My brother left yesterday

Malaysia
May 29, 2012 3:46am CST
So mum took the meals to him yesterday at night when he came back and go out to the living room to watch tv. He insists want mum to accompany him in the kitchen, but mum straight away went out to the living room. He bang the table then like a kid, and went out to buy cigarettes and beer, mom cried after that, he pack his bags and said he will not coming back anymore. I feel poor for mom and brother as their relationships suffer a few years ago. I don't what happen to my brother that he changes to a different person now. Should I ask him back?
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13 responses
@CTHanum (8255)
• Malaysia
30 May 12
Hi sis! That is what happen when one feels that they are much better than others. He do anything he likes because he knows he can depends on himself only and he does not need anyone else. That is why he dare to do that your family. He looked down others that is why he disrespect his parents and family member. You should ask him back and apologize to your parents. He should not do that just because of a small thing. Advice him and he refused to listen then it is okay, you have done your job and responsibility as his sister.
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• United States
30 May 12
yes, let him deal with his own issues because you don't need anyone bring you down, he will soon realize when he's down and out and the only ones he can turn to are you and your family...ive seen this happen so many time to families that are close to me....time heals everything.
@CTHanum (8255)
• Malaysia
30 May 12
its hard in her case since her brother is so stubborn. Hope he will return to the family and say sorry to his family. Indeed time will heals everything but we can't expect things will always end like that since it could be too late to repent.
• United States
30 May 12
I know it may hurt but sometimes you have to let a grown person find themselves, because if he comes back in the state that he's in it will only make it more stressful on you and your family...still be there for him and showing love and concern but let him deal with the issues he's going thru because its hard trying to deal with your own problems let alone someone elses added stress and drama..give him time..
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29 May 12
Your brother sounds like he's going through a thing commonly known as spoilt brat syndrome. I'd never bang the table in temper if my mum didn't get something for me! In actual fact I'd never ask my mum! I'd offer to get her things. I wouldn't ask him back, it sounds like you and your mum would be better off without him until he sorts himself out!
• Malaysia
29 May 12
He will shout everytime my mom don't listen to him, pity my mom!
30 May 12
Thats terrible. Don't ask him back. Think of your mum!
@Bluedoll (15287)
• Canada
29 May 12
You should enjoy the time you have left with your mum and your brother. Someday they may not be around. I think talking to him is good if he wants to talk to you but leave the coming home part between him and his mother. You also have a life to think about too. Maybe you and me will a place together someday. Who knows?
• Malaysia
29 May 12
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@GreenMoo (11842)
29 May 12
It sounds like your brother behaves like a spoiled child. But of course I do not know everything about the situation. Your brother needs to know that his family still love and support him, so I'm sure he would appreciate hearing from you. If he is an adult though, perhaps living outside the family home would be good for him.
• Malaysia
29 May 12
He has been living outside with his france girlfriend for a year, but come back home after his girlfriend went back to France lately.
@NailTech (6895)
• United States
3 Jun 12
No you shouldn't. There is something odd going on with your brother and mom. I believe on his part it's drinking perhaps. He is such a brat, banging on the table cause he wants his mum to go with him in the kitchen? Really. Even my brother wouldn't do that and they watch TV every night here together as if he was the hubby. Dad just does his thing in the kitchen and goes on the lap top and then upstairs to sleep. My brother and mom even sleep in the same room, downstairs in the living room. It's a wierd living arrangement but it will never change. My brother isn't interested in dating, I'm not sure why. I wish he'd just go out one night a week with a friend of some sort. I wouldn't ask him back if he left, either, LOL.
• Pamplona, Spain
1 Jun 12
Hiya wongc., Have seen this kind of problem before in another place and another time. What he needs is to live on his own now and that is not a good way to treat his Mom she should not be treated like that. So let him go and see what happens. Obviously if he has already been living outside the House and then gone back it´s a bit difficult for him I know but he should not be shouting at anyone. He must realize that other people change too and one year later is a long time although it does not really seem like it. You have changed and your Mom too and she will doing things and having more freedom which she won´t want to give up so easily. If every time she wants to stay in the living room and he goes on like that well that is something that has to be stopped in its tracks. Like a small child throwing a fit everytime he wants something. I think that adjusting from one situation to another has probably affected him like that but even so his Mom should not pay that kind of price. He should talk to her if he can and then go from there as the rest between them is private of course. Good luck and see if he gets out of that habit pretty sure he can he just might not realize altogether that words and actions can hurt the ones you love the most.xxx
@WakeUpKitty (8716)
• Netherlands
30 May 12
No let your brother go and find his own way in life. I don't know what happened but I don't think the situation will get better between your mother and brother if he stays. Might be he will be gone for some time but if he comes back I think he will see the world, his family with different eyes. If he can smoke and drink he can also build his own life and that is what he should do. You are only responsible for your own life and your mother is for hers.
30 May 12
I love my family too!! :D You should really make an effort to communicate with your brother and tell him that you're always be there for him. And ask him if what's his dilemma to your mother. Tell your mother about his dilemma and make sure they're going to have a reconciliation. Life is too short. Friends would just come and go, but family will always be there for you. God Bless!
@lady1993 (13049)
• Philippines
30 May 12
Why did your brother just leave like that? I think you should definitely ask him back since it is hurting your mother that he is leaving. But if he has a good reason, a really good one, then just let him be.. Is he of age to just go on his own?
• United States
29 May 12
i think he just needs someone to talk to who better then his sister? ask him back
• Philippines
29 May 12
At least, he understands that his stay could harm his mother more. It does not have to mean he's a spoiled brat. I have never heard any spoiled brat gaining a french girlfriend. lol
@toniganzon (35365)
• Philippines
29 May 12
There's definitely a problem between your mom and your brother that you aren't aware of. I hope they'll be able to fix that. I have a son and don't want our relationship to go sour. It would break my heart.