Starting to Live Alone Again

Hmm,Limechavez05, given what you've mentioned to us, you really have a lot of issues to work out.., and quickly! In my opinion, perhaps in hindsight, when you and your partner decided to live together, it would appear that there were 'personal and collective' issues that were to be addressed, but over time, were not sorted out in an amicable way. (I could be wrong.., I hope I am wrong) Limechavez05, could'nt you try to resolve those issues while living with this gentleman? Certainly, having lived with him, there must have been enough love and understanding being shared between him and yourself; to allow you to seek appropriate help at working through the difficult issues together? Interestingly, you do not need to be alone or separated in order to learn how to cook, be more disciplined, and a better manager of your time and other resources etc. I think that if the truth is known, It would appear that the quality of your relationship has been deteriorating over time, and perhaps, you have already had second thoughts about the decision to whether you want to continue sharinfg your life with this individual. If you decide to part company with this gentleman, then it would be better if you 'cut the ties' quickly and move on. Why? I cannot understand why would anyone separate from their partner (by moving out) and still want to be involved with him/her in an intimate way? That thought will be thwarted with flaws. Limecheavez05, I think that you have to make up your mind, and be clear about it; because if you don't, he shall certainly decide for you. Ooh, having decided to be separated from your partner (after living together for 2 years), you may have to be prepared to use more of your own resources to learn those things- while being alone or by being with another partner. Seek the help from 'trusted' relatives or close friends; so that you're not exploited. Best of luck, ok?

I understand your feelings. My husband and I have been married for almost five years. And I'm pretty sure our marriage has just fallen apart. So we will more than likely each be going our separate ways. I will have to get an apartment for my daughter and I. I will have to take care of myself and my daughter financially. It will not be an easy task to accomplish. I too hope that you get things sorted out soon.

Lime, I'm seeing myself to you and it is almost the same like we're both on the exact page. It happened to me before. I want to share this to encourage you more in getting back the life that you've always wanted. I was 19 when I met this guy; he was my trainee before when I got promoted as a Team leader in Rice in a Box (Local food stall). We fell in love eventually after being friends for awhile as if it was like a match made in heaven. We have almost the same qualities and we do like each other a lot. We ate, shop, sleep and go together in almost all places. Weirdest part happen; it wasn't "me" anymore who's enjoying this relationship and it was so not "myself" wanting it. I grew tired, we got into fights from petty to the gruesome. Slowly he wasn't the man that "I've known before" and starts to be a bum while I work. I finally gave up after 2 years and 3 month unfruitful relationship. Everyone was surprise. But frankly as I speak; I told them it is going to be for the better. We kept hurting each other physically and emotionally and it is not getting productive anymore. This is for the benefit of us; to grow more and to learn from these mistakes of the past relationship we have. I have no regrets. I have that life back that I know it is pretty weird but I'm loving it better than before. It doesn't mean I'm lonely when I'm alone now. It is never being based in having relationships to be happy. We still see on yearly occasions but we both now the grounds. Aftreall; at the end of the day, it is going to be your choice. Make the most of having that opportunity to choose and I'm glad you did ^_^-)

Changes in our lives are bound to give us better perspectives. If you need time alone, meaning without your guy, to have better perspectives in life, then it is really up to you. Every individual has their own way of dealing with their issues. But honestly, if you only want to have a better perspectives of things, you can make it with or without him. It doesn't really depend if you two are together or not. Maybe you just fell out of love. When couples encounters problems along their way, they should always make time to talk about things TOGETHER, then find solutions TOGETHER. That is how couples should do in order to make their relationship go a long way. Love and respect should always be present.

Don't you love him anymore?

Your situation sounds so sad but I completely understand you when you say it is not. There are times in our life when if we are so attached to other person, we tend to lose sight of who we really are. We tend to lose ourselves in the process of sharing it to others. And nothing is more sad than losing oneself because of giving too much. Those getting used to being alone will only be hard on the first part of your moving on and reclaiming yourself, but trust me, it will be easier day after day. There will be a time when you will wake up missing your partner because he is no longer there by your side as you wake up, it will be hard, no one claim it will be easy. But the important thing to know is that you will get through it. You will be okay. And one say, you will wake up with a happy and contented heart because the first person you see in the morning is you, the real you.

Well you had a very lazy life untill now if you are not able to get at your work alone and not able to cook or eat alone. I think this all will go automatically and there is no need to make a problem out of that already before it started. Perhaps you should ask yourself first why you really don't want to live with him anymore. Write it down and keep that clearly in mind if thinks go less smoothy as you thought it would be. It will surely help you.

Of course everything will. What will help is your resilience; that you can accept your situation and not feel sorry for yourself. This is a crucial period for you, to get into things again, to learn how to do things on your own and for yourself. Enjoy this free time you have and don't be rushed into anything you don't want to do. In time you can decide what you can do that is best for you.