our eyes. Those bad things we have can bring us laughter as well. Isn't it funny when things turned out differently when we only have are the memories? When you have been too much attached to a certain person or thing, it is really hard for you to let go when you know it is over... That's why there's a saying, don't put all your love and attention to a single person cause when it's time to part ways, you will be the one who'll hurt the most that makes it hard for you to move on and live the life you should live...

yes dear I know the feeling.. I have been through a lot of sadness and pain in my life.. And I don't reminisce as I've said before.. Because I feel like, of all the trials I've been through, it's like, I don't wanna go back to that kind of situation again.. I hate being sad. I can't do anything when i am thinking of someone that it makes me super sad.. I only keep happy memories with me..Though I don't remember them exactly the way it happened, but still I cherish them.. Specially the memories I have with my mama.. I would admit there are some people who have made mark on my life. but since they are already in the past, then I don't reminisce anymore..Hahaha... Your reply sounds like a super lonely damsel.. You nedd to go out.. Come on. Starbucks tayo!!

Wow,great advice huh? Well, it's great that you have fought for your love. Sometimes we can't have all we want in life. That's just it. We have to learn that sometimes we have to mind other stuffs. There may be other things waiting for us and willing to be loved as well. It's just how we learn to accept them.

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yes, it is human nature to feel that we miss some people in our lives and we have to feel the pain of struggling to be happy despite of what we are feeling inside of us...the sadness will just fade away when we focus on things that we know will make us happy or just to avoid such too much thinking of that person or thing that we miss. we have to stand up and do things ahead of us and not feel to much burden of missing them...for in the end, it is our own responsibility to take care of ourselves. we deserve to be happy. and it's not just the only person that will make us happy. isn't it?

hello moongypsy! like you, i don't usually get close to others too much... that's why when i find people who i can talk to and be friends with them, if i can feel i always like being or talking with them, it's hard for me to just stop being with them when time comes we have to live separately... i don't know. that's why i don't like being attached with people cause if i have loved them, i find it hard to let go...

Haha, nice one but i am not in the mood for such jokes, if it was a joke,brother! true, we can feel secured when we have heard from them and let them know we miss them...we might not say the words but then the effort of reaching out to them again after such a long time.is still a good thing. but not all people wanted to hear from us. there are times, things got too complicated that even if how much you miss the person, you can't go on and say hi to them again...they may live different now but then it is just the memories and thoughts of them that we still miss those times we have sharreed with them...just the fact that it can't be happen again that's why it can make us feel sad...

Haha, just as I thought, you'll quote that line... Yes, you are right. these memories makes our hearts and lives more happy cause if we miss a certain person, it means we loved them...well, not all people can be loved equally but then we know deep in our hearts how we miss and loved and accepted them whether a friend, loved one, relative or schoolmate or colleague, neighbor and so on so forth... What matters is that we have cherished and treasured those times we have shared and being thopught of is important, also to let them know that they are important and loved as well...

Yes, life has definitely no pause button cause it will always play even if we stop. even if we wanted to turn back time, we really can't. I don't know about time machines if they really do exist but i know things happen for a reason. people come in and out of our lives. we meet new ones that turn old and meet new another one and get old... life's like that. we sometimes want to stop but then the world will go on without waiting for us...we are just wasting time for stopping, right? and we just have to think positively and believe that things will turn out fine. we just have to have faith and trust in ourselves and God who created us...

Hello obe! if you have time to reminisce and look back on those times you shared with each other, i guess it's good to look back their faces way back since you were still together hanging out with each other. Sometimes pictures can really make us sad. The ones you see with you laughing or smiling can be the moment you will cry when you scan through the pages of it. It's because we can't be able to bring back those times happy times we had specially when we really can't be able to see those people again... But if they're still alive, yes we can email them or give them a letter. But then there are also instances that we can't do it cause things had gone different already. and we have to live separately. What remains is just the memories that is kept within us...

I think I know the person you are saying in here... well, I know he is just there for you. Even if you don't see him anymore. I know he is happy with what you are right now... I'm sorry if my topic makes you sad...but we all can be sad when we miss someone specially when we really missed that special someone in our lives...

At least we get the chance to get to know those people who have been a part of our lives. Well, as they say, all of the things and people in here are just from God who llend us all to us. We should be happy and thankful that we have had moments to know these people and treasure in our hearts what we shared with them. It's good from time to time let them know how are we doing and vice versa. Having friends or people who have touched our lives is a wonderful thing to happen to all of us...

yes, true! We certainly miss them and those things we have shared with them... then connecting with them again. but then sometimes you don't know how to connect with them and worst, you can't connect with them again... Well, i think we do experience missing someone cause it tests our love and concern about them. how we truly loved them or just miss being with them... I know people sometimes just pass by and we can't force them or time to be with them again...

Hello there, jshekhar! Yeah, it's good to divert your thinking on things you love doing. As you said, you like sports. You are right that if we do things we enjoy doing, we can forget about what happened and the things or people we miss might be forgotten. But then not to the extent that you can really forget about them. It's just keeping yourself busy and try to think more positively that things will be okay. And you will be okay even if those people are gone and never to be seen again... It's just the memories that you have to look back and keep in your heart and think of happiness for yourself cause if they can see you right now, they would really want you to be happy even without them by your side...

Oh, glorycam, so sad to hear about the incident... I know the feeling of never having the chance to see your loved one again... It is a very painful thing to happen that most of us wouldn't really want to experience. But then life is really like that. We all have to face the end whether or not we're ready to. People who have been a part of our lives, whom we treasured the most and whom we have lived with the rest of our lives can be really hard to erase in our thoughts. So sorry that I made you feel uncomfortable in here, but then here it is. We have to save ourselves and don't put too much sadness in our lives. We have to move forward and learn to stand up after the fall. It is just a trial for us on how will we live when the people we love has taken away from us. I know it is really hard to live that way and unexpected things can happen so fast. You just have to stay calm. Breathe and remember those times you shared can be treasured in your heart and can't be erased. I know those happy days you shared can bring tears to your eyes, try to remember the bad things and see yourself smiling instead... I know it's hard but then you have to be brave cause God don't give us things we can't handle... He knows you can handle yourself now and the fact that you miss your dad, is just in your mind... I know he wants you to be happy and go on with your life!

I would say, missing is like part of us wants to be with that person or there's a feeling that we want to do with them again... I think there's a good side of missing a person. It makes us realize what are those things that we miss with them. Is it the fun when we are with them. The doings with each other, the places we go when we are together. The things we are doing, the memories we both made with each other... Makes us realize what life can bring when we are always together and now that we are not... May I ask, what do you really like, to just miss a person and never even wanting to be with them again or be with them and never let them go? Relationships can also have trials come their way and those trials are made to teach us how to stay with each other or go out and find our own ways...apart. If good things are memories, what are bad ones? it's still a memory. just a bad one! But those bad ones can bring smile to us when we know what we have done wrong. Or it can be hatred to people. Depends on the situation how bad it is. I think it can also be trials, to test our loyalty or faith and love to each other... How are things with you and your bf now? Have you seen each other and talk things so far? I hope things will come smoothly... Stay calm and talk to him in a good way. Starting things with loud voice can lead to being mad and annoyed that will make you more angry at each other. Be sure to know what you both want...

True, we can feel like there's something that has been pulled out of our chest that makes us hard to breathe and feel like empty. Sometimes we have to breathe and think of happy things that we may love to do just to avoid thinking of those people we miss. Yes, there can be tough times we don't know how to fill in and what to fill it with when something is quite missing in our own selves. It just takes time for us to realize and accept the fact that things go naturally and we have to move on and learn to face life with or without people with us...

I do believe people do come and go, in and out of our lives. Even if we don't like to part our ways to them, we have to cause we all have dreams and we have to go with it with or without the people we have in the present time. I know that memories spent with them can be treasured for a lifetime. Though good or bad it is, what matters is that we have shred something together and it would last ...in our memories,heart and mind. We just have to pray for them to be safe always and hope time will come, we'll meet again and be happy again...