Protective mother

Hong Kong
May 14, 2012 10:55pm CST
Do you have a protective mother? How to deal with the protectiveness? Is there a way to persuade her that her child has grown up, and can be responsible for what he/ she does? I don't know how to breakthrough the protection while at the same time acknowledge her efforts on protecting.
4 responses
• Philippines
15 May 12
I don't have a protective mother and I'm really happy for that but that doesn't mean that she had not been a good mother to me and siblings. I think she had taught everything we'll need to survive life, she had shaped us to be strong emotionally, mentally and spiritually. She had taught us what freedom is like and learn independence when it comes to decision making. But she had not been inadequate in guiding us as well, so I'm really happy that I've been lucky to be given a good and wonderful mother such as her. And because of this, I think I won't be able to give you a useful advice because I've never been in a situation like yours, I'm sorry. But, can't you tell her directly on what and how you feel about this? Maybe when you and your Mom had a good talk it'll get through her and she'll probably understand you.
• Hong Kong
15 May 12
Had talked for a few times. It hurt both of us. perhaps I'm not that communicable type of person, and my mum is quite childlike and rigid. Both at the same time.
@haopee (494)
• Philippines
15 May 12
How old are you? Mothers can be extremely protective when it comes to their children who aren't of legal age yet. You could always become more independent. My mom used to baby me to the extent of embarrassing me, saying things like, "My daughter doesn't eat foods bought from a street vendor" when in actuality I love eating street foods. During my college years, I started cooking for myself and helping in the chores aside from washing my own stuff. I also saved some of my allowance so I can afford things I need for school. After I graduated, I moved out of my mom's house so I could live independently.
• Hong Kong
15 May 12
Well, I'm a grown up.
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
15 May 12
talk to her and then show her that is the only way to assure mothers and do not ever break her trust or else she will go nuts. i know, i am a mom.
• Hong Kong
15 May 12
In what way will a child breaks mother's trust?
@chiyosan (30205)
• Philippines
15 May 12
Yeah... I think i do have a protective mother. she has to be like that with me because i am the only girl in the family... and well i guess it is not so bad, she just cares for us, a way too much though at times but she is really manageable. :D