Better Shut Your Mouth

shut up - this is a cute way of shutting up
Philippines
May 18, 2012 9:54am CST
hi mylotters, Everyday we meet different people some become friends and some are not But there are some people who doesn't know when to shut their mouth I mean if you can't say something good better not to comment or say something specially if that person is not close to you. Even in circle of friends though you are close enough we must know how to tell them our opinion without hurting their feelings. Because every word we say we can't turn it back Wounds of unpleasant words can heal but we can't take back the hurtful feelings SO I RATHER SHUT MY MOUTH THAN TO HURT SOMEONE hope everyone is doing great have a happy weekend mylotting
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24 responses
@SIMPLYD (76420)
• Philippines
19 May 12
I totally agree my friend. We should learn how to tame our lips from saying things that can hurt. Good if what you will say can be comforting, then say it. But if it will hurt then just keep it to yourself. Make friends , not enemies, so better to keep our mouth shut.
1 person likes this
• Philippines
19 May 12
hi SIMPLYD, When will be our Halo-halo session? I rather keep my mouth shut than to say non sense things thanks for the response happy mylotting
@SIMPLYD (76420)
• Philippines
20 May 12
Oh the halo-halo session. How i wish our places are just near , so we could have that at any time.
• Philippines
23 May 12
Halo halo @ C2 is still available only 125.00 Hope we can meet you if you are just around Manila
@ryanong (9697)
• Vietnam
19 May 12
I totally agree with you. Many people just talk and talk and doesnt care the listener's feeling even though they are not closed at all. I met many guys like that in here...and sometime i can do is forget all what they said soon. I don't want to be rude but they still keep talking like that way, i think i should say directly to them that: shut up your mouth, please.
• Philippines
19 May 12
hi ryanong, I can still hold my temper now a days but I don't know till when Or should I say SHUT UP to that person thanks for the response happy mylotting
@ryanong (9697)
• Vietnam
21 May 12
I did hold my temper as you do too..but i think we have to tell them directly...if not they continue to do it and their talks are really annoying to us.
@jaiho2009 (39034)
• Philippines
18 May 12
@jaiho2009 (39034)
• Philippines
18 May 12
• Philippines
21 May 12
@ jaiho, uuhhhmmm............ @ sweetie
@Madona1 (2097)
• Gibraltar
24 May 12
Hello there, I agree with you. We should always think before we speak to avoid any consequence. Unfortunately, everyone is different. Some people just cannot keep their mouth shut. My solution is keep them at a distance so that I won't get hurt and get into the depressed zone......
• Philippines
24 May 12
hi Madona1, But there are people who keep on chasing even you made your distance thanks for the response happy mylotting
• Mexico
21 May 12
Hi bhaby catch: Definetly, some people should take more care about what they say and how it could affect someone. Typically they would tell you that they just want to be honest but I don't think this is a good reason to be offensive with someone or hurt someone's feelings. ALVARO
• Philippines
23 May 12
hi SS, Well hope this kind of people can realize what their attitude is thanks for the response happy mylotting
@lynboobsy11 (11347)
• Philippines
21 May 12
Hi Bhaby, Don't stress your my beauty my dear, let them do what they want to say and just ignored it. Just think of this you can't control any body but you can control your self. Smile to them rather stress your self . Good morning
• Philippines
23 May 12
hi lyn, Sometimes even how much you tried still it can be stressful specially if you had too much of it. Oh well I don't care thanks for the response meet you soon happy mylotting
@34momma (13918)
• United States
19 May 12
I think honesty is just that, being honest. we are not responsible for others take our honestly. of course there is a way to talk to people. bur if you're honest, then that's all you should do
• Philippines
23 May 12
hi 34momma, There is nothing wrong being honest but being tactless and talking non sense is not good at all thanks for the response happy mylotting
@Kalyni2011 (3503)
• India
19 May 12
Honey beti I agree with you, but some persons have that habit, they can't keep their mouth shut,hubby was sick, today he was given solid food, we are planning to take him to Hyderabad or Bhubaneswar, our son will reach here tonight. Hugs from Maa
• Philippines
19 May 12
hi ma, This kind of habit must not be tolerated hugs for shubee thanks for the response happy mylotting
@meozard22 (872)
• Philippines
19 May 12
yeah I agree with that.. There's just some people who didn't know their limitations. Even if they say that its not serious, still they have to be very careful of the words they say
• Philippines
19 May 12
hi meozard, We can't take back any words we say so better think first before you speak thanks for the response happy mylotting
@meapas (2435)
• India
19 May 12
Hi, Nice post and nay I am not saying because you mentioned to say something nice. It is a situation one often comes across in all walks of life. Some times at bus shelters, trains, airports, people just pass a comment just for making one not realizing that it could hurt someone's sentiments. When we comment on our close friends too sometimes they take offense as actually they had expected you to agree to their point of view but in actuality you did just the opposite and said something as you saw it. Life is like that. Take care and God bless.
• Philippines
19 May 12
hi meapas, Sometimes there are situations in life that we better keep our mouth shut rather than talking and talking. thanks for the response happy mylotting
@shylade (3138)
• Philippines
19 May 12
That is true. I also believe that if can't say something good then better shut your mouth. I know this is hard and patience is a virtue, haha. I try my bets not to say words that might hurt any individual but there are times I can't just shut my mouth and unkind words slip. After that, I try to review what I just said and sometimes I really feel sorry for myself because I let it slip without even thinking.
• Philippines
19 May 12
hi shyladde, There are times we can't keep our silence but better make it sure the words we are going to say is worth it and not non sense. thanks for the response happy mylotting
@katie0 (5212)
• Japan
19 May 12
Yes, it is so hard and regretful when we realize that we hurted someone. Sometimes we want to help but well, we never get how someone is going to take our words. I find out early that people don't actually want to hear the truth, I think it helps but most want to hear more of a lie like a compliment than the truth that could even show that I'm actually a friend. I think the truth is very different from criticism, for example, I tell the truth when I'm asked it doesn't matter if it is the dress doesn't look good on her, I won't lie to my girlfriend cause I rather she knows she could dress better, but I found girls that actually got angry... I can't lie, if I care for the person specially!
• Philippines
19 May 12
hi katie, There are people who appreciates friends words but there are some maybe a friend too who keep on talking and repeating all the words which is so irritating. thanks for the response happy mylotting
• United States
19 May 12
I agree 100% with you on this topic. I have family members that I'm around often that are always saying something negative, or bringing up negative related topics about people. That's one of the reasons I stay off to myself a lot, because I'm not the gossiping or the type of person to down people. Great discussion.
• Philippines
19 May 12
hi pb, this kind of people are really annoying thanks for the response happy mylotting
• India
19 May 12
The words which are coming from our mouth is the one of the biggest weapon in the world. It have the capability to hurt as well as love others and it depends on how you use your words or expression to others. Anyway each of you people make sure that you are not too harsh and make sure that it do not hurt anyone. I think it is not good to shut your mouth at all the time. We are gifted to the earth with mouth and tongue to communicate and we must do it but make sure that you do not hurt any one.
• Philippines
19 May 12
hi twb, yes it is not good to just shut your mouth but there are times you need to do it simply because you can hurt someone. thanks for the response happy mylotting
@Suebee (2013)
• Canada
19 May 12
The problem with that mentality is that some people are more easily hurt than others. Some people can listen to an opposing opinion or viewpoint without taking offence while others take offence to anything that is not in total agreement with them. For example, even the title of this discussion BETTER SHUT YOUR MOUTH could be taken offensively by some. I know I certainly do not like it when somebody tells me I'd better shut my mouth. There is absolutely nothing wrong with voicing your opinion even if it differs from the other persons. One can voice their opinion in such a manner as to not offend. As long as one is not being rude, nasty, swearing or calling others names, I see no reason why they should keep their opinions to themselves (which, in my humble opinion is a nicer way of saying I see no reason why they better shut their mouth) Happy mylotting
• Philippines
19 May 12
hi suebee, It did not come to the point that I told someone to shut his/her mouth I am the one who keep silent so there will be no more issues. thanks for the response happy mylotting
@alberello (4756)
• Italy
19 May 12
Well, I also think the same way as yours. In writing a review or just a thread already exists, we should all limit ourselves to simply express our opinion, by not saying certain words, or write some phrases that may be offensive in some way, or in any way, you do not like for those who read. Instill Mylot is a great community where we all member, may possibly help us, and certainly we must avoid "make the shoes" each other.
• Philippines
19 May 12
hi alberello, Yeah mylot is a great community There are just insensitive ones thanks for the response happy mylotting
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
18 May 12
Hi bhaby, True enough. We must shut our big mouth if all we wanna say are offensive things. But, I think that it would also depend as sometimes we also need to express the things we want to say or remarks that might help another person although might sound hurtful to them. We just need to be careful in expressing the words to make it sound like we are just concerned to them and not like we just wanna hurt their feelings.
• Philippines
19 May 12
hi enelym, Being concerned and having a big mouth is different some people don't think sometimes and talk non sense. thanks for the response happy mylotting
@WakeUpKitty (8709)
• Netherlands
18 May 12
There is no way you can be sure you will never hurt anyone's feelings. No matter if you shut up or not. The expression in your eyes/face or body can tell a lot too. Also it can be hurtful if you decide not to speak out loud or to say what is on your mind. Or if you neglect or ignore someone because you are too afraid to open up. Personally I would prefer it if someone would talk to me straight.. how hurt I will be depends on me, how I look upon it.
• Philippines
23 May 12
hi WUK, Yeah right we can always hurt someone unintentionally but there are people who are insensitive and keeps on talking non sense. thanks for the response happy mylotting
@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
18 May 12
I truly agree with you. Well, each one of us is uniquely created by God that sometimes there are really those people who utter words tactlessly-- maybe these means nothing harmful for them but for the concerned person, quite offensive already. Let's just be careful with whatever / however we communicate our thoughts.
• Philippines
23 May 12
hi mjmlagat, That is true there are lot people like them everywhere thanks for the response happy mylotting
@PurnaSharma (1766)
• India
18 May 12
Hi bhabycatch013 ! You are definitely right but what one can do if he is so by nature.Actually i am a very talkative person but i always keeps in mind not to hurt anyone while i talks and i never hurt to anyone...But my talkative nature hurt myself many times. Even i tried to shut my mouth but i couldn't because whenever i see someone is talking on some topics that is familiar to me, i can't stop myself..........and its obviously someone else take advantage of it.
• Philippines
23 May 12
hi PS, I am talkative too but I know when to shut my mouth so I will not hurt someone's feelings and I don't always talk non sense. thanks for the response happy mylotting