Are you a shy person?

@jricky1 (6809)
China
May 27, 2012 9:12am CST
It is really not good that i feel shy before boys and i just can not control that.I suppose it is maybe the reason that i haven't too much experience hanging out with boys and a introvert person to some extent.Actually i'm quite a person who makes my friend happy. I'd like to hear what's you guys ideas.,thanks in advance.
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23 responses
@apsara60 (6612)
• Israel
28 May 12
No I am not shy kind of person anymore. I can mix up with anyone even if they are strangers and can even make opposite person feel at home by being very simple and friendly. Besides do you know something.......when you are talking to someone, you can see in his/her eyes and the expression at that very moment will tell you the intension of opposite person and accordingly you can decide how friendly you should be with that person.We think mouth speaks but the secret is that eyes are the best silent speaker which will tell you if you should feel shy or not.....
@dpk262006 (56094)
• Delhi, India
29 May 12
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@apsara60 (6612)
• Israel
29 May 12
@jricky1 (6809)
• China
30 May 12
Yeah,indeed.I can judge the person through his or her movement and also words.So i suppose that good personality really works out communicating with people and of course popular. Thanks for sharing me,friend.
@dpk262006 (56094)
• Delhi, India
28 May 12
HI! You need to face as many person as you could. Talking to different persons will make you feel less shy. And always remember that all are human beings like us and they are no different. Everyone has his/her plus and minus points. I used to be shy by interacting with others from time to time has made me feel confident. All the best.
@jricky1 (6809)
• China
29 May 12
As i step into the society,i feel much improved coz we have to deal with different kind of people.Therefore,it is really important of the communication skills.lol,interacting more would be more comfortable. Have a nice day.
@dpk262006 (56094)
• Delhi, India
29 May 12
I hope you would improve your communication skills and would be able to interact with others with more confident. All the best.
@jricky1 (6809)
• China
30 May 12
Really thanks a lot and hope you too! Have a nice day.
• China
28 May 12
It is a normal that you will shy if a handsome boy stand in front of you.From your words,you are a person who can make friends happy,It means that you are excellent.Maybe you don't have enough confidence in yourself.You can image the boy before you as your friend,try to talking soemthing you are interested in,so that you won't be shy.To be brave!! Just try,who not? Best wishes
@ryanong (9695)
• Vietnam
28 May 12
hihihi, i am still shy when stand in front of a handsome guy too...even though i am not shy person at all...
@jricky1 (6809)
• China
29 May 12
That's basically maybe every girl would feel that,so i just think that it's human nature.lol,just work hard on that and we will get used to that.Have a good day.
@ryanong (9695)
• Vietnam
30 May 12
ya, it is human nature...i think sometime being shy is cute also...Do you think so?
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
27 May 12
I am as well a shy person and like you I don't get to hang with boys when I was still studying. I only become close to them and other girls when I started to feel comfortable with them.
@jricky1 (6809)
• China
28 May 12
So that's why we need to work on that,i thought that only i have this problem before.Also,i'm shy to even have a meal with them,god.Wish i could really have to change.
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
28 May 12
I have already changed a bit now... I am no longer a teen so I guess being old contributes to that. I get conscious at times but not like before when I was very very young. I do think you are still a very yougn lady that is why you are so so shy. You will overcome it once you started working coz you have to deal with guys whether you like or not.
@cerebellum (3871)
• United States
29 May 12
I was shy with everyone when I was younger, except the people I knew very well. I always felt like they wouldn't be interested in hearing my opinions about anything. As I got older, I didn't care so much, and could talk to strangers more easily. I assume you are younger, so just wait till you get older and then it won't be a problem!
@jricky1 (6809)
• China
30 May 12
But i see mnay girls who can communicate and gets along very well with the opposites.So that's what i should really work on and i think that it has somethign to do with my lacking experience talking with boys.
@ONLYHOPE (189)
• Philippines
28 May 12
hai I'm not that type of person,because I'm importunate type and want to be with a person who really express their selves by talking, sharing what she/he is..and it's happy to be with who you can exchanging what inside their mind.. have a nice day
@jricky1 (6809)
• China
29 May 12
Hey,i feel too.I would really love to be friends with those who treat people with their heart.To be friendly and nice is certainly charming and attractive.So i would really love to be friend with them.Good day.
@ryanong (9695)
• Vietnam
28 May 12
I used to be a shy person but now i am not at all. I think because since in univ. class, most of my classmates are male. And now, most my friends are male also, i don't have many female friends. Don't worry about it much, with the time, you won't be shy when meet male friends more.
@jricky1 (6809)
• China
29 May 12
This is really what i'm worrying about.I do not have too much male friends and maybe it's time that i should change and it's like lacking social relationship i think.Really thanks a lot for your constructive advice,my friend.
28 May 12
Well,i was a shy girl before i get married,even talk to the boys i will blush,but as time went by,i become cheerful,no longer afraid to talk to the boys,especially after i have my own child,i become very bold,perhaps it is because the powder of mother's love,every mother hope to give her child a happy life,and in order to have a good life,i must work harder,so overcome shyness is necessary,especially in the workplace,you think?
@jricky1 (6809)
• China
29 May 12
Yep,i agree so.It is indeed possible to change our personality after been through a lot.And i think that being more extrovert may much popular with people.Thank you for share.
@doroffee (4230)
• Hungary
28 May 12
In new situations and where I have to "sell myself" or prove in an unfamiliar setting, meeting new people, I'm really shy. Also, I hae speaking in front of public, I have a huuuge stage fright. It's not that extreme that I faint or anything but I feel butterflies in my stomach, sometimes my legs are shaking, I have to work really hard on eye contact and I don't know what to do with my hands (I play around with my pen, twist my hair and stuff). Also, meeting new people is hard for me, too, because I'm not the genuine let's be riends type of person. I usually stay really quiet. But if I'm relieved in a person's company I can be quite talkative :).
@jricky1 (6809)
• China
29 May 12
The thing is that you really feel much better after several times speaking to them.To be honest,i was the one who feel this better after trained by my teacher.lol,well,i think maybe we should just be talktive and also expend our relationships.
@drannhh (15045)
• United States
28 May 12
Although I was shy as a very young child, when I reached school age I became quite outgoing. Since I had older brothers I was never uncomfortable around boys. Yes, I think more experience will increase your level of comfort.
@jricky1 (6809)
• China
29 May 12
I think so.And this really works out.lol,just like practical exericse in order not being too shy.This is like what you said about the experience.Thanks for telling,my friend.
• United States
28 May 12
I'm a really shy person as well. I don't think I'd be as shy if I didn't fear people rejecting me, or if I didn't care so much about what people say. When I'm around my closest friends and family members, I'm a chatterbox and I can't be quiet!
@jricky1 (6809)
• China
29 May 12
Friends around me always said that i can always creat happiness to them and i'm the only one who keep talking and we had great time,speak of talking to the oppposite gender,it's completely different,so i think try to communicate more would then works out.
@xiaoyeye (32)
• China
28 May 12
I'm also a little bit shy in front the people I'm not familar with. And I think it has something to do with lack of conficence.Surrounded by strangers or so-called friends, I don't know what to say or how to express my ideas appropriately, because I don't know them well and I don't want to look silly or offend someone else.But if someone is sociable and confident enough, he/she can handle this kind of situation skillfully. In that case, no one will think him/her shy.
@jricky1 (6809)
• China
29 May 12
Is that the reason that i do not have the confidence even when i was a child? I do think that i should overcome this coz i still need to encounter diferent kind of person in the future ahead.So really thanks,my friend.I will try to build the confidence.
@tri_0217 (101)
• Philippines
28 May 12
actually, you can overcome your shyness. i used to by shy on my school days. what you need to do is overcome it step by step. before, i can't even look at the eye of someone talking to me. what i did is i tried to look at the eye of the one that is talking to me. at first it is hard, but when you always do it, you will become comfortable doing it. so my advise to you, just try to say something, even a little sentence, even a single word is ok. if you are comfortable with a single word you can make it a sentence. when your comfortable with a sentence you can make it a whole dialog. until you realize that you are no longer being shy around boys. and to be honest, i like girls who are a little bit shy. so cheer up. overcome it slowly and step by step. and most of all, be yourself.
@jricky1 (6809)
• China
29 May 12
Really thanks for your constructive advice and i think i'm a little comfortable with the guy that i recently know.But i still need to work on people whom i just get to know.It's like a little bit hard to do,but actually,this is the lesson that everyone should take.Have a good day,my friend.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
28 May 12
As a child i was extremely shy. i would hide when company came over to the house. I started to lose some of that shyness in high school. Having to speak in front of others helped me a great deal. I am still shy to some degree but i am a lot more social and vocal than I used to be It just depends on how much of my self I want to seen before I let the shyness in or out.
@jricky1 (6809)
• China
28 May 12
I remember that my college teacher once try to motivate us to go the front of the class and learn to speak to 45 people.Honestly,that's really made me feel akward and then i become to accustomed to that.I think it is really the beginning to help me go through another new life.Then,i still need to change.
@lady1993 (16318)
• Philippines
27 May 12
I am a shy person too- especailly with boys since i didn't grow up hanging out with them. My father was usually abroad, working..so no guy figure around. But lately i had no choice buy to hang out with guys since most of my classmates are guys now. I am still not always comfortable, but my guy friends have increased.
@jricky1 (6809)
• China
28 May 12
Sometimes boys are easy to get along with girls i think.So some could really make us happy.I only care about the guy i had a crush on and it sometimes makes me embarrassed.lol,thanks for saying that.
@hsofyan (3452)
• Jakarta, Indonesia
27 May 12
You have to get along with men. You and some other girls, hanging out with some male friends.
@jricky1 (6809)
• China
28 May 12
Yep,that's why i kinda of curious that why other girls feel so comfortable getting along with boys.Maybe i really have to work on that,lol,to be honest,i'm afraid that i can not get along even with my boyfriend,is it a disease?
@mentalward (14697)
• United States
27 May 12
I was extremely shy as a girl. I was always very uncomfortable around people I did not know. But, that began to change as I got older. I really overcame being shy once I had my children. I raised my kids almost entirely by myself so I had to do everything for them. That forced me to interact with more and more people until I realized that I didn't have a problem anymore talking with total strangers and not feeling shy at all. I think, with time and life experiences, you will be able to overcome your shyness, at least some of it.
@jricky1 (6809)
• China
28 May 12
Thanks for your constructive advice and i think i will.As time passes by,i will indeed encounter different kind of person.Therefore,we shouldn't be the one that lack of the least communication with people.I have to overcome that,thanks for your help.
@GemmaR (8526)
27 May 12
I am quite shy when I first meet people, but then when I get to know them I become more friendly and end up being one of the loudest in the group at the end. I guess I find it hard to trust people because of the people who have let me down in the past, so I just don't want to have to say anything to anybody who I don't know in case they manage to use it against me for some reason. A little bit odd, but it's never really done me any harm, and it's meant that the friends I have left have always been true rather than the false ones that some people get left with.
@jricky1 (6809)
• China
28 May 12
I understand that you are afraid of trusting again once been hurt by someone.But honestly,i'm exactly the same with your situation.And also i feel relaxed with the same gender friends.Maybe it's not right for me.
• Philippines
27 May 12
I'm also like you. I usually don't hang out with boys and also very introvert. But I love going out with my girl buddies. They would sometimes say I'm the clown of the group.
@jricky1 (6809)
• China
28 May 12
Yep,i feel more comfortable with girls together.For i can share anything that i want and maybe that i should go for a little change.That would be personally good for my development.It's kind of lack socail communicating.
@WakeUpKitty (8707)
• Netherlands
27 May 12
Might be (some) people will call me like that I know they did as I was a kid. If you are an adult you are seldom called shy anymore.. people label you in different ways. I think I just don't like people that much or don't feel the need to talk to them.. it's different with the people (less) I know.. but frequently they are too much for me too. I like to be alone not to have all these social talks.
@jricky1 (6809)
• China
28 May 12
Yep,social talks sometimes can be annoying and you have to have some fake smiles or so.Speak of that,there is also sometimes we can not avoid to be with the strangers.Anyway,i just do not feel confident about that.