Have you ever had a big fight with your brother/sister?

@ryanong (9694)
Vietnam
May 30, 2012 1:41am CST
I had one time with my elder brother in 2006 in my parents house. At that time i went to my hometown to see my parents and my brother was in there also. In the beginning, just is a simple talk but after that it was a big big fight. Think it back, i still think that i am not wrong in that case because i have a right with my personal life: do married early or late is my right then i told him that i have my right with my life and he has his right with his life only. Sure i am a woman then i am weak so that i got pain only, not him. My heart is hurt after that and i kept silent with him for a year till i went to Korea. I went back to Vietnam already but I don't talk much with him even though i don't hate him more whenever i met him in my parents house but deep in my heart, i am still hurt with it...I can't be happy with him as before. Have you ever had a big big fight with your brother/sister? If you were me, would you be happy back with him as if nothing happened?
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@chicgale (2982)
• Philippines
30 May 12
I had a big fight with my sister twice. The first fight was she just hit me real hard at my parents house. I didn't know what I did to her and she just hit me at head! I got so mad and fought back, and we didn't talk for 3 years after that fight. The second fight was really really bad! She almost killed me and my daughter. I think she is bipolar. She just get angry at you for no reason, but then I forgave her two years later. And now that we are talking again and sometimes hang out together, I still have a gap and sometimes I still remembers about what she did to me.
@ryanong (9694)
• Vietnam
30 May 12
Wow...i scare her also because i really scare fighting...She is really bipolar as you said. When i lived abroad, i remember my parents' phone only then i made phone calls to them, sometime i did chat with my sister, but chat with my brother, i didn't. Now, if tell me make a phone call to him, i don't...i think i have nothing to say at all. I do make phone calls to mom only. And when meet him in my parents house, i am not talkative when talking with him also. Ya, even though we are happy back, but there is a gap because of these fighting. It is really bad, i think. I am a soft person, teary woman...then i really want to avoid fighting with anyone...i think a fight with my brother is the only one in my life...
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@chicgale (2982)
• Philippines
30 May 12
I hate fighting too, and I am like you, a teary person. I cry easy you know. Yeah, everytime I remember about what she did to me, the pain and hurt comes back.
@ryanong (9694)
• Vietnam
30 May 12
I understand your feeling. I have the same feeling whenever i think back of that fighting...It is really weird to have a fighting when we are adults already because it is not easy to forget it.
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@shylade (3137)
• Philippines
31 May 12
yes, I had a big fight with my younger brother. He used to be stubborn and don't want to listen to any advice. He taught he is always wrong. It is true that it is very painful to have a gap especially if that person is your own brother. He had said so many hurtful words that I can not bear anymore, he's not respecting me as his older sister then. But I was surprised one day that he texted me and asking me if he could sleep in our house. My heart melted and all the pain he had caused had gone in a glimpse. I said yes to him for I know even though we had a big argument before, he is still my brother and my family. That day, all the heavy feelings for him inside my heart disappeared. I do hope he already learned his lessons, that whatever it may come, your family will always your family. No one will help you the way your family will. Family will always be there when you don't have any friends to cry to and when you are at your darkest time of your life.
@ryanong (9694)
• Vietnam
31 May 12
I am happy when you and your brother are happy back after that. I understand your meaning. ya, family members are our closest person and they are always besides us whenever we need. Whatever happens, he is still my brother, i know. Currently i don't hate him but i can't be closed to him as previous time when that fighting was not happened. Sometime i still think of it when i am in bad mood or think back of my past. Currently we also don't have many chance to meet each other except in my parent house. Well, i think i need more time to clear a gap from that fighting in my mind, my heart.
@babystar1 (4236)
• United States
30 May 12
I also had fights with y sisters and brother when we were young, but now that I am married and have children of my own its a little different story. I had a fight with my sister last week she thought she knew more than I did.But we got over it and everything is fine between us. I think you should talk to your brother and just forget what he said. life is to short to be mad at each other. Good luck...
@ryanong (9694)
• Vietnam
31 May 12
Currently when i meet him, i talk to him also...but i mean...i am not too closer to him as previous time, i won't talk much to him also...i mean there is still a gap for me. I can't pass it. Till now, it is 6 years already but that gap is still remain, i can't delete it all...
• Philippines
30 May 12
Dear it is normal. We can never do please anyone. I constantly fight with my siblings but hey when situation ask for it we often unite anyways. Do not be disheartened. There will come a time that he would understand you and accept you situation. He is still your brother.
@ryanong (9694)
• Vietnam
30 May 12
I know he knows that he was wrong at that time....but i really don't know why i can't be happy or talk much to him as before. I really don't know why.. I mean i used to fight with my sis when i was a kid, but it is kids' things so that i have no feeling with it more when i am an adult and now my sister and i are still closed. But i got a big fight with my brother when i was not a kid anymore...it was the biggest fight in my life and i really hurt with it. I really want to be happy back with him as if nothing happened but i can't...