habit of not paying

Philippines
May 28, 2012 7:34am CST
We have a friend, let us call her miss d because her name start with a letter "D". Miss D always borrow money from her friend, neighbor, office mate and so on. Her alibi is, she need to send money to her dad because he is in the hospital and he might die if he will not be given medical attention. so money is a must! if you are the one she is asking for money. what will you do? of course you will give her. her promise is she will pay after a month just to find out that she cannot pay because her dad is in serious case. then these people...i don't know how?....learn that Miss D have make them her victim!...now...they are asking her to pay back. she can't! don't know why? where is she now? new job...new apartment...old strategy... do you think this is sickness? if it is what do you call it?
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14 responses
@shivanisd (388)
• India
28 May 12
ugh i really really hate such people who cant take care of themselves financially and then resort to such unfair means. Such people should be left alone to fend for themselves, in my opinion.
@ryanong (9697)
• Vietnam
29 May 12
I agree with you too. I have one friend he borrowed me money since i was at university for study, i was poor too but he never pay me back till now even though more than 10 years pass. I always keep a distance with him now...
• Philippines
29 May 12
Debts can really create a distance between friends, financial matters should be left out between friends unless its a one of a kind emergency. I don't usually lend money to my friend, in case of emergency, I'd rather give them money that lose a perfect friendship.
• India
29 May 12
i agree with the above posters..never never mix friendship with money/business. Once I planned to go into business with a friend, we didn't even get to the bplan stage!! We fought and never made up.
@hsofyan (3452)
• Jakarta, Indonesia
28 May 12
Yes. Miss D was ill and he should be treated. If I give, it means I have been poisoned.
• Philippines
31 May 12
many had die...but Miss D is still out of hospital care.
• India
22 Jun 12
How is she now ? Is she OK ?
• Philippines
23 Jun 12
i saw her in facebook. i add her to my friend but no confirmation yet. by the way...if you have facebook account...add me to your FB friend. my account is LE Leomer
@ryanong (9697)
• Vietnam
29 May 12
I hate a person who acts like her. It is not nice when just borrowing and never pay back. Money is not from the sky falling down, we have to work hard to earn it so that i really hate anyone who borrows me and never pay back. I will keep a distance with anyone like her...
• Philippines
31 May 12
you gave me the best response
@ryanong (9697)
• Vietnam
1 Jun 12
Ya, you should do like that...
@chicgale (2982)
• Philippines
28 May 12
She will pay for that someday! What she is doing now is another way of stealing money. She is a liar and she is just using her friends. I used to be a victim with my friend 3 years ago (well, she is not my friend anymore). She kept begging from me. At first she was crying and borrowed small money from me coz her husband didn't send her money and promised to pay me a week after, and she did pay. And two days after she payed me, she borrowed again coz someone got sick in her family and promised to pay me again 2 weeks later when her husband will send her money, and when the 2 weeks arrived, she started crying and told me that she cannot pay me yet coz she needed money for her family and that she needs more money to borrow from me again. I felt sorry for her and trusted her so much because she was a church member, and after she borrow big money from me, I didn't see her anymore. I heard that she moved to another town. I tried to call and text her, she didn't pick up or answer my phone calls and text message, until she changed her number. Until now, I haven't heard from her. And now, I have learned about it. My husband was right of not lending money to a friend because you will loose that someone. My husband said that if I len my friend money, someday I will loose my money that she borrowed, plus I will loose my friend coz she will not see me anymore if she couldn't pay me back.
• Philippines
31 May 12
i always say to my wife...You have a big heart that sometimes bad people take advantage of your kindness....my wife reply is.... I will be careful and learned from my mistake. She gave 5thousand to Miss D out of pity and because she is a friend. after 3 weeks, she came to ask for additional 5thousand because her dad needs more medicine. My wife say...NO to her... thanks God. your husband is a wise man.
@chicgale (2982)
• Philippines
31 May 12
Yeah.. Sometimes we trust friends.
@freymind (1352)
• Philippines
29 May 12
Its sad that the people who cared for her and lend her money became her victims and she even used her dad. If she really can't pay up because she used the money for her father then her friends need to understand her situation. BUT... If they already found out that she's just using the money for herself... then by all means ask her to pay up. She doesn't need to pay the whole amount at one time but maybe pay them a little until all of her debts are cleared out.
• Philippines
31 May 12
best to think that she's truthful but the real Miss D has come out and everyone is disappointed
@sid556 (31018)
• United States
29 May 12
She is a scam artist. I would not have fallen for it and mainly because i've fallen for these stupid scams in the past. If her dad's illness were legit and he needed funds then there are always those jars that are put out in local stores collecting donations. People will get the medical attention they need in these situations even if they don't have the ability to pay. The hospitals work out arrangements for payments She is just playing on peoples sympathies. Does she even have a sick dad?
@megamatt (14333)
• United States
29 May 12
Sickness would be really be a good term for it, but an addiction would also be a term. It is just it is a tactic that has worked one time and obviously they have grown used to it working. Much like those who rather go into any other vices, it is something that they feel works for their life. Therefore they return to the well again and again. They use people up at an insane rate a lot of the time. And sadly, people like this make anyone who really is in a situation like that look really bad by comparison and makes them hard to get help. Once burned by someone and never again. Yet people like this don't really care about the consequences that their actions will have to others in need. They just will continue to use and use, until they move onto the next victim.
• Philippines
31 May 12
scary...
• Philippines
29 May 12
There's a limit to giving someone the benefit of the doubt. Of course if its an emergency, the first thing that you should do is lend your friend the money. If its becoming a habit, I'd rather tell my friend that enough is enough. Its no longer an act of generosity if you that generosity is abused by someone even if he or she is your friend
• Philippines
31 May 12
it is best to be wise but how when a friend come crying for help.
@ravipors (81)
• India
29 May 12
This is very bad. She will soon run out of people and places and would have nowhere to go and ask for help. If such a person is your friend just try to make her understand this. If she does not heed to you then leave her. Most of this kind of person feel it when they are too late to recover. This is very sick.
• Philippines
31 May 12
we still respect her. but very careful. twice, i gave her advise. now, her husband left her because of her overwhelming debts.
@Cale2012 (115)
29 May 12
Wow, It is hard to conclude a result, she is a cheater. Although most of people like to grasp benefit and harvest from others friends, relatives, colleagues and close person. So if anyone borrow some money from you, you need consider they are likely not return back. Never care what reasons they borrow? Some honest man will forbid himself taken these money and occured some guilty. these friend is real dependent person and good relations.
• Philippines
31 May 12
in one way...you are right! we need to consider they are likely not return back the money.
• Australia
29 May 12
Personally I think it is a major scam... i used to talk to a girl online from Africa, and she was always asking for money for the same reason, only it was her mother that badly needed an operation. People like this may con the honest and dare I say more gullible people, and its sad really because one day you may well be approached by someone in real need of money for just that purpose, and they will be turned down because of ones remebering the one that had scammed them. Its a sad fact of life that there are always those that are going to try to con you out of whatever money you have nd there will always be those that will fall for it.
• Philippines
31 May 12
we are living in a world where there are people who enjoy abusing others.
• India
29 May 12
There are many people like Miss D in this world and one should definitly not expect to be paid back .If somebody like D repeatedly ask,s for monetery help ask her why she needs it , if some one is sick , buy her medicines , rather than give money (ofcause don,t expect any thing in return ).Whenever we go out and are eating , say icecream or patties and abeggar comes asking for money as he has not eaten since morning my husband buys for him an icecream or patties istead of giving money .
• Philippines
31 May 12
i am happy knowing that even there are many Miss D in this world...so far, i just knew two person
@911Ricki (13602)
• Canada
28 May 12
I know a few people who do this as well they make a drama situation out of it. I remember a lady I use to work with who owes everyone money. I still talk to her and she always asking for money. When it comes down to it she just cant manage her money and the collection agencies are coming after her. I have no pity for her and wont lend her money as the excuse build up and I wont see that money. She needs to learn to manage and even get a second job not expect it handed to her. I do think its a sickness and they believe everything should be handed to them and not have to work for it. Im osrry if my father was very sick, and need of money I would pick up another job and send him the money not keep asking others for it.
• Philippines
31 May 12
i think her dad is not really sick. it maybe her best alibi because people pity her dad and think of her as a loving daughter. but afterward, all of them are angry because they are cheated.
@mokkka (883)
• Bulgaria
28 May 12
If it is some kind of sickness these people definitely need to go to hospitals. My friend gave a big amount of money to a colleague of him as he promised he said he needed the money immediately and he promised he we will soon give it back but now we cannot take it back. We went to the bank and it turned out that this man has huge credits and cannot take any more money from the bank so I am sure he will not give us back our money.
• Philippines
31 May 12
they really need to go to the hospital. one time, we saw Miss D and say hello to her. she has a new job. i hope she has change.