A big dilema-complicated relationship.
By swapmind
@swapmind (355)
Australia
May 25, 2012 7:44pm CST
A friend of mine got a love marriage according to her parents wish.She trusted the guy so much and loved him like anything.But things were very different after 2 years of marriage.Spending time with him made her realize very-2 unpredictable nature of the guys.he is so very short-tempered and bashed her twice.it is no longer the love but a fear-factor that is binding her relationship.she was so very upset and was finding no place to go and solve her problem.I convinced her to share it with her parents as they surely gonna forgive her and help her.She did the same and no doubt parents are great they consoled her a lot and try to work out a solution through a dialogue with the guy.But he is not ready to talk to her parents and cursing the girl.she is so confused what to do,she is just regretting for picking a wrong guy.
Now the question is how fair is it to live with somebody with a lifetime compromise when there is no happiness ?
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6 responses
@PDBME2 (1014)
• United States
26 May 12
It's sad to hear but what will be sadder is when she gets pregnant. I truly believe in marriage but at the same time when it comes to physically being abused where does it stop? Maybe she should seek counseling with a minister to help her make a decision. Once those kids come she is gonna look at the whole thing differently.
@rakhi143 (76)
• India
26 May 12
I think that she should have a conversation a smooth one with the guy again according to his mentality. If he is short tempered, then she should be more careful in the conversation again.
Why should she talk to him again?
You may be getting this dooubt but as you said that she was in love and they both made up to a marriage and lived k before two years. There may be some moments for both of them which they could not forget that make them happy. so going again and talking to him is the only solution. If the problem still persists, then it is better for her to get out of the relationship.
@swapmind (355)
• Australia
27 May 12
She has already tried it many a times but the guy is very aggressive and donot let her speak much so that she can put forward her viewpoint.All he want is to carry his male chauvinistic attitude.she got to learn about his true nature after getting married before that it was all goody goody talk that fascinated her.The real love lies in the notions of understanding,caring not in dominating and grilling someone.
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
26 May 12
I believe that before one walks out of a serious relationship one should leave no stone unturned meaning one should do everything possible to work things out before leaving but where there is violence it is deal breaker. Your friend should get away from this abusive man and only connect with him again when he has received professional help for his wrongful behaviour.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
26 May 12
Imagine the fear she is battling everyday- sorry for her.
But she needs to make a quick decision before it is too late.
If the guy has the capacity to hurt her and cursing is another thing- for sure, the guy can do other things as well.
I can't imagine living with a person that looks like a monster to me.
@tkonlinevn (6345)
• Vietnam
26 May 12
Your friend must be very suffering, and her parents are too. I chose my husband by my wishes, not my parents'. And I feel happy because it.
@akobuday (124)
• Philippines
27 May 12
No one wants to be hit and be curse. And that stupid guy must be still an immature. She must LEAVE HIM NOW! I also have that kind of problem but the difference is that he is my brother. Just like the stupid guy, he is so short-tempered and uses violence to solve the problems. He also snapped our elder sister if they got a fight also. Whatta stupid guys! But my only consolation is that, we are not staying in one roof anymore..haha. I can't see his bad face always anymore.
