People Change

@ARIES1973 (9531)
Legaspi, Philippines
May 26, 2012 6:19pm CST
They say, change is good if it is for the better, they called it development. But I have a friend, actually she is with me in this training. (For the benefit of those who do not know yet, I am in a training right now because it is a requirement in our department.) We applied for this job some three years ago and I get the job 2 years ahead of her. She started working last October and since she has no any other people whom she knows from our office, she would always asked help from me for just about anything. It's just okay after all. So time came that we had to attend this training. She even offered me a ride when we came here, I have no car and she have. But after two weeks, I noticed a sudden change in her behavior. She was not anymore talking to me most especially when she got new friends, say daughters of higher officials working in our department. I am not worrying much about myself regarding that matter. I could not think of anything that I have had done that might had hurt her. (I am a very silent type person and not my character to be gossiping or other similar activities.) I worried much about her, she was too young and in as much as I wanted to ask her I could not just do it for a fear that she would tell me I am just imagining things. Do you have similar experience?
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8 responses
• Philippines
27 May 12
I appreciate you for being a good friend to the new workmate in your department. I know you have a wonderful heart to help anyone who is worth your help. Yes, people change. The only thing that will remain is the word "change". As I analyze the explanation you've given, it seems that she's gaining some confidence in your area. I may not know everything but I think it's too early to conclude about something yet. It may be that she's enjoying herself more. It's not a problem for her not talking to you. You may just be used to having her ask you some things. Let the time passes by and be still and know what is the right reaction. Have a great day.
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@ARIES1973 (9531)
• Legaspi, Philippines
29 May 12
Hi there! Thank you for this wonderful advice. I would take this into consideration. I hope that everything will be back into normal soon. As I am pondering about the situation, I have this thought that her present actuation is just a result of some problems or maybe she is just pressured about so many things. Have a nice day!
@kukueye (1761)
• Malaysia
27 May 12
Ask directy , if not answer , then let it be. - Life does not depends on a person, life continues .
YEs people change.Change into better or worst.PEople are active and always going in or going out of situation in different environment that shape them, sometime they change depending to situation to adapt people and environment , that way we are the top species in the animal pyramid and top of the food chain. Sometime people changing , u can relax and continue with that change in new friend and continue to be silent , if u cannot , then ask the person directy what have u done wrong and said sorry.If the person no response , then let it be and life continues.
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@ARIES1973 (9531)
• Legaspi, Philippines
29 May 12
Hi kukueye! Thank you for sharing your opinion. I really appreciate it! Maybe I would just wait until everything is back to normal. Have a nice day!
@WakeUpKitty (8707)
• Netherlands
27 May 12
People do not change. They only will find themselves sooner or later, which can be different from the person parents/teachters/society want you to be. Interesting you say you are not the type to gossip but you do write it down on the internet.. Also "friends" come and go witch is normal esp. if you move to an other place, country, job or so.
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@ARIES1973 (9531)
• Legaspi, Philippines
29 May 12
Thank you for sharing your opinion on this matter. I am very confident that through sharing this experience with myLot, I would be able to get opinions as to how to handle situations like this one. I am not worrying about myself because I know I can handle myself better. I am worrying about my friend who is much younger but since you have said that people find themselves, so be it. Have a nice day!
@megamatt (14331)
• United States
27 May 12
There are times where events in the life of people cause them to alter their personalities, sometimes rather for the better. Actually is rather good to see people change for the better. We all grow up, eventually, we all mature, and life is rather great from that extent to say the very least. Events happen in life that stir this problem. But at the other attempt, people do change for the worst. It is rather sad, but there are events right in life that do effect us in different ways. The causes are many and perhaps we are just seeing things like right as yo mentioned. There are just too many times however when situations mandate changes that are unfortunate but its out of our hands a lot of the time.
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@ARIES1973 (9531)
• Legaspi, Philippines
29 May 12
Thank you very much megamatt for this wonderful sharing! You are certainly right! I just realized that in as much that we can not change other people, their beliefs, opinions and how they see things, it is about time to change our own point of view. So I have decided to wait until situations be back to normal. I was not worrying about myself but I was worrying about her. So, by this I would probably just let things together with time pass by. Good evening.
@sayo13 (414)
• India
27 May 12
yes if you ask me about my experience then i would say "yes" i have experienced such things in life, in my school days and college days. I used to had these people as my friends, basically they want to use you when it is required and later they will change for you when they no longer need you.such kind of people will initially behave as if they are so much grateful to you and they are so much attached to you, later and slowly as things started to change they will not give a damn of your existence.They will behave as if they have never known you or they have never asked you for any sort of favor or help.These people are basically selfish by their nature and they make this kind of changed behavior to make you understand that they do not need you any more in their life or for any kind of favor.
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@ARIES1973 (9531)
• Legaspi, Philippines
29 May 12
Hi sayo! Thank you for sharing your opinion. I hope that would not be the case with my friend. I will just pray that after everything will be back to normal, and that she will also be back to normal. Lately, I have this thought that she might just been pressured with everything that is happening. Have a nice day!
@hsofyan (3448)
• Jakarta, Indonesia
26 May 12
Yes, I have experienced, like that. Every life is always changing. That never changes is the "change". Is reasonable if you change your friends for one thing, whatever it is. Your friend has the right to self-determination. Your next task is to change, adapt to changes in your friends.
@ARIES1973 (9531)
• Legaspi, Philippines
29 May 12
Hi hsofyan! Thank you for sharing your opinion! I would consider your suggestion. Have a nice day!
@roberten (3131)
• United States
3 Jun 12
I meet lots of people like this. One universal truth is that people do change. I have a co-worker who seemed to like me a lot and then not as more employees can into the business. I do not worry about this either, I change too and sometimes am relieved when people out-grow me.
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@lady1993 (17474)
• Philippines
1 Jun 12
No , not really..i have never had a friend who changed that way.. But i do have friends who grew apart/ away from me since college- we are not in the same school or course.. i've got new friends, the have new friends too.
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