I Can Never Find The Perfect Handbag!

United States
May 30, 2012 6:48pm CST
It's frustrating. Really, it is. Because I buy a purse and I think it's "the one I'l keep forever!" and spend maybe $30 on it and then suddenly, after a few days of use, I find it unusable. I find something wrong with it. How it doesn't suit my needs. I need a good bag! I have so many sitting in my closet that I just might list on Listia to make some money off of because honestly, I don't use them and they're in good shape. See, the thing is, I'm really particular about my purses. At first, I wanted one that was large enough to fit all my things. Maybe even a few school books. I thought I found that purse. But needless t o say, the pockets started ripping and since the interior was black and there weren't many compartments, I kept digging around in it's dark abbess of a middle pocket to find stuff like my wallet. What a hassle when you're trying to find your wallet and there's a huge line of people waiting to check out behind you in a store! So, I decided on a tote. But I need a tote with good pockets! Because if I put books in it and larger items, all the little items fall to the bottom and I can't find them. I see a lot of people using Vera Bradley bags. Does anyone have any recommendations for me? Are you as picky as me when it comes to finding the perfect purse/bag? Have you stuck with the same bag or brand for years?
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11 responses
• United States
31 May 12
i am sorry to tell you this stephanieannc, and i really don't mean to sound snobbish, but if one wants to buy a bag one will keep forever which will stand up to the rigors of feminine life, i am afraid that one may have to fork out more that thirty dollars for it. perhaps one should consider visiting the louis vuitton store? my husband took me shopping at the louis vuitton store in charleston, south carolina, and the staff there were most oblinging.
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• United States
31 May 12
Oh no, I understand I would need to fork out more than $30 for it and I would, if I found the perfect one, ya know?
• United States
31 May 12
This has been my experience as well. Although I used to abhor the very idea of spending that much cash on a purse, I have learned that there is something to be said for a quality made handbag. They last much much longer, thereby saving me money in the long run. I learned the same thing in regard to automobiles. So many of life's lessons are the type where you just have to learn it the hard way.
• United States
7 Jun 12
Agreed!
@PageTurner (2827)
• United States
31 May 12
Perhaps you could design your own handbag? It appears that you really load your handbag, maybe to the point of overloading what they are designed to handle. I like some of the Dooney and Bourk bags because they are well made, and provide lots of storage so that everything stays organized and at my fingertips. Plus, I like how the insides look. Still, it sounds like you're wanting a handbag to also function as a bookbag. That puts a lot of stress on the handbag. You may very well want to design and make your own.
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• United States
7 Jun 12
I actually like one Dooney and Bourke purses! Just that they're so darn expensive. Yeah, I'm looking for a kind of tote bag kind of thing. I think I might have found one. Just hope I can win it off Listia.com!
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• United States
8 Jun 12
Yes, they are a bit pricey. But well made. Best of the lucks on Listia!
• United States
16 Jun 12
Awe. Thanks. I searched, but didn't find any I liked on there. Oh well.
@Janey1966 (24127)
• Carlisle, England
31 May 12
I know exactly what you mean about finding the perfect bag. About 3 years ago I had a Red Herring bag that was a square-ish shape in a creamy colour with pink/green pockets on the front and an ace shoulder-strap that was exactly the right length..not too short, not too long. Perfect! I could also find things in it, which is very important if you're in a rush! However, I took this particular bag EVERYWHERE as I loved it so much..and once it started to fall to bits, unfortunately, I had to throw it away. Crucially, ever since then I haven't been able to buy a bag that quite matches up. Currently, I have a brown fake leather one with tassels and studs on it (very Rock Chick) but it doesn't have enough room on the inside..compared to my Red Herring bag AND I've noticed some of the studs are missing. Granted, I didn't pay a lot for it but I expect all the studs to be there lol. So, yes, you have my sympathies. I do have a small, black, sequined evening bag I bought in York way back in about 2004 but, alas, I hardly go out at night now so it's rarely used. I love it too!
• United States
16 Jun 12
I know! And I have a zillion of them in my closet and I'm like "What am I going to do with these?" I feel like I waste money so often n purses. It's very disheartening.
@Janey1966 (24127)
• Carlisle, England
16 Jun 12
Leather ones are the worst. They're like leather shoes now - over-rated and way too expensive. A few days ago I bought some casual shoes that look like canvas ones but aren't..and they cost me £8! They're the most comfy shoes I've ever had. Primark's finest lol.
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
3 Jun 12
I am kind of picky too but I don't go ahead and buy them unless they are right for me..lol. I jump between larger ones and smaller ones. I try to keep smaller ones because it seems the bigger the purse, the more junk I put in it..LOL. I usually call them black holes after a while because I can't find anything. Brand has never really mattered to me if I like it.
• United States
7 Jun 12
Brand doesn't bother me either. It's just I always think I find the right one, but then it doesn't work somehow.
@ElicBxn (60802)
• United States
31 May 12
I, like, totally flunk most feminine things, but I have to say that: "Life is the search for the perfect purse." I've had some that I really liked, but often you have to fret with those ripping insides. Unlike you, I have so many problems with my shoulders and chest, that I had to go small to KEEP myself from stuffing books and the like in them.... A tote does have that problem, the secret to making totes work is to sew pockets into them - either inside or out. If you can't sew... that is a problem. Another option is to put a small bag inside the larger one for those small things and make it attached to the straps of the larger so its easy to find. I have finally gone for pouches I can wear around my neck for my important stuff like the cell and the credit cards/money and stuff. Then I have a larger bag for the water I take to work to make drinks with and yet ANOTHER bag that has my crafty stuff in - that one has got giraffes on it! I got it at Goodwill! So, I've always got the small pouch with me, but to go to work (and I do home health) I have the other two with me. And when I go to like doc's appts and stuff I just take the craft bag and my pouch. This way I'm only carrying what I need at any time.
• United States
16 Jun 12
I mean, I have some purses for different occasions. But I kind of wanted that universal one, you know what I mean? Seems like you have it all figured out on your end though!
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@celticeagle (117561)
• Boise, Idaho
31 May 12
Make your own! Get some levi material and design it from other purses you like. This way you can make it any way you want to, reinforce the seems so it doesn't rip. Buy some little doo-dads to decorate it with, or not, your call. I have a levi purse that I have had for three years now and it still looks new. I even get compliments on it.
• United States
7 Jun 12
That's awesome! Except that this kind of craft is not my specialty. It would be awful if I tried to make one. I'm not that good at sewing!
• Monterey, California
3 May 13
Hey Stephanie! I realized this post was a year ago. However, if you are still searching for the perfect purse you should visit our site :)
@ShepherdSpy (8562)
• Omagh, Northern Ireland
31 May 12
Finally! someone puts forward a reasonable explanation on Mylot for why Women Love to go Shopping!
@dragon54u (31605)
• United States
31 May 12
I know what you mean! I have the perfect purse but it's over 10 years old and I've tried to find a replacement but have given up. I've repaired it several times because I can't find one that suits me better. I think I'll probably carry this one till I die!
@carmelanirel (20979)
• United States
31 May 12
I saw the suggestions to make your own and if you are like me, not only would that be nearly impossible, but not as strong as a store bought one. I also am very picky, because even though I don't have "little" ones, I still tend to carry a first aid kit and any other item I think I may need. So it must be strong, easy to organize all my stuff, and look good at the same time. I also won't pay over 15 for a handbag, so I am worse where the price is concerned..So what do I do? I do buy nice looking and many pocket bags for under 15, but I also look at garage sales and thrift store and find the more expensive and slightly used bags there. At this time I now have three, just picked up another one yesterday. By not using one all the time, it is like preserving the shoe trick: by changing often, it saves the shoe/purse from wearing out. Plus having a variety, if I don't need one as big or bigger, I can choose which one I will use and not have to take something so big or I will have the perfect size for what I am doing that day.. I hope that helps..:)
• Philippines
31 May 12
Maybe you can try the kangaroo bag. It is actually a bag with many adjustable pockets that you could fit inside a bigger bag. It is up to you how big you want the pockets to be. It helps organize things, specially baby things and toiletries.