Say something, please

@allknowing (55730)
India
May 9, 2012 11:02pm CST
O.K. You do not want to comment on the responses that you get for your topics for reasons best known to you but atleast let users know that you have read their response.Paying attention to selective responses can be annoying. Responding takes effort and if that response is totally ignored, it hurts! At best you could place an appropriate emoticon indicating that you have read the response! Users are watching you and soon there will be no one responding to you. You don't want that to happen surely
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@viji_v2 (727)
• India
10 May 12
I thought I am the only one to get hurt when the response is commented back by the starter, lol. If there are more responses and it is more than enough for me to read at that day, just giving a pause would refresh mind and we could give our views to others too. Even a 'thank you' would make them happy. :-)
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• Philippines
10 May 12
a simple thank you would really truly make our day. and would bring a smile in our lips. :)
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@allknowing (55730)
• India
10 May 12
This is a general observation viji not just relating to me. This is a discussion site - just like having a conversation and when someone says something and you keep mum surely that is not the done thing!
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• Philippines
10 May 12
Be careful, saying "thank you" is one of the Don'ts in the guidelines. A thank you and a short line would do, perhaps.
@Suebee (2013)
• Canada
10 May 12
I'm with you on this one allknowing. I try to respond to each post. After all, it is only the polite thing to do. I may miss some by mistake, or not respond as quickly as I should i.e. if I have to leave to go to work or am otherwise busy for a day or two, but I do try to go back and respond to them eventually. It makes for a better discussion if you respond. And besides, the more I type, the more money I make so if I can respond and get you to respond to my response the money just keeps on coming! HAPPY MYLOTTING
• Philippines
10 May 12
yes we do have some other chores and important thing to do but we never did or maybe sometimes forget to respond to the responses we have in our discussions. but atleast we did our best to respond to them and made them feel welcome in our discussion and thanking them for the effort and ideas they have shared with us.. surely... a happy mylotting :)
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@Suebee (2013)
• Canada
10 May 12
After all, it is only common courtesy.
• Philippines
10 May 12
yes my friend it is. its nice to see responses from fellow mylotter. they would truly bring a sunny bright smile for us. :)
• India
10 May 12
YES! I don't want that to happen surely,anytime,anywhere. myLot is like a site for offline chat and it does not mean courtesy and does not seem good when you don't reply back to the offline message sent to you.Same as it, when you don't reply to a response,it is annoying.And it is more annoying when your box is left alone and all others are filled with comments.I know how it would be, just like you are avoiding a person's suggestion and responding to all others'! Most of the discussions i started replying with,at the beginning would be like that.Those people would and had never come back to give a reply there into my box,not on anyone else boxes as well.It does hurt! MyLot says we are supposed to respond back to the responses we get and anything that furthers the discussion is welcome.I'm afraid some of them don't understand this and later blame their earnings weren't up to expectations in here. But what if the user was in a hurry and didn't notice your response? Unfortunately i can't use emots now!
@allknowing (55730)
• India
10 May 12
There are exceptions to rules shrinithi. It happens sometimes that responses/comments are not noticed. This happens to all of us and those kind of slips are not considered lack of courtesy or whatever.
• India
10 May 12
So, how was your situation? I mean it was like not noticing kind or like lack of courtesy kind-i mean they have seen and read your response but failed to comment kind?
@allknowing (55730)
• India
10 May 12
This had nothing to do with me but a general observation. One can easily know whether it was a slip or whether that user is in the habit of not coming back.
@jureathome (5363)
• Philippines
10 May 12
That's true. I think there are still those who don't realize that responding back to people who gave their comments on their topic is what they should be doing and would get to earn them more, here. When I was new, I wasn't very conscious about responding back, probably only to a few. But, I later realized that responding back to further the discussion is what mylot is all about.
@allknowing (55730)
• India
10 May 12
You have 'arrived' jureathome!. Keep it up!
• Philippines
10 May 12
I actually enjoy doing that now. It's the first thing I do everyday. Check on responses on my topics, and comment back. Then I look for other topics to respond to. It also gives me a good reason to think of a good topic to talk about, so I would get responses and a discussion is happening.
@allknowing (55730)
• India
10 May 12
@akp100 (13193)
• India
10 May 12
Hi allknowing That's so true.. Users should take care of all responses of his/her own discussions. You are right even smiley can do the trick.. But leaving box blank can discourage that user.. Personally i don't mind it. And about my discussion, I used to give reply to each and every response i get for my discussion.
@viji_v2 (727)
• India
10 May 12
So you are a superfast train? Lol
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• Philippines
10 May 12
unfortunately i cannot used the smileys yet. so i would truly have my time to check every now and then those blank spaces. just to let my other mylotter know that they are being thanked for their time :)
@allknowing (55730)
• India
10 May 12
@jhelaimlim -ice to see you are creating your own emoticons! :). You better put on your skates and see that you reach your 200th post when you will be able to use those emoticon with gay abandon!
@carmelanirel (21108)
• United States
11 May 12
About time I got in here, kept getting that error message and couldn't sign in. I understand and I do mark everyone + on my posts, but if I don't respond, it might be because I don't know what to say. And it's against the guidelines to just say "thank you" so if I ever offended you by not replying allknowing, at least know I did rate you +...
@allknowing (55730)
• India
13 May 12
I am just generalising. As you will agree this is a common thing that happens here. Some get comments and some are left fallow. Just so that they know that their responses/comments are read atleast a pleasant emoticon could be left there.
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• United States
13 May 12
Oh, like you and lamby started off with? So just leaving an emote is okay?
• United States
13 May 12
@sishy7 (27247)
• Australia
10 May 12
I know what you mean... Being ignored is upsetting; but I can somewhat understand if I see there are also other responders who were being ignored along with me. What upsets me most is when I was being singled out to be ignored while the OP commented to all the other responses above and below my box. Yeah, that happened to me; I did not want to take it personally, but it's pretty hard not to do so. My response in that particular incident was not offensive or violating any guidelines at all; and I can't see how it was just an overlook.
@allknowing (55730)
• India
10 May 12
This happens occasionally and I only hope whoever has done that to you will respond to this topic and realise how hurting it is to ignore responses/comments selectively.
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@sishy7 (27247)
• Australia
10 May 12
I haven't seen that particular member in this topic yet... Anyway, I've put that incident behind me and moved on; until I read your topic, that is...
@allknowing (55730)
• India
10 May 12
• India
10 May 12
I know it will be discouraging the people who respond to me. I usually don't discourage anybody. I used to comment back to their responses.
• Philippines
10 May 12
nice one.. encourage by responding back. that would truly give smiles to our fellow mylotter :)
@allknowing (55730)
• India
10 May 12
• India
10 May 12
thats what i can only do dear
@adforme (2116)
10 May 12
I agree with you. It is always a good idea to respond to your responders. It lets them know you appreciate their participation. If the starters of discussions are not being sincere, it shows when they could care less to acknowledge the response with feedback or a thank you. Sometimes, maybe a discussion starter can't always follow up with those who responded, but it doesn't hurt to try. After all, the responder is responding to a discussion that was posed, so an exchange of communication should follow.
@allknowing (55730)
• India
10 May 12
This has been said before several times by veterans that "you type you earn I type I earn." This itself should be motivation enough for people to respond courtesy being secondary!
@adforme (2116)
10 May 12
It's for good mylot fellowship as well.
@lampar (7597)
• United States
10 May 12
May be that is one of the main reasons why some discussion topic remain within the no responses tab for weeks or months. I guess soon or later nobody is going to be interested in responding to some one who doesn't like to say somethings to her own topic, or even show an appreciation through the use of an approriate emoticon due to lack of interests. There is always better thing to do than post responses to someone who never comment back to her own discussion, let not forget about it.
@allknowing (55730)
• India
10 May 12
They do not realise that if they do not comment they don't earn. Ultimately it is their loss but the one who responds will like it if their responses get their due.
@lampar (7597)
• United States
11 May 12
I have long forgave and forgotten members of such peculiar manner toward my responses. May be they are too shy and inhibit personally even to leave an emoticon or short T.Y note. I just like to think of the bright side all the time on people without feel discouragement due to few inaction. Just have to move on and continue Happy Mylotting@!
• United States
10 May 12
I always respond to the posts that actually put some thought and time into the responses.Don't know who you are talking about... But if the topic stays open for a while and people just add things that have already been said, or don't add anything new, do you still respond?
• Philippines
10 May 12
sometimes i still do. even if the ideas and responses are just like the ones being used or responded by another mylotter. well, whats important is we give time to respond to them to thank them and just being plain grateful of their time and ideas. :)
@allknowing (55730)
• India
10 May 12
Atleast the first response that comes from a user needs attention. I am not talking of any one in particular but a general observation and not necessarily relating to me per se. @jhelalimlim - It makes this site a nice place if your suggestions are implemented!
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
13 May 12
I am like you. I like to be involved in active discussions too. I think that it is nice to be acknowledged and because of the fact we can not repeat discussions, I think it is appropriate to take full advantage of the ones we start. The only way to do that is participate. Take care.
@allknowing (55730)
• India
14 May 12
@vandana7 (57466)
• India
11 May 12
Not always intentional. :) It could be that I've responded and myLot decided not to record it. :) Or I had to attend to something else that was more urgent. In the process I forgot. If I have done that, I am truly sorry. I do try to go back to my discussions and check.
@allknowing (55730)
• India
13 May 12
This is a general observation vandana. But if you feel you have neglected some, then a mere 'sorry' is not enough. Just go back there and make amends!
@ryanong (9697)
• Vietnam
10 May 12
I always try to reply all responses in my topics because i really care the others thought of my topics.
@allknowing (55730)
• India
10 May 12
And if your replies have quality they will earn for you.
• United States
10 May 12
When I have nothing to say back I will leave a hands up and move on. some people don't respond with anything for me to respond back to. this is a nice post. take care.
@allknowing (55730)
• India
10 May 12
It is not always that responses generate quality comments but just an indication that the responses have been read will go a long way in creating a conducive atmosphere here!
@GardenGerty (90967)
• Marion, Kansas
10 May 12
You can always keep hoping that they will acknowledge the fact that you have given of your time to leave a response on their discussion.
@allknowing (55730)
• India
10 May 12
It is not universal as you think GG. Many do not do it. I am not talking about me but I have noticed so many responses that are left fallow!
• Philippines
10 May 12
i really surely do not want to.. so sad i cannot do the emoticons.. it would still bring me to a lot more discussing and commenting and reading to do.. :) but though i am still have fun reading :)
@allknowing (55730)
• India
10 May 12
I will comment on both your responses here - a privileged person to get two booxes! You have to say something appropriate to the topic else your comment/response will be deleted. An emoticon and in your case a typed one as you have done here will suffice I feel! :-)
• Philippines
10 May 12
Can I also say: our weather is doing fine! yahoo! meaning the clothes will be dried soon... then another batch of clothes to the laundry bin.. anyway, can we talk anything here my friend? it would be nice.. right? :)