What would you do if your daughter is pregnant out of wedlock?

Philippines
May 15, 2012 6:58am CST
Pregnant teenagers here in the Philippines are increasing nowadays and the boyfriends does not recognize them as his own.Most of these pregnancies are either carried by the mothers or are given to possible parents.The most shocking is that they resort to abortion because most reason out that the baby is not recognize by her family.Do you know of someone who is a teenage pregnant?
11 responses
@ShyBear88 (17427)
• United States
15 May 12
There are lots here in the US and the teenage mothers will either keep the baby, give them up for adoption or have an abortion depending on what that mother wants to do at any here pretty much. My husband sister she is 19 I don't consider that to much as being a teenager there are more a lot younger then herself being pregnant but she isn't married. That isn't really a big deal to me but to her mother and step dad and to one set of grandparents it is a big deal. You don't need to be married here to have a kid at all and to raise on either you don't need both parents. In the US a baby regardless of where they come from or how they come in to this world is mostly always accepted. At this point we are unsure if the father is going to be full part of my husband sister son's life or not. He hasn't really been there through out the pregnancy he wanted her to get and abortion but she didn't want to and he didn't accept and I don't think he still really accepts that he is having a baby any day now. My first nephew his parents got married a month before her was born that was there choice. Me as mother I could never force my daughter if she came home one day and told me as a teenager that she is pregnant. I would hope she either gives the baby up for adoption or keeps the baby. I don't support abortions but if that was what she wanted I can't tell her no as her mother once you get pregnant your body and that baby is your choice what to do with it.
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• Philippines
16 May 12
In our own culture your choice of view is very shocking as well as your judgement to the faith of your future grandchild,if ever your teenage daughter gets pregnant.It is still our future that is very important here that even if the daughter is committing any fault,she could still be given enough love by the parents even if society have a bad impression on her youthful faults.
@ShyBear88 (17427)
• United States
16 May 12
I don't live in your culture so here your culture means nothing to me at all. Here its accepted its not a good thing but it's not a bad thing. Here regardless of age when a women is having a baby she is an adult and can choice what ever she wants to do parents of that child has not rights to say anything about it or tell a girl she has to do this or that.
@jndlponti (2413)
• Philippines
24 May 12
Hi there... My sister (our youngest) is actually pregnant now. She isn't married for the reason that she is not ready to get married and so as the father of the baby. She decided to keep the baby herself. She told our dad about it, at first mom was really furious but later they then accepted what she wanted to happen. She is already 23 years old, have stable job and surely she could raise the child by her own income. Rather than forcing her to get married to the guy she wasn't sure to spend the rest of her life with since the guy is even irresponsible. Her life would be worst if she choose to get married to that guy, the guy did not even bother to ask her for marriage.
@irene66 (1671)
• Philippines
15 May 12
hello Berting All I have to do is accept the fate Although, no parent ever wanted their daughter to be pregant out of wedlock, their is nothing you can do with the situation if the damage (pregnancy) is already done. This is tantamount of breaking a glass done either intentionally or accidentally which you cannot bring back to its original state once broken. However, it should be a lesson for both parents and the child for it not to be repeated.
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• Philippines
15 May 12
You are correct there my friend yet most teenagers of today are entering many risky moves that always put them in danger of becoming pregnant.When the teenager was already in the family way there is no other recourse but to accept them as part of the family.
@irene66 (1671)
• Philippines
17 May 12
On my part that is the best way because no matter how you try to inflict physical and verbal "things" to the pregnant teenager, there is no point. What is done is done. The physical and verbal abuse cannot bring back the normal situation. Only that let her feel the difficulty of becoming pregnant at an early age. I just hope for the best for my daughters for them not to experience the same
• Philippines
16 May 12
ah, that is a big problem right there. anyway, the PH government has a program to help single mothers to raise their children. just proceed to the CSSDO and apply for the one's i mentioned, it has been aired in television specially in gma news tv.
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• Philippines
16 May 12
I wish the government do not spoil the teenagers to commit another unwanted pregnancy by helping them take good care of their lives.
@shylade (3137)
• Philippines
16 May 12
If ever that will be the case then I will accept it because I believe every child is a blessing. If I will neglect her the more she will be dragged to a hopeless life and may result to abortion. I would just support her and teach her her lesson. It will not be easy but this is the best way I can do. After all, she is my daughter and nothing can change that.
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• Philippines
16 May 12
I will support your decision.I hope you have a great weekend.
@rashme317 (250)
• Philippines
16 May 12
yeah , i know some pregnant teenagers. we dont have anything to do but to accept it , it's a a blessing , a gift of life. .
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• Philippines
16 May 12
I know that we have nothing to do with all these problems about teenage pregnancies, yet if this affects our own family,what must we do?I hope the opinions of others are substantial answers to the problems done by others it might be be the answer to others with the same problems.I wish they can save their babies because all of this has a purpose and that only heaven knows.
• United States
16 May 12
my sister is a teen mother... she had her son when she was 17... my mom wanted to kill her but she knew that the baby need to be taken care of so she adopted him
• Philippines
16 May 12
You must also teach her how to become a responsible parent not jut adopting the baby but also reconciliation with your younger sister with all the family members especially your parents.She must be enlightened how her faults devastated her future that must not be done again.She must learn her lessons well and do righteousness this time.
• United States
15 May 12
I would be disappointed at first, but then support what ever decision my daughter made. If she wanted to keep the baby, provided she showed steps towards responsibility, I would help her financially and physically with the baby until she got her life together. Throwing her out or scolding her wouldn't help. I am against abortion, but at the same time it would be my daughter's body and not mine.
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• Philippines
16 May 12
We have the same sentiments regarding pregnancy out of wedlock when this happens to our own daughter.I also give her financial support with all the necessary advices so that she could become a responsible parent to her child.
@jndlponti (2413)
• Philippines
15 May 12
Hi there. That problem in really rampant now to almost every country of the world. I myself knows a lot of those young moms...I have friends (close friends) who get pregnant before they get the age of 20. But most of them were responsible in taking care of their children even without a husband, even if their parents could not accept their mistake, even if people around them talk about them in very hurting words. These does not affect them on how they treat their child. Maybe this is a matter of personal (and inter personal) dealing they have for the said problem. And these sort of thing is no longer a big issue for almost everyone since it had became very common.
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• Philippines
15 May 12
It is really very shocking that the trend of this unwanted pregnancies of today increases in just 10 years for 70% in the Philippines which makes it the second highest in the world.It is an alarming data made by the World Health report.
@yahnee (1250)
• Philippines
15 May 12
I will be disappointed but I will surely understand the plight of my daughter. If the boyfriend leaves her, it is his loss and not ours. We will be gaining an addition to the family who will bring endless fun and cheer. In this generation, having a baby born out of wedlock is no longer an issue. i just wish this would have been so during the time of my youth. I would not have married early because of a mistake. I have friends who have daughters that got pregnant out of wedlock and they are no longer ashamed of the fact. Either we have become more broadminded or we no longer have the moral values of the grandparents.
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• Philippines
15 May 12
You are correct there my friend and I am also broadening my thoughts that pregnancy out of wedlock is not a very serious issue of today yet due to its impact on the affected youth.It hinders her dreams for her future because she have to take good care of her incoming baby.
• Philippines
16 May 12
I'm really not sure what to do. Cause I have all the time to do it when I was still young but I didn't cause I'm thinking about my future. I just hope my daughter or even my son will do the same. But if this happens, I guess I'll just accept it. There's nothing more we can do since it already happened and abortion is not the answer either. I do know a lot of teenage girls who got pregnant. Most of them are from the family who said that I'll never be able to graduate at college cause I have a boyfriend and that I will get pregnant. Now it happened to their daughters and grand daughters. Karma it is :)
• Philippines
17 May 12
I pitied them a lot because of the impact it caused to their families.That is what was happening to their children who just not care due to their lack of knowledge or due to their own faults.Teenagers of today are fast learners and they are aggressive and are active disobedient.They are learning their mistakes yet it is too late already because no regrets would comes first before anything else.
• Philippines
17 May 12
I agree with you. I do hope teenagers will become more educated about this kind of things.
26 Apr 17
Vyes but somtime no