Singled out!

Philippines
May 31, 2012 8:05am CST
All of my friends have started dating, seriously, a year ago and now I'm the only single gal in my girl group. I don't feel jealous or insecure about it because I'm happy to be single. It's just that I find it funny every time me and my girlfriends go out on dates and then one by one they're being fetch by their partners and hola! I won't noticed that I'm left alone smiling at the reality that I'm singled out by the group. Have you ever felt like you're singled out, in a good way though? I want to hear from you! :)
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7 responses
• India
31 May 12
No that never happened to me , there always some single guy around . Even if there isn't there's always someone around single or otherwise . Besides , I'm sure you still have some friends around most of the time and may be just because the lone time seems longer by comparison and hence you just have to take notice . Sure they might not have as much time to spare for you but they still have some and you yourself cannot be single yourself. Isn't there anyone around you that seems like future-someone-special?
• India
31 May 12
Well they still are able to take time out for you aren't they ? I mean its not like they're so involved with the ones they're involved that its drifting you apart , coz some might say that's not healthy . Plus if you think about it there aren't a lot of advantages of being single in comparison to being committed with someone and there and obviously you could think of a lot of reasons to be otherwise. Also, I don't think age is a factor to determine the kinda relationships you could be in , trust me I know I just turned 18, and romancing doesn't feel much different to when I was 15. how about you?
• Philippines
31 May 12
hi billutheguy! you have a point, but the thing is I don't like those single guys who keeps following me around. LOL. Anyway, I'm still young and juts enjoying singlehood. I'm happy for my 'close' friends though, because I can see that they're happy as well. And by the way, yes I still have friends whose single but those super-close-to-me-friends are in a serious relationship status.
@AmbiePam (85492)
• United States
31 May 12
Sometimes I feel really weird because almost everyone my age, including my best friend, is married. And most of them have kids. I'm thrity-one, and often I feel like the "odd" man out. Other times I really enjoy my freedom. A friend of mine recently got divorced, so at least one other woman around my age is unmarried. I hope she finds love soon though. She has too good of a heart to be alone for long.
• Philippines
31 May 12
Oh I hope your friend will soon find her partner. And so to you, since you mention you're 31. I pray that you'll find your partner too! and while waiting for your partner, go and enjoy SINGLEHOOD :)
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@AmbiePam (85492)
• United States
31 May 12
Thank you
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
1 Jun 12
That's what makes u stand out among the group and whoever is noticing the whole group, will have their eyes fixed on u because u are not attached.. lol Isn't that better when u have the world's attention on u instead of just having a single person? lol Besides, who knows u might get invitations from many eligible guys who wants to accompany u? By then it's your pick and u would be the one singling them out instead.. lol Is this a good way as well? :D
• Philippines
1 Jun 12
Somehow, and I'm loving the attention my girlfriends gave me. They keep teasing me up but at the same time they understand that I'm not really in the fuss of being with someone yet.I know someday, the right one will come to me :)
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@GemmaR (8517)
31 May 12
I have been in the situation before where everybody around me seemed to have a boyfriend and I didn't. It did get me down at the time, but the thing that I had to remember was that there isn't always a right time to be with somebody, and I suppose that it was just one of those things. As soon as I stopped looking for love, that is when I found the man who I am with now and have been with for three years. It seems that the more you get obsessed with finding somebody, the more you don't succeed, but now that I am with someone I can look back on those years and smile; because I never thought that I was going to be able to get somebody, but I did!
• Philippines
31 May 12
I guess true love waits, right? I'm happy for you. Thank you for sharing. As for me, I'm still enjoying my freedom. :)
• Philippines
1 Jun 12
Yeah! Sometimes i felt like i am singled out but not in a good way. It's really awkward bonding with my girlfriends and their bf's at the back. Especially when they start doing "sweet stuff" and i'll just awkwardly get my phone and play. Hahaha. What's even worse is it's not just one couple but three couple. That's why i hate going with my girlfriends when their bfs are with them.
• Philippines
1 Jun 12
Oh I'm sorry to hear about that. I think you have to tell your friends what you feel so that the next time you guys go out they will be more cautious not to out place you. Before, I also experience that, after I opened it up to the group they make sure the next time we hang out with their boyfriends they don't make me feel like out cast. :) I hope things go better your way.
@Shavkat (137215)
• Philippines
30 Aug 12
I don't feel that way at all. Life can be mysterious in some way, but I never feel so singled out for not having a partner. It is a matter of choice.
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
1 Jun 12
When my best friend finally had a boyfriend, another male friend of mine told me i shouldn't go with them anymore. But my best friend insisted that i should. My male friend told me that because he didn't want to make me feel left out. It's not like they went out on a date when i'm with them. We go out as a group but in the end i ended up alone.