A pet for my little girl

Philippines
May 15, 2012 1:55am CST
We used to have a black female labrador but we decided to give her to my in-laws because their place is more conducive for her growth. At our home, we can't let her off her chains because she is so energetic and would jump and bite on anything she sees on the way. But, as a lab, she needs to have ample space where she can run and freely move around. So, we had to send her off and we hope she'd be happier there. Now, we are planning to get a new pet for our little toddler. I can't decide which among our options would be best. I wanted something that doesn't need much space, less maintenance and not too big so she could take care of it herself. Our options are birds, fishes, turtles, rabbits or a small lapdog. I'm not a pet lover and never have I been a pet owner ever since i was a kid. So, I don't have much information about these animals. My husband would ask for my opinion, but I don't know which would be best for her and the many limitations in the house. What would you suggest for us to get?
14 responses
@MsTickle (24977)
• Australia
21 May 12
Forget it. I have been reading your responses and comments and I think a pet is not good for you or your child. Pets need love and care and heaps of maintenance. There are daily duties to perform and you have to teach the kid the proper way to handle, love and care for her pet. Kids have no real understanding of this because they are too young to be responsible for their pets. Please don't think you have to have a pet...you don't. I really think you would be better off if your home was pet free. Visit the park where people take their dogs or go to the zoo. Just do NOT indulge your ideas of pet ownership because you will be biting off more than you can chew.
• Philippines
21 May 12
Why do you think I should keep myself from giving my kid a better experience with pets? If I didn't grow up taking care of a pet, that doesn't necessarily mean that my daughters can't have pets, too. I'm not going to be forcing it to my daughter, but I see her fascination with animals. She even thinks stray cats are cute.
@MsTickle (24977)
• Australia
21 May 12
You don't seem to understand the reality that owning a pet is a huge responsibility and a fair bit of work. It's not all cute and sweet and funny and nice. Stray cats may look cute but they are not. Just because your child likes animals and finds them cute does not mean you have to own one. Pets can be dirty, smelly and sick, vets are expensive and need to be seen regularly to ensure the ongoing health of the pet. Pets need to be fed special diets...they cannot eat just anything. They need to be kept clean and trained. They need to be cleaned up after. Some pets can be destructive and some pets will bite or scratch and so on. Have you done any proper research on pet ownership other than asking here at myLot?? I'm betting you haven't. In case you are wondering, I have 2 goats, 3 dogs and a cat. I rescue animals that have been hurt and/or abandoned. If I could I would have many more animals around me but I know it's just not practical on many levels.
• Philippines
22 May 12
I appreciate your advice and warning, sweetie. But, my husband and I have given it some thought. We perfectly understand that there's a great deal of responsibility involved in owning a pet. At first I was hesitant, but now I'm ready to live with some animals at home. I am a mother, and I didn't study motherhood or finish college with such a course, but I learned to be a good mom. If I can take care of a human baby, I'm sure I can learn the ropes of being a pet owner. My husband has good experience in handling animals when he was younger. They also had goats, sheeps, ducks, chickens, dogs, cats and a monkey. So, he will spearhead training our kid on pet ownership, and I'd be there to learn a thing or two and supervise as well.
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@ShyBear88 (17540)
• United States
15 May 12
My sister in law start out with a fish because they are easy to take care of. I've always had animals in my house so when my daughter was born we had a dog till he tried to bit her after she started walking. He wasn't to happy then but he was still in his puppy age because dogs have a 3 year puppy age stage. So if you do get a dog I would get and older one that is over 3 and already trained. We are getting another dog next year after our second baby starts walking around. Fish are pretty simple of a child's first pet and for those that aren't really pet lovers. Turtles aren't to bad either but if that is something that your daughter likes then I would try to get a small one but they do get bigger as the tank gets bigger. Normally fish you don't have to clean after to often. That and with a new baby it should be perfect for you and your husband to hand a little fishy. Gold fish are easy to but they do tend to die pretty easy. Make sure to feed them at least once a day.
• Philippines
16 May 12
I guess fishes would be best. Although, we bought a dog for her, supposedly, but it was a big lab, and at her age, she can't really make a pet out of it. With fishes, she can do the feeding herself and just watching the fishes swim could also calm her down after a long day of playing and running around.
@ShyBear88 (17540)
• United States
16 May 12
Just because a fish isn't something that you can walk or play with it doesn't mean it's not a pet. You got to clean the tank and that takes a while you have to scrub it and then you have to worry about where to put the fish when your cleaning. You can always get more fish. For a kid to take on a dog depending on the age most likely you as the parent is going to be doing all the work. Big dogs need lot of space all dogs need to be walked daily they need training which kids don't always want to put in the world for training and some dogs don't see kids as there Alpha. You have to have a every outspoken child that will have authority in there voice when addressing a dog. Cat's are much easier then a dog. So are snakes. Rabbits I wouldn't go with because of the fact you have to clean after then a lot. Certain dogs need to be washed every few weeks. You need to be groomed, can just let there hair grow out and Lab's have fur. I'm assuming no one has allergies in your house. But pet hair can be annoying. I've always rather a hypoallergenic dogs. They are normally smaller breeds but they are mostly easier to handle with small kids and especially with with infants. Big dogs do well with infants it's just are you going to have time for a big dog and a big dogs needs. that is why it's important to do week if not months or years of looking.
• Philippines
16 May 12
I figured that a fish tank would need some cleaning - but I'm sure a weekly routine would do, right? For our lab, we had to clean up 2x a day. She poops too often, so we have to clean up everytime, otherwise, its really going to smell bad. And, oh my, she eats a lot.
@allknowing (66404)
• India
16 May 12
Since you say that you are not a pet lover getting a pet to a house that has someone who does not like pets is not advisable. And this applies to even kids. If there is someone in the house that does not like children they feel it and it affects them. May be you could get a toy that has all the features of a live pet.
• Philippines
16 May 12
I'm the only one who's not used to having pets. I've always been scared of dogs, especially those on the streets. But, my husband grew up in the province. They had many dogs, cats, sheeps, turkeys, goats and chickens. It's like a mini farm out there. And, he gets his turn to tend to those animals. I would want my kids to have pets, so they won't grow up ignorant, like me.
@allknowing (66404)
• India
16 May 12
You are the closest to your child and she will expect you to be there. Anyway I have seen how pets turn aggressive when some member of the household is indifferent to them. You may have to develop some fondness.
• Philippines
17 May 12
Right. For the dog we had before, I don't go near it or even touch it. But, I get to clean its house and feed it too. Despite my lack of knowledge and experience in handling a dog, I am emotionally attached. I would be the first one to wonder if the dog has already eaten, and if it rains, I would bug my husband to move her to a warmer place. I feel sad if anything happens to it. I just can't handle it with my own hands, but the heart is there. But, I think I can handle fishes or turtles or birds.
@ShadowSky (221)
• Bulgaria
15 May 12
I think that a turtle would be the best choice because it can hardly hurt a child and it's easy to take care of and the child can actually touch it.Birds and rabbits are,in my experience a little more difficult to take care of and when I was little I remember finding fishes boring because I couldn't touch them and I lost interest fast. By the way,why not a cat? Cats require a lot more care than fishes but they are not harder to take care of than a lapdog and they can hurt a child about as much as one.I was just wondering why weren't cats listed,that's all.
• Philippines
15 May 12
My brother had a turtle, but as far as I can remember, it wasn't very entertaining, and they smell funky. Here in our country, cats aren't really a common pet choice. There are a lot of stray cats, however. There are even stray cats that always attempts to sneak in our kitchen for food. And, they poop right in front out gates.
• Bulgaria
15 May 12
I guess you are right.I've never really had a turtle so I don't know how it actually is...Cats aren't popular?This is so strange because cats are a favorite pet in my country,maybe even more than dogs...Still,maybe you should consider a cat,it will be unique and cats are a lot of fun and don't require a walk every day which is the most difficult thing about owning a dog...
• Philippines
16 May 12
I know in the US and European countries, cats are special animals. But, here, you see them just everywhere, on the streets, the sidewalks and garbage area. There are only a few homes that take cats as pets, but even then, these cats are not as fluffy and good looking as those you have in your place.
@bellis716 (4806)
• United States
18 May 12
Birds and fish are animals that you'd have to take care of, and your child could only watch. A rabbit is a possibility, but you should remember that they are chewers. Research care of rabbits before you make that decision. I would suggest a mild-mannered dog a little larger than a lap dog. perhaps a cocker spaniel. Most very small dogs are too hyper to make a good companion for a toddler. Also, tiny dogs are fragile because of their lack of size. A toddler could easily hurt one.
• Philippines
18 May 12
What special care more than feeding and cleaning the cage or tank, is required for birds and fishes? I'm curious to know what you're referring to, because the rest of those who responded above said that these are the easiest to maintain.
@bellis716 (4806)
• United States
21 May 12
I was thinking more along of a companion for your child. Birds and fish, she could only watch. A small child would probably over feed fish. You would have to keep the aquarium clean and closely supervise the feeding. Some birds can be let out of their cage to fly around the room, but if someone opens an outside door, the bird would be gone. We had a parakeet once. It was just my husband and me at the time. It would fly around and land on our shoulder or a finger. However, it also chewed the top of our curtains and the top of our lampshades, while leaving its droppings on everything. We gave the bird to my mother-in-law, who taught it to say a few words. She had more time to spend talking to the bird than either my husband or I. Twice, we owned goldfish but got tired of them. We took them out to my parent's farm where we put them in the stock tank. There, they grew to be over a foot long. My mother enjoyed feeding them oatmeal after they got big.
• Philippines
21 May 12
Your mom is some kind of zookeeper..lol. I'm sure she enjoyed taking care of the pets you gave to her, and her passion for these animals manifests in how much they've grown and learned from her. I didn't know certain birds can also be that destructive if left out of the cage.
@freymind (1352)
• Philippines
16 May 12
I'm a dog lover so my suggestion could be biased but it would be best for you to get a small breed of dog for your little one. This could also be the start for you to be a pet lover and appreciate the love and loyalty a dog can give to its pack leader(master). If its not going to take too much of your time, you can watch The Dog Whisperer by Cesar Milan in NatGeo to learn more about dogs. Having a dog is a wonderful thing to experience and I can attest to that. But its still up to you and your husband. I hope I was of help in suggesting for you to get a pet dog.
• Philippines
16 May 12
Thanks freymind. What breed would you suggest for us to get for our 3yr old toddler?
@freymind (1352)
• Philippines
25 May 12
Personally I wanted a Pembroke Welsh Corgi since they are not that big plus they are very intelligent and protective of children if they are trained well by their owners. You can check this breed out. Also you can check this website: http://www.terrificpets.com/articles/102285465.asp They explain perfectly what you need to look for a dog for your toddler plus give you some breeds that would be best for your toddler. Good luck in finding a good and loving dog for your baby.
• Philippines
25 May 12
Thanks for that link. I'll read more through it. I'm surprised to see that bulldogs are recommended for small kids. Among the choices, I like the basset hound. A friend of mine has 3 of them, and they are really very tame. They just sit and lie and they like to get close to their owners. Are these the hush puppies model?
@factorial (982)
• Philippines
15 May 12
Birds maybe good to your child. Your child will surely be fascinated when the birds fly. Select birds with attractive colors. I hope your child will enjoy...
• Philippines
16 May 12
My inlaws have a big cage with a few lovebirds. I wanted to ask for a couple that we can take home for my daughter, but my husband discouraged me. He said the cats would go after it. Is that true?
• Philippines
19 May 12
Yes, cats will surely go after it. But just have a good cage so that cats can't enter.
• Philippines
20 May 12
Yeah, that's a neccessary investment to make if I want the birds to live long, and especially if they cost that much, too. I won't be very happy to find out that stray cats got my lovely birds.
• Indonesia
15 May 12
its dependence what your little girl behavior if she is to lazy to feed the animals i rather recommend you select turtle because they can survive 1 month with out food if she was energic always go outside i recommend a dog if she always in her room never go out side i suggest you choose a bird or fish and if she always play in back yard i sugest you to chose rabid
• Philippines
16 May 12
Those are good things to consider. My little girl can be trained to do the feeding herself, for the fish, bird or turtle. That would be a fun experience for her and she could learn how to be responsible with such task. She is energetic but I'm not comfortable having her play and run with the dog. You'll never know when the dog goes wild and might attack her. Unfortunately, our back yard doesn't have grass, so it may not be nice for the rabbits.
• Indonesia
16 May 12
so, you got the point,just choose what you want to be your little girl pet
@jdyrj777 (6556)
• United States
16 May 12
If you are not a pet person why get a pet at all??? Its not necessary. Usually the parents end up taking care of the pets of their children.
• Philippines
16 May 12
I'm not, but my husband is. And, well, that's why we're looking for an easy to maintain pet, so it doesn't take a pet-genius to keep it alive.
@Octav1 (1421)
• Romania
15 May 12
I suggest you to get a fish tank. Add a few small, cheap fish and let your daughter take care of them. This will include not only feeding after a schedule but also cleaning the tank regularly. I think this would be the best option for you. Fish don't make noises, they don't make a mess and they are not dangerous for kids.
• Philippines
16 May 12
That's right, fishes are gentle creatures and there's no need to carry them or watch out for them. I think its a stress reliver to watch them swim in the tank.
@KingEric (80)
• Philippines
15 May 12
I think a bird can be less tedious as a pet compared to the other animals you noted here. If you have fishes, you need to clean the bowl or aquarium... that would really take a lot of energy (I think). I never had a turtle and rabbit for a pet so I can't say anything about how to take care of them. Small lapdog would be nice but it's still a dog. It can bite or scratch your furniture. Think of having a bird as a pet. You only need to feed it, wash the cage and enjoy how it sings or flies in her cage.
• Philippines
16 May 12
Birds would be nice, too. I'm just concerned that some stray cats (they easily get through our gates, somehow) might hurt them. I don't know if that's true about cats. Also, what type of bird would you recommend?
@silverglint (2001)
• Philippines
15 May 12
We used to buy fishes for my boys, but they always die after a few days, I think its probably overfeeding since the boys love to sprinkle food on the water. This time, we got them turtles instead, they say that turtles don't die easily and you don't have to do much with them except feed them and change the water of their aquarium. So far so good
• Philippines
16 May 12
Do your boys do the cleaning themselves? I think turtles can smell bad easily, if their tanks are not cleaned regularly.
• Singapore
15 May 12
I would suggest having fishes for your little girl. Out of all the options, they require the least amount of time in maintaining their upkeep. You just have to feed them frequently and make sure that they have a clean tank every week - depends on what type of fishes you are planning to keep. Some fishes can dirty the tank every one to two days, needing some cleaning very frequently.
• Philippines
15 May 12
I've heard of janitor fish. If you have them in your tank, do they really help in cleaning?
• Hong Kong
15 May 12
a small lapdog i would say. It may make her less "energetic" since she has a new focus (dog). A dog is also a good companion for toddlers. But you have to make sure that you get a gentle dog, since your daughter may have aggressive action towards the dog, and in turn make herself dangerous if the dog is also aggressive.