Do you still love me?

@lynboobsy11 (11343)
Philippines
May 31, 2012 10:15am CST
When you ask this to your love one what words do you want to hear from them? Specially on a married couple, long last relationship, sometimes we forgot to ask it to them because we already feel there love to us. But for some sweetness words, do you ask if he/she still love you? What do you want to hear from them? Sometimes these are the words you will hear to them Yes I still love you. Or an answer but a questions too... Do you have to ask it did you not feel it? Please share mylotters what answers did you get from them when you ask them if they still love you?
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@celticeagle (157583)
• Boise, Idaho
31 May 12
I think it rather sad that someone has to ask this question. I always thought it nice to have the words returned when I spoke them. Infact I asked that of my last husband. My grandson comes up to my room to visit me on his rounds through out his day and he will tell me he loves me. I return it right back too!
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
1 Jun 12
How sweet is your grandson I hope when my grandson can say those words I can hear it to him too.
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@celticeagle (157583)
• Boise, Idaho
1 Jun 12
It sure makes my day. Hope yours does too.
• Netherlands
2 Jun 12
My kids do the same, every day, my son many times a day. Still it's sad that so many adults are not able to say the same or reply if you tell them you love them. Perhaps they feel (partly?) ashamed or like so many men say: You don't need to ask me you know I love you. In many cases it's hard to know since most men are not the most attentive human beings walking around on this planet. This besides of the fact that a bunch of flowers every friday is seldom a sign of love, more a sign of habit.
• Calgary, Alberta
31 May 12
I havent asked my girlfriend about that and she havent asked me that question neither. The last word she told me is that I am a jerk and I dont understand what she is going through, blah blah blah... I do love her but we are currently in a rollercoaster, arguments is becoming me and her hobby in the last few weeks. That question on this discussion's title reminds me of the song "hanggang"
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
31 May 12
Hmm I'm sorry to hear that arguments, try to ask her sometimes and please come back again to share.
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• Calgary, Alberta
31 May 12
she said "screw you" then *%$#@% off. I guess she is in denial but for sure she loves me. well few weeks ago, she kept on talking about how much she loves me and I was the best boyfriend. a relationship with no fights is boring anyway. hey we dont have an abusive relationship....
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
31 May 12
Ups and down are part of a relationship. Wish you all the best.
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@ladygator (3465)
• United States
1 Jun 12
Everyone wants to feel love and especially when you are married. Marriages are built around the deepest of love thats ment to last a life time. I will get sad and want to hear that my husband still loves me. I tell him a lot that I love him. I know that he loves me and he shows it all the time. He gets me the sweetest cards and just takes care good care of me. I know that he loves me as much as he knows how. And he has told me before that he has never loved anyone the way that he loves me. And I feel the same. Once he told me that I have all the qualities that he liked about his past girlfriends and then some. I am his perfect lady all in one. I feel his love, and when I ask him he tells me and I know he means it. I hope that you feel the same when you ask this question. ~C~
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
1 Jun 12
I'm envy with this kind of relationship because I still don't have found the true love. I hope someday I feel the same.
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
1 Jun 12
No, i will never ask this to my love ones.. It's a tricky question to begin with. haha If ever we have to ask, it means we dun feel their love anymore. And if they reply with a yes, the next question would be, "why are u doing this to me" or "why dun u trust me", " why dun u care about me anymore".. lol With that questions coming up, it will only lead to more complications and thus, it's best not to ask. Trust our feelings and trust our love ones ^^ Love is simple
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
1 Jun 12
sometimes people are not really contended in what they heard they have to follow up more question to clarify
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@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
1 Jun 12
Yeah, so it's best not to ask anything.. haha That's why we only see middle aged couples asking each other that question. We dun see young fresh couples or old couples doing that right? lol
@GemmaR (8517)
31 May 12
It is important that you always keep a check on how you feel when you're in a long term relationship with somebody. Feelings can fade, and you should always be making sure that you're not just staying with them because you're not too sure what else you should be doing. There are many ways that you can get the love back, but you have to be willing to work on it, and you have to realise that there is a problem in the first place so that you are able to work on it. This is something that I have discovered with my partner, and now that we have been able to address the issues that we had in our relationship, we're happier than ever.
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
31 May 12
I'm glad that you been happy to each other. So what is her answer, how did she answer you?
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
31 May 12
Yeah I think that the majority of us ask our partner this question. Especially us women. We want to know that they love us and care about us even though a lot of time may have went by that we have been together. It makes us feel secure.
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
31 May 12
Your right, sometimes that's the reason why we ask.
@drannhh (15219)
• United States
31 May 12
I never ask that question. Actions speak a whole lot more than words, and some people really do love their victims whom they mistreat, so what is most important is how they treat you. But if you tell them all the time you love them and they never say it back there might be a problem ;-) A really good romance, like any really good friendship, gets better with age. I have been most fortunate in who I choose to love. But then I have been very very picky.
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
1 Jun 12
Thanks
@jazel_juan (15747)
• Philippines
1 Jun 12
the latter is usually what my husband says, when i ask him this he would say, don't you feel it? or if i don't i would not be here at all... which is frustrating sometimes because i would rather hear the words sometimes..
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
1 Jun 12
your right jazel, it seems it's very hard for them to tell that words they have to answer with another question.
@marguicha (214294)
• Chile
31 May 12
I always remembered to ask my husband if he loved me still. Many times, I think he just answered because I asked. Still, it was a loving game and even if the actual words did not mean the same the do when you have a young love, there were stronger and more complex hidden meanings.
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
1 Jun 12
I agree.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
31 May 12
Oh dear, there is no chance with the past to ask this question. I would rather wait for the right one and I don't want to ask this question either, rather keep saying "i love you" every now and then
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
31 May 12
Your right that's why I can't either share my own from the present because still I don't have nothing present to share.
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@kingparker (9673)
• United States
31 May 12
I guess that I never ask such question to my ex, and that is why our relationship never works out. I wish that I going back in time, and tell her that I really love her then. Now, since we broke up, I realize that probably, she will be better without me. I am not a jerk or anything, but she seems happier with another person really loves her. The answer is not me.
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
1 Jun 12
Don't blame your self for that, just think it is not the right person for you both. I still believe there is someone, a true love for every body.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
31 May 12
At the moment I ask this there are only two reasons why I do so: 1: I know he isn't and I want him to admit or 2: I don't love him anymore and I hope he feels the same so we can end the relationship.
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
31 May 12
Yes I agree there is a doubt and you want to know the truth..
@ShyBear88 (59261)
• Sterling, Virginia
31 May 12
I have never asked my husband if he still loves me because I don't have to. I always know that he loves me with out any question need. Although my husband ask me some times he is just joking and other times he really wants to know if I do love him. I always tell him of course I do because if I didn't I wouldn't have married you and I would still be with you and its not because we have kids that I stay it's clearly because I do love you. That might make me crazy but that is true.
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
1 Jun 12
Sometimes even it's not too seriously sweet truth is pleasant to our ear and in our heart.
@ShyBear88 (59261)
• Sterling, Virginia
1 Jun 12
But you don't need to ask to have someone say it to you. I say it ever day before my husband leaves for work or when we go to bed.
@Suebee (2013)
• Canada
31 May 12
I never ask my husband if he loves me. I don't have to ask because I know he does. Personally, I think it is a sign of insecurity if you have to ask that question of your loved one. I know without a doubt and I can also FEEL that my husband loves me. Also, he knows and feels that I love him. I express my love for him in many ways, including verbally telling him that I love him at least once a day, often more. When I leave for work, I tell him that I love him, when I'm saying good bye to him on the phone I end the conversation with I love you, when I kiss him goodnight the kiss is accompanied by an I love you. He does the same with me. I think it is important to tell your partner that you love them but to ask if they love you? Nope. I just don't do it. I don't need to.
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
31 May 12
I'm glad that you always say that to each other, some couples forget to say that to each other specially if they were married for so many years.
@Suebee (2013)
• Canada
1 Jun 12
It's true that some couples don't say it often enough. They just assume that the other person knows so figure there is no need to say it. Even though we both know that the other loves us, I still think it is important to verbalize it as it is something everyone likes to hear and be reminded of.
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@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
9 Jun 12
I think communication is important but what you are talking about to me seems to be about insecurity and immaturity. There is no place for these things in a real, honest, working, adult relationship.
@airasheila (5454)
• Philippines
31 May 12
hi there lynboobsy11, well, there are times that i do always asked that particular question to my partner. and repeatedly saying to me, yes i do love you. and this is good enough for me.
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
31 May 12
That's good, I'm glad that he answers you with love.
@Paper_Doll (2373)
• Philippines
5 Jun 12
My husband never forgets to say he loves me more than once a day and he would really wait for me to reply. But when it my turn, which happens once in a while, I really don't expect him to reply. I just say I love him because that is how I really feel and there's no need for him to reply. I just want him to know.
@SIMPLYD (90727)
• Philippines
1 Jun 12
I would also sometimes blurt out this line to my husband when i feel that we are always so busy and tired to be bonding specially in the evening. My husband knows that when i ask him this, i am trying to ask for loving moments with him. And when i ask him that, he would snuggle close to me and embrace me and kiss me on the lips. No words can compare to that assurance.
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• Valdosta, Georgia
1 Jun 12
I have asked my husband this. Mostly when i am feeling sad or if I am having a strange feeling somethings wrong. Plus I would never want to think were okay and everythings fine in our marriage if hes not feeling that way. My husband always replies with of course I still love you and I always will. =)
• Philippines
2 Jun 12
How sweet of your hubby. His answer is straight and sure and you are a lucky wife! :))
@else22 (4317)
• India
1 Jun 12
My wife is my girlfriend.I never had any girlfriend before my marriage.We love each other and we both know it,but we never say to each other,'I love you' or something like that.We just know it.I think,love does not have any language.If there is any language of love,it is wordless,mute,because there is no word in any language of the world that can show or describe your love for someone.Your eyes,your face and your activities reveal your heart.Eyes glistening with love,a sweet smile and a face shining at your arrival is what demonstrates someone's love for you.No word is needed.No language is required.
• Philippines
3 Jun 12
That is what my husband always tells me, that his efforts are enough to tell me that he loves me even when there are times that he doesn't say so. He says he wouldn't make me the mother of his child if he doesn't love me :)
@else22 (4317)
• India
4 Jun 12
Saying 'I love you' sounds like a cliche,mechanical.Love manifests itself through our activities,through our body language that has no words.