exhausted - emotionally,physically, mentally

@jazel_juan (15767)
Philippines
May 14, 2012 11:55pm CST
i feel all of those right now. maybe this is just due to my flu that i am having right now and that is why i feel those. i also feel like mad right now as that vacation i was telling about here might not push thru and i am pretty mad at my hubby for doing that. he said we might not have the money for that grrrr i did gave him money to keep for our fare, the other day he said he used it and will replace it since his salary is coming...now i am confirming our travel he said he does not have enough as he used his salary for his business ( he have a shirt printing business line) now i am pissed off. but i do have an extra money here but i do not want to spend it as i will still need it for my the kids this coming june and i do not want to use that plus there are bills to pay. The extra money was with him - the one i gave him and now it is gone. I understand that he used it for business BUT it isn't fare. i am errr..was really looking for the trip and now i do not know if we will go or not. i will definitely talk to him tonight and see how it will go. and yes i am tired emotionally, physically and mentally. i feel like crying , i feel like crap and i feel so down. but i do not want to be defeated by this, i do not want to wake up with puffy eyes again so i did not cry last night, instead i pushed it out of my mind, hugged my kids and slept. and tonight, yes i will really talk to him... he is just so preoccupied again with his business and is promoting it on facebook that he is ignoring me, i texted him today to confirm our plans and got no reply. i even vomited as i am not really feeling well but i could not leave the office as we are understaffed.. and i told him i am not feeling now and i got no reply.
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13 responses
• United States
15 May 12
I do hope by now he reached out to call you back.. The business is going to be there and he needs to be there for you. I hope you get to go on your desired vacation because it will be nice for both of you..
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@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
16 May 12
Yes we did talk about it gifts and we were able to compromise things, communication is still the best. i am glad that everything is sorted out now. phew!
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@GardenGerty (99286)
• United States
16 May 12
That is a relief. You need a vacation every now and then. Glad he did contact you and you could talk and compromise.
@gaiza12 (4889)
• Philippines
15 May 12
Oh, that is so sad. If I had a planned vacation that has possibilities of not being pushed through, I think I will feel sick as well . You're husband might be busy that is why he was not able to respond to your text. He might be busy finishing the job and doing all he can to gain from his business so you can still go through your planned vacation. If ever it will really not happen, don't get angry with your husband. Instead, try to understand his reasons. Maybe he was trying to save up money for your children's tuition and needs for this school year. Also, there is always a next time. Maybe you can go on vacation during sem-break. Maybe then both of you will have enough more money to spend for that vacation.
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@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
15 May 12
Yes that is quite rationale... and yes i am past the pissed off mode now.. thinking of it rationally now.
@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
15 May 12
Oh dear... I am too distant to be around you to console you but still I think a warm should make you feel a little better. I can very well understand your feelings as many a times, my plans for some vacations too get destroyed and murdered because of my wife not getting the leave or the leave getting canceled. We do fight that time (okay so what if those fights are pillow fights) but that no vacation hurts both. For the flu, the best I can recommend is to visit the doctor at the earliest and get checked/diagnosed. As vomiting makes many ailments severe and is not a good sign. For the hubby getting engrossed in business, do you have a season coming up ahead? I have seen some people who prepare things right before a season of sales. Maybe you too have one of those seasons ahead where you do some brisk business and quick money comes in Take care dear
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@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
15 May 12
well i do not know what to think anymore and i actually want to stop thinking right now. Gives me more headaches my dear. Oh well, i still have tonight to talk to him about it and i hope there won't be pillow fights
@palonghorn (5486)
• United States
15 May 12
Seems to me he is consumed (a little too much) with his business. And it also sounds like you could have both used the vacation time away from it all. Me, being me, he would have known how mad I was as soon as I found out what he did! I would have told him in no uncertain terms how I feel about it. Maybe you should talk to him, and make it clear how you feel about what he did.
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@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
15 May 12
Right, he is to consumed and seemed to forgot i am here! i will really talk to him as i am tired with all of this..but i do not want a fight so i might as well talk and if it won't push thru then i will find a way on my own to relax. with or without him.
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@chi2nasrin (1103)
• Malaysia
16 May 12
I understand your disappointment... thank God for place such as Mylot, where you can pour your feelings out. I hope things will get better for you and that you can finally have your planned trip.
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
16 May 12
yes i am grateful for mylot, i have pour my heart out here so many times!
• United States
15 May 12
Oh, goodness! I agree with the other commenters. It's probably in the both of your best interests to find at least some time away from the stressers in your lives. His being his business, and yours being your flu and husband's business (lol!). Just take some time off, and try talking to him about finances and what your guys' goals are for it. Money is tight lately, which is understandable, but really, you guys must have some way of being more organized about money spending. You're a married couple, shouldn't he consult with you?
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
16 May 12
yes talking did helped.. oh well i need to take these things one step at a time..
@criss21d (13)
• Romania
15 May 12
sometimes people feel tired mentally just because of their stress...try to relax a bit,you could use some pills to relax or you could just be lazy and sleep all day long for some days.but the most important thing is to do just what you want,if you will do something you don't want,like being forced or something,you will stress about that and your mind will feel tired again.hope that helped
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
15 May 12
i never really tried to take some pills.. but yes sleeping helps a lot
@cher913 (25891)
• Canada
15 May 12
you should just rest for a little bit and get rid of the bug that you have. i know that when i am exhausted (i have fibromyalgia, so it happens fairly often when i over-tax myself), i just need to chill. its too bad that he doesnt see how involved he is and what he is missing out on.
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
15 May 12
yes i really do need the rest and how i wish i could.
@SIMPLYD (79688)
• Philippines
15 May 12
I can relate to that jazel. When all the while you think that the money you gave to your husband for something else was used for something "more important and will just be repaid" can really make a wife mad. But in your case, i think you should just try to understand your husband because anyway, it's for the family's financial stability. At any rate, drink lots of water, jazel for that colds of yours. It's what adds up to your anger to your husband. Chill!
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
15 May 12
i know, it is nice to know someone can relate well i am drinking a lot of water because this cold is really frustrating!
@lynboobsy11 (11346)
• Philippines
19 May 12
It is normal to happened for some headed plans, sometimes it works when your not preparing plans and just a surprise. It happened to me when I'm planning for future vacation with friends it did not push trough there is always reason for not going. I just take it positively I just thought maybe out trip might not be good that's why it did not go through. Get well soon friend don't worry there is always next time for vacation. Important thing is your still understand each other.
@GardenGerty (99286)
• United States
16 May 12
Man, I know how things are about money. We run into the same thing all the time. I have tried to set aside money for a trip but it is just not there. I am going anyway. Hubby has a summer temporary job every year and he says he will pay for the trip. I hope you get to feeling better really soon.
@shylade (3137)
• Philippines
16 May 12
Hi! Don't stress yourself too much. I always believe if one thing planned does not happen or push through, they is a big reason for that. God has always a better plan and your husband must be really hardworking if he is having a sideline business aside from his work. If you can go home early then much better. I had experienced almost a flu last Friday because of the ever changing weather but luckily it does not get worst. Chill, relax and don't think too much.
@freymind (1352)
• Philippines
16 May 12
I'm sorry to hear that your vacation isn't still confirmed and get well soon. Its better that you talk to your husband regarding this and tell him that you were really looking forward to the vacation. I guess what I can advise you is next time you can do the planning for your vacation so that it will go through as planned. I'm an OC when it comes to planning our vacation. My husband will just work while I do the planning while working as well. It gives me a peace of mind and we don't fight over it. He knows how much we need and we plan ahead like half a year before the date we planned so if in case we needed the money for other things we still have a few months to catch up. Hope the conversation you'll have with your hubby ends well.