They said "be practical"

Philippines
May 26, 2012 3:20am CST
Hi everyone! I am confuse if they the concept of marrying a rich husband to get a better living is really the best practical thing to do these days. I know a family that parents convince their female daughters to marry rich guys. Maybe it is okay if you will marry a rich guy plus you are in love with that guy. But what if you're not in-love and all you are only apt to is to have a better living as what your parents will always told you. Do these parents think that their daughters will be happy in the long run if they will marry a guy they didn't love? Do you believe that in the end their daughters will learn to love their husband if we knew that they love somebody else but still chose to marry to rich guy? If you're or would be a parents will you also want to children to marry a rich partners? And if lets just say you're part of that family will you have the courage to correct the wrong concept of you parents and be ready to face the challenges of marrying a not rich husband?
10 responses
@SinfulRose (3524)
• Davao, Philippines
26 May 12
The concept or rich as someone who has lots and lots of money in their bank account is for me a big mistake. Yeah, you have so much money in your bank account but are you willing to take something from it? How many days can you keep it there? If you have no job, how long can you survive? First and foremost, people's concept of what is rich should be changed. As there are many rich people who has less money than the poor. The only thing that separates the rich from the poor is that the rich buy themselves things that would make them money while as for the poor, they buy expenses. If I am a parent, I would tell my child to become rich instead of marrying into money. That offspring may not have much money but as long as that child has the qualities of being rich: Decisiveness, Discipline and Determination--and the proper knowledge of mastering money, sooner or later, that child will become rich without any help. If you want my views of practicality, it's this: Don't marry yet, if you have nothing to support your way of living--more or less feed a child that is soon to come. During this time, if you don't know how to invest or make a business run, save. The younger you are the better. Use time and never touch the money then (it would take at least a decade to get some good money out of your savings). Make sure that you have your own source of income for yourself. It is never good to just depend on one person who is not you.
• Philippines
28 May 12
I agree with you. Even the rich people will claim that they have not enough money, because of the fact that the bigger the money you will receive the bigger the desire for things you will have to expend. It's all about how you handle money in order to survive. Don't be a one day millionaire if you have a million in your hands.
• Davao, Philippines
28 May 12
From what I know, the rich people really has big money and their way of living is very expensive for the poor. They just don't pay much income tax as the poor because these people know how to earn without working for another person. They merely work for themselves. They know money and becomes that master of it unlike most people of today who are slaves of money. They became a slave the day they started to work for money--that's why they are poor. If I have a million, I would keep 10% for myself, the rest I will use to make myself more money. Take note of the word, I used "make" not "earn". In short, I mean investing. I don't know about others but I guess most won't be very much willing to part from that million and later find that their treasure is already long gone.
• Philippines
30 May 12
Basically contentment is what most people lack. Even you're the riches person in the world but you're are not contended with your money still you will feel that you are the poorest. It's just a matter of money management even if you don't have a lot as long as you know how to spend money wisely then you don't have to think of becoming the riches man in this world.
• Philippines
26 May 12
In my opinion, our parents do not have the right to choose who we love. Yes, they are the ones who raised us but when we reached the age when we can decide for ourselves, they are out of the picture. Love is the most important thing why you marry a person. No love, then your marriage is a total mess. This also points that poor men don't have the right to marry since they don't have anything to give to their wives! And this is very unfair to them. Even a poor man can raise a family like the rich man can do. They struggle hard to earn in order for his family to live. And they value money more than anyone else can do.
• Philippines
28 May 12
Yes we can decide own or own who to marry when we are older but the influence and how you are molded by your parents will affect on the way of your thinking. Maybe can can't blame these parents but I feel pity for the children. You know what I want to tell the parents that if their thinking that their daughters have to marry rich men, does it means to say that their sons have no right to marry cause they are poor...
• Philippines
29 May 12
I agree!!! They should think about that lol. What if they have a son and they force their daughter to marry a rich man so their lives will be easier. How would that son feel when he hears about that :(.. /sigh
• Philippines
30 May 12
But you know what their parents have always a positive aspect in life, but they are just blinded by that fact of becoming rich and living in an abundant life. They are still good parents they are not really that bad. They just don't want their children to suffer the way they are suffering because they are poor.
@aritahime (221)
• Indonesia
26 May 12
Personally, I prefer a hardworking man to a rich man. I think it's useless if a man is already rich, but he's too lazy to work and all he can do is just wasting his (parent's) money. What I like about a hardworking man is that, maybe he is not rich enough today, but sometimes I'm sure he can be succeed and have enough (not a lot of) money. And I'm sure he'll manage his money so well since he got it not easily ^^
• Philippines
26 May 12
You're right there. But lets just say that rich man is also a hard working and that's the reason why he is rich..lol
• Indonesia
26 May 12
If that's the case then THANKS GOD!!! lol
• Philippines
28 May 12
hahaha.you are so funny..you made me laugh really...yeah at least you're in love with him not just his money.
@dollar3235 (2063)
• India
26 May 12
Hi Mackenzie_jad228, Love is an eternal feeling, it's not for everyone. It happens to a very few people and in those very people there are a very few who can realize that it's love and among those, there are a very very few who can get the true love. Apart from those few people all others are just wasting time in doing some non-sense things, most of the parents do fall in the same category, people who have never experienced true love in their life, they will think something like money can give their child happiness for the life time..and that's why you see these type of non-sense rules in our society, there is no relation between love and money. When it comes to relationship, love is the most important thing, it should not be related to Money at any point of time.
• Philippines
28 May 12
I wish the parents are member here so they can read all the discussions here.. We all know that money is not everything. Like now some of their daughter is suffering some also realized that is not right but their parents have the biggest influence that the children still follow//:(
@mikyung (2235)
• Philippines
26 May 12
I would correct the concept by following what I really want. I believe it is not wrong not to follow my parents in this case. Everybody want to be rich instantly. If given the chance I would grab every opportunity by marrying a rich woman. But for me, it is more sweet, I felt better and I will be more proud if I earned what I truly deserved. I deserved to earn that in the sense that I really struggle, with sleepless nights and seemingly unending sacrifices. Lotto winning? why not. Getting rich in an instant maybe not be my goal right now, a peaceful, contented life is everything I always wanted to have.
• Philippines
28 May 12
You're really right. I wonder why the parents are not teaching their children to strive hard in order to attain the victory and be successful. The parents would be more prouder and happier if their children are successful because of their own endeavor.
@airasheila (5460)
• Philippines
26 May 12
Good day Mackenzie_jad228, With reference to your main topic, indeed it is ideal to be practical. But, this word applies to a certain extent. As there are some instances that this is not applicable just like in the situation you have stated. And if I will be in this place, perhaps, I will think a lot of times before proceeding.
• Philippines
28 May 12
good day to you too. Yes you have the ample time to think but given the chance your parents is pushing you hard to marry that guy cause they are sure you will have a better life than them.:(
@swapmind (357)
• Australia
26 May 12
If somebody is in love then the story is different but if it is the case of arranged marriage then why not to pick the best.We may blame the parents to have a narrow mindset but in real terms if they insist their daughter it surely will not be only based on somebody being rich they might have shortlisted the guy based on many parameters.
• Philippines
28 May 12
That's the point...they been narrow minded because of the life they are facing with as the parents of their daughters. but they should have not regretted f they never had that easy and bountiful life.
@freymind (1352)
• Philippines
26 May 12
Someone in my family told me that its crazy for me to marry my husband because he's an undergrad and that I'm better off with someone who's also a college grad like me. I thank God because he gave me such an open mind. I told that relative of mine that I don't need a partner that is rich I can work for us if ever my partner won't be able to compensate for the both of us. I don't have to be "practical" only to be in a relationship. Sometimes people idolize money so much that they think its everything in the world. Nothing is constant, life is ever changing. Regarding your questions: Do these parents think that their daughters will be happy in the long run if they will marry a guy they didn't love? -Deep inside they know that she'll never be happy unless their daughter is materialistic and narcissistic I guess that will do. Do you believe that in the end their daughters will learn to love their husband if we knew that they love somebody else but still chose to marry to rich guy? -I don't know. Maybe if the husband is worth loving why not right? If you're or would be a parents will you also want to children to marry a rich partners? -Only if they will marry because of love and God is the center of their relationship and not MONEY! Will you have the courage to correct the wrong concept of you parents and be ready to face the challenges of marrying a not rich husband? -I already defied my parents by marrying someone who's not rich or not par with their expectation (money).
• Philippines
26 May 12
I learned something from you today, to be in the shoe of those parents.thank you. Maybe their parents are not that bad. Maybe because due to what they encountered during their marriage, they don't want their daughters to feel same thing as what they did. But because of that, for me they're depriving their daughters to feel the happiness, trials,the reason of having a real family and becoming a good wife. Hardship is always been part of life but the sweetest gift life can give you after each trials or obstacle are overcome are the experiences and it will make you a strong person... I just hope that they will realize before all their daughters will blame them.
• United States
26 May 12
Marrying someone because of their money is a good way to ensure you will never stand on your own two feet. Remember love is a two way street, and just like the bride who only loves her husbands money. The husband loves his money as well, and will do everything to protect that money. It's an easy way to be tossed out into the streets, once the husband finds a better bride.
• Philippines
26 May 12
That's what I want them to reailze, why wont they teach their children to strive hard or work hard to they will too become successful. One thing I want them to realize is even if they will marry a rich husband, they're still husband that don't just easily share his money to his wife.
@crossbones27 (15116)
• Redlands, California
26 May 12
To be honest I am not sure what I would do in that situation. Granted I am not a female, but that mentality p!sses me off. It is why the world is so screwed up. I am glad you brought up the point. This is more of a conversation we need to have. Lets quit glorifying people. Some people do not deserve to be rich they were born in it, and have no clue what it took to get there.
• Philippines
26 May 12
Yeah really pisses me off too. I want them to get corrected but who am I to correct them they're are older than me and it's really non of my business. But something happening to their daughter is not that very to hear, I don't know if they are aware of that or just pretending not to know.