So confused and lost...

@ksmita (481)
India
May 16, 2012 4:51am CST
Hi. why it is that we are able to communicate with everybody so naturally, but not to the person whom you admire or attracted to!!! There is this guy in office whom I attracted to. I found out everything about him, and to my disbelief he is mirror-image of me!! we have so many things, views and passions in common, but still it is so hard to even approach him and say "Hi"!! I am afraid that i might make a complete fool of myself and yet, I at least once, I want to let him know how I feel for him...Please help...
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13 responses
@laydee (12815)
• Philippines
11 Sep 12
I think it's common for us to feel the same and not be able to say the right words to the people or person we care about. I think this has something to do about our humanity, how we're afraid of rejection. How much we're insecure and anxious as to how the person would react or something like that. You see, when you're unconfident or afraid about the other person's reaction to what you're saying, you'd have apprehensions to say the words you want to say. But if you don't care if you hurt or offend the person, you would say it out loud. It's because we're conscious about our actions and our words that keeps us from expressing ourselves. Have a great mylot experience ahead!
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@jricky1 (6809)
• China
17 May 12
Maybe everyone who set into this problem may feel confused and lost.If i were you i would say the same situation many years ago.But now i have to say that i do really to be calm and seems like not happened,only through this and you can be natural and therefore more communication.You guys would get to know each other more.Good luck.
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@kvarun88 (275)
• India
17 May 12
jus take the chance bring up the guts, dont make all the reserch u did go for waste...take a leap of faith and tell him wat u feel abt him..!!!!!
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@WakeUpKitty (8716)
• Netherlands
16 May 12
You can't because you feel attracted to him and you want to impress him. If you are not interested, there is no reason to impress him, if you have plenty of self esteem it's easy to talk to him as well.
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@krizzy (237)
• Philippines
16 May 12
that is so true!..we could easily communicate with anybody but with the one we like, why is it so hard?..LOL..I've experienced that..maybe I'm afraid he will not get interested to the topic that I will open to start a discussion with him..we must really think what we will say to the person we like..but with anyone, we could say anything not being aware what will the other person will think about us..the person we like is just so damn special!!
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@sayo13 (414)
• India
16 May 12
hello friend, yes i truly agree with you,the problem is with ourself, we take into consideration so many factors that we forget that it might hardly take a simple step ahead to approach some one you admire or love. People feel hesitant in order to make a move first because there are so many issues that are linked up to it.Even the self image factor is also a big concern for them. People are so concerned with the person whom they admire that they fear that they might create a bad impression on them or they might loose self respect to them. This is the natural phenomena, and it tend to happen to everyone of us. well i think we should be mentally prepared for both positive and negative response from the person.this might reduce our fear and hesitation and might help them to gain more confident.
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• Philippines
16 May 12
I can relate with you, I also find it hard to talk to the person I really like. Maybe because it is human nature to be a tad too shy to talk to someone who means a lot to us in a romantic way. We are afraid to let our guard down because we are afraid that this person might see something to us that it might turned them off.
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• Philippines
16 May 12
hi there. for some situation like yours, i guess it would be best to keep it to yourself first. it's better when you spend some more time together in a neutral way up to that point that you're already getting to know each other way better. let the situation come naturally. just don't tell your feelings in an unsure state, cause you might as well tend to embarrass yourself more than what you thought of. just to play safe you know. another thing, don't let him notice that you're feeling uneasy talking to him, make him comfortable talking with you or be approachable as much as possible. 'cause that will start everything. all the best luck!
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• Philippines
16 May 12
Well, just break the ice ;).. If there will be opportunity for both of you to talk, start it. Well, I hope though that you'll get to meet him. Tell your friends you say hi:)..
@berting600 (3461)
• Philippines
16 May 12
Is this the first time you feel in love?I have raise this question because most first timers finds it very difficult to encounter their admired person.How much more if you have develop your feelings into him?I think this is a cool thing to do by organizing some sort of a party so that all employees in the office could become to know more to each other.You could now have a chance to talk to him but please do not show to him that you are interested too much in knowing him.Let put it this way,when you are both exchanging conversation try to joke that you wanted to know him better.If he responded it well then try to flirt with him so that he can sense you have interest in him.Try to do the girl power so that he can understand what you want out of him.I wish you can win his heart.
@GADHISUNU (2164)
• India
16 May 12
Aha! In the other thread you were missing your mom and I put in a hint of a suggestion of where you must be going.It is good that you have found that someone..more so because you say he is a mirror image of you. Well, I wouldn't hazard a guess on whether a mirror image of oneself is the best companion one must be looking for. I would rather say one must look for someone who complements for our lacks. Anyway, you could find an occasion to discus something like an office problem. Is he not all connected with your work. The best place to begin is to start with an office problem, the rest I am sure will follow should there be chemistry.. Don't rush headlong esp., so as you are in bereavement still...
@ksmita (481)
• India
16 May 12
I feel difficult to connect to people who are opposite to me. May be for this reason I was too close to my mom..this person too have the similar qualities and yeah, to start the conversation office problem is good idea..i will sure try this.
@fantabulus (4006)
• India
18 Aug 12
You are confused because your confidence is loos so improve the confidence and see your confusion will remove. Dont afraid now some person not afraid for tell to I love you and you are telling only for hiii...danger...
@ryanong (9697)
• Vietnam
17 May 12
Just smile whenever you see him. Just be confident!!!