Is the way to your heart through your stomach?

United States
May 13, 2012 10:08am CST
I know they say this about men but what about women? Would you feel better about your guy if he made you dinner? I wouldn't! Funny, I love my guy Regardless of who cooks dinner! And I didn't feed him so he could fall for me. If the only way to a man's heart is through his stomach were true I would Never be loved Ever. I don't cook. And I don't expect my guy to make me dinner. I'm a picky eater anyway. I rather call for a pizza, something I Know I will like and then share it! How about you?
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@ShyBear88 (18618)
• United States
14 May 12
Good question I think it goes both ways for men and women. I think its nice when my hubby makes me dinner. He doesn't do it every night but when he does offer to cook dinner I'm very happy and excited to see what he does. I won't lie to him if it sucks it suck if it's good it's good. He always cooks something that I do like I try to do the same for him when I cook as well. If he doesn't like what ever I make of put on the plate he doesn't have to eat it. It's okay it won't hurt my feelings but the good thing is do know what he does and doesn't like. If his idea of dinner is bring over pizza I'm okay with that as well. For some people food is a nice gester and others it'll be different.
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• United States
14 May 12
I'm a very picky eater. I won't eat what I don't like and I would fear about what would happen if I didn't like it. That thought would make me too anxious to eat.
@ShyBear88 (18618)
• United States
14 May 12
Most people will ask before they make something for another person if they like this or that. I've always asked people and if they don't like it, it's not a big deal at all.
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• United States
15 May 12
It is a big deal to me. You go to the trouble to fix something and I don't like it , I would be really sad.
• United States
20 May 12
I don't think it's the cooking that is the reason why your stomach is said to be the path to your heart. It's a sign that they care. The cooker wants you to be happy and eat well. My boyfriend of 4 years and I are box food people. Hamburger helper and homestyle bakes are staples in my home. He cooks them a lot because I work nights so when i get up it's his dinner time. It makes it easier that he does that. i don't think i would love him less if he didn't but it sure nice that he is willing to make my day smoother. The days he decides not to cook are Hot Pocket days. LOL
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• United States
21 May 12
" It's a sign that they care." That means I will Never show I care to my guy and I Never want him to show me either! Funny I rather he show me in a better way as we wait for the pizza to arrive! Thankfully he agrees.
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@berting600 (3458)
• Philippines
13 May 12
I respect your culture when you are not fun of cooking your meals.Here in the Philippines when someone who is in love and would like to make his/her lover loves them more,cooking them is more than offering your real love to your lover.It denotes that you are definitely ready to be married to the person.Cooking and and knowing more dishes is a plus points to those people who are in love so that they could make their lovers more attracted to them.Cooking them some meals is a show of thoughtfulness to your lover.
• United States
13 May 12
Wow!If I were born in the Philippines, my mom would have disowned me, lol! I wouldn't even try to learn how to cook. No guy would want me!
@inertia4 (27792)
• United States
14 May 12
I used to take the easy way out. I still do sometimes. But because I have to eat a certain way, I need to have real food. T does cook and she is a good cook. But she does not cook like the ex did. I don't mean taste wise, I mean all the time. I also do not push her to cook. I know how she is. I live in my parents house in the apartment upstairs with her. My mother, to this day insists on cooking. I think that keeps her going. So we basically eat down stairs with them. She loves to cook and loves to have family around. It's an italian thing. But a few days a week T cooks and we chill watching TV.
• United States
14 May 12
But it wasn't T's cooking that made you fall for her. I was told that so I never thought I would have a love me . So I would say , let her have his heart , I'll have the rest. Do your mom and T get along? Has T learned any of Mom's recipes?
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@inertia4 (27792)
• United States
14 May 12
T and my mother get along real well. She knows how to cook lots of things when she is in the mood. Although her twin sister is a good cook and she actually loves to cook. Her mother is also one of those old time italians that cook awesome. So between my mother, her mother, we always have wonderful meals. No, I did not fall in love with T for her cooking. It was her, nothing else. My evil ex did learn a lot from my mother when it came to cooking. She was Polish and learned all the italian dishes. So she was actually a good cook and strangely enough she does love to cook. But like you said that has nothing to do with it. My family and T's family are almost alike. We all have the same memories and everyone knows everyone indirectly from years ago. They basically new mutual people in the old neighborhood. So it works out real good.
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• United States
16 May 12
That is sweet that evil ex learned to cook Italian. That is the nicest thing you have said about her. I'm glad your family and T's family are so close!
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@GreenMoo (11842)
14 May 12
I seem to spend half my life cooking these days, but I don't remember either of us cooking in the early days. I like it when he cooks for me because it makes a change from doing it myself, and he likes it when I cook him something special because he likes to eat. I'm certain it's not why we're together though.
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14 May 12
i think me and my partner cooked more in the early days than we do now lol!
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• United States
14 May 12
For us these are the early days and I don't cook.
• Canada
1 Jun 12
My husband is a fantastic cook, but that's not what I love most about him. I love the way he loves me, and the way we can work together. If he only loved me because I make sure we have money at the end of the month, and if I only loved him because he could cook, it would be a pretty shallow relationship.
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• United States
1 Jun 12
welcome to many people's world! It is so sad.
@JenInTN (27564)
• United States
19 May 12
I pretty much like my guy all the time too...lol. He does cook but that isn't why I like him...it helps but it's not the reason. I think that saying goes back to the 50s when they made those horrible cookbooks that taught women "how to be women." I had the chance to read some of them in a class I took about pop culture and it was crazy the stuff that was in those books. That was when processed food came out pretty strong and the cookbooks were really advocating it.
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• United States
20 May 12
Well my mom was a product of the Susie housewife stages but she was a feminist. and what did she bore? A male chauvinist/ tom boy for a baby daughter. When most girls were in the kitchen learning how to cook, I was out playing with my friends, half were boys. One of the reasons I will Never marry is because I respect men's rights!Long Story. Anyway that is why I never learned from my mom how to cook.
14 May 12
i think my cooking was a large part of why my other half seen such a rosey future with me.. but it isn't why she fell inlove with me. it was merely a bonus :) .. she doesn't cook, and i feel exactly the same way about her as she does about me lol! she just thinks im more awesome because i can cook lol!
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• United States
14 May 12
I could care less if my guy can cook or not. He seems to feel the same. I am a chef's worse nightmare! All the dishes he makes at work, I will never try! I prefer pizza.
@jillhill (37383)
• United States
13 May 12
I used to be a good cook but living alone I think you lose it...and I know more men then women that cook! I don't know if its the way to anyone's heart...I haven't found it to be true!
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• United States
13 May 12
I think cooking is like riding a bike, once you learn it , you never forget.
• Philippines
13 May 12
That notion is not necessarily true for everyone. As for me, a guy who knows how to cook and cook well at that is admirable. Going out of his way to prepare dinner for me is definitely a plus point in my book. The way to my heart isn't through my stomach but the thoughtfulness,the effort in cooking is.
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• United States
13 May 12
I rather my guy be thoughtful in other ways.
@JJ4Ever (4696)
• United States
15 May 12
No, the way to my heart is definitely not through my stomach! I think a guy who knows how to cook is a plus, but it didn't make or break the relationship for my husband and me. Lucky for me, he does know how to cook, but I still cook a bit more for the two of us. My husband likes to cook from scratch whereas I always follow a recipe. I think we complement each other well in the culinary department, but I'd still love my man just the same if he didn't know how to cook! I have a couple girlfriends who don't bake or cook at all whatsoever, and their men are ok with it! I think either way, we will find a way to eat lol. So it doesn't matter if people can cook or not! They can always learn to cook, and if they don't enjoy it, then someone else will cook for them (like at a restaurant or something).