you only get 1 father

United States
May 17, 2012 12:56pm CST
i didnt live with my mom and dad while i was growing up. i lived with my grandma and my grandpa. i loved living with them so much but there was something missing all my life. dont get me wrong my grandparents were great and they raised me like they should but every time we had a father daughter thing or mother daughter thing at school it wasnt the same to take them and not my real parents. i never got to spend much time with them. i couldnt see my mom at that point buti could my dad. he would come to see me when he could and he made it to every holiday but i didnt have the time i wanted with him. my dad bought me my very 1st fishing pole when i was a kid and i had it ever since until some people stole it out of my house. my dad is the greatest person i know. he helps my grandma out after my grandpa passed away. he stays with her most nights and he keeps the yard up and he does things around the house for her. not only does he do this he takes care of things for my nana after my pa passed away also. all in the same year. along with all of this he works and he tries to find time with my mom. he went to the doctor today to find out the results of his tests and he found out that he has type A cancer in his lungs. i dont know what to do or think right now. just this past monday him and my husband were doing yard work and we grilled out and my kids got to spend time with their papa and now i find this out. i use to always be mad at him and my mom because i thought they didnt want me but this past christmas we worked it all out and i now know what was going on. to find this info out now really hurts because i wish i had spent more time with him. he did go on all the vacations my grandma took my sister and me on but to me that wasnt enough. i have lost both my grandpas and now i may be losing my dad. he wants the surgery but he smokes so he has 2 weeks to stop and then they will see if he is even a candidate. if not then he will have to go thro chemo and all that. please pray for my daddy... also if you have any words that can help me get thro this anything is helpful. i cant stop worrying and crying about it and i dont know how to deal with something like this....i saw my grandpa get sicker and sicker and then he finally passed away but i dont think i can go thro this again.
3 responses
@GemmaR (8526)
18 May 12
Far too many people in life seem to be taking their Father for granted, and it is such a shame because there are a lot of people who aren't lucky enough to have their Father in their life. I always try to spend as much time with mine as I possibly can, and I will arrange to go on trips out with just the two of us which is something that I enjoy doing. You are quite right when you say that you only get one Father, and if you take him for granted then there are no second chances when he is no longer there. I don't want to live with regrets, so I am doing everything that I possibly can now to be able to show my Father just how much I love him.
• United States
22 May 12
yes many people do take it for granted and when i was growing up it hurt my feelings to see people like that since even tho i was able to see him i rarely got to. i also do not want to live with regrets and it took me a long time to realize that even tho i saw my grandparents as my parents because they raised me everyone only has 1 mom and dad. i am hoping to find the time for my dad and me to do some things together. he is always so busy helping other people that he doesnt have much time for anything else. i just hope we can find the time. he is an amazing man and i look up to him. even tho he wasnt there all the time i dont know what i would do without him.....
• Canada
18 May 12
I'm so sorry to hear that .
• United States
22 May 12
thank you. i guess all there is to do now is to pray and hope it all works out for the best.
@laken02 (3067)
• United States
18 May 12
i am praying for you and your situation now as well as your dad and the cancer, i pray that it is not too late and that they can get it all and he will get better so i pray they caught it in time ... if so he should be ok.. i just had a aunt who got colin cancer and she had surgery just yesterday and she is still in the hospital and doing ok.. hopefully will ge tto come home tomorrow or the next day, the good thing was they caught the cancer in time before it had time to spread and when they operated they was able to get it all in time... so she shoudl be fine. im really happy because she is a special aunt to me, she is my dads sister, and i talk to her alot now that my dad has gone on to heaven.. and she always tells me she loves me when we hang up the phone and not even my mom tells me that..and i love her as well.. she said the oteher day she wanted to live and did not want to die so it would kill me if something happened to her.. she is the best aunt in the world.. ans was there for me in my time of need.. so i am saying a prayer for your dad and my aunt that they both have long healthy lives and both beat this cancer and get better soon.. take care and beleive in the power of prayer and dont give up keep praying.. and expect results.. God is great.. no matter what he knows the best.. i pray to him for your dad to get better :)
• United States
22 May 12
they did find it very early at it is able to be cured if he can do the surgery. there is a problem with that tho. when they 1st tried to do the biopsy to see if the lump was cancer or not he stopped breathing and was put onto a ventalator and they are afraid that by doing the surgery where they have to take 1/2 his lung that the same thing will happen and if that does they are not sure that he would be able to recover from it since he is already on oxygen. he is scared to do the chemo because my pa did and it seemed to do nothing but make him sicker and then he passed away. he hasnt said he ws scared but i am pretty sure he is he doenst really talk about it. i am so happy to hear about your aunt. that is something to be very thankful for. i pray that she stays in good health and is able to come home soon if she hasnt already :) thank you for that story because it made me feel a little better that miracles can happen and it is possible that he can pull thro this just fine :) i have prayed a lot and i will not stop because it is like my grandma said "it is time to put it in gods hands. only he knows the out come. its time to pray and hope that it isnt his time to leave us"
• United States
17 May 12
I am sorry to hear that your dad has been diangosed with cancer. It must be a very hard time for you both. Try to stick as close as you can, even though he hasn't been there so much for you in your life. He needs your support and love now more than ever.
• United States
17 May 12
my grandma is the one who called me so i am not sure how he is taking it but i am trying to see if he tells me ornot and i am trying to let him get home and settled before i try to call him. i am sure it is hard on him and my mom and i know he will need all the supprt he can get. he may not have been there as much as i would have liked but he did the best he could. i take care of my grandma when he cant and i will do whatever i can for him. i just hate that this had to happen to a great guy like him. no one deserves to have to go thro this. thank you for the words of encouragement! at this point i dont know what to do other than pray he will be ok and that things will work out for the best.