How special should a first birthday be?

United States
June 2, 2012 5:06am CST
My twins will be 1 year old soon, and my fiance and I have been debating on what to do for their birthday. I think it should be an occasion where we can get pictures, so we can show them when they get older, and my fiance doesn't think we should go too big, because they won't remember it anyway. I think we both agree with each other, but that still leaves the question. What do you do for your child's first birthday? How special should a first birthday be?
17 responses
@Canellita (12058)
• United States
3 Jun 12
Congratulations! Every birthday is special so just remember that if you start big your kids will always expect bigger and better as they get older. Keep things simple and when they are older keep things special, but not expensive.
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• United States
3 Jun 12
You are so right about that. I learned it with my older sons. I should set the bar low. LOL.
@Canellita (12058)
• United States
20 Jun 12
See, you're way ahead of the game!
• United States
2 Jun 12
They won't have t he energy for the extra stimulation so keep whatever you plan on doing short. The party is more for the adults than the kids. Get some cake and ice cream, have a cook out with some friends and family (child's relatives and people you have over a lot) just chill really. The child will not remember memory recall doesn't really develope till a child is 3. With twins i would tottally skip the first 2 I mean you ahve enough expenses already! i sure hope you have a digital camera though because you'll still want pictures. Cake and ice cream pics are a great smile later! :)
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• United States
2 Jun 12
I'm sure they will love the cake and Ice Cream. I just want them to be able to see that even when they were little that their parents really love them. I definitely need to invest in a camera.
@ryanong (9694)
• Vietnam
3 Jun 12
IN here parents will have a big party and invite their friends join it. They eat, drinking, dancing and taking photos for that event. In fact, a kid is still small and she/he can't have a feeling of it, but they can their photos later and how people are happy in his/her first birthday.
• United States
3 Jun 12
I think the first birthday is about the celebration. I mean its the very first birthday the child will ever have. Maybe a nice video recording with people wishing their happy birthdays to the babies. Then when they are older they can listen to all of them.
@ryanong (9694)
• Vietnam
5 Jun 12
ya, it is an interesting idea also...Do you do like that?
• United States
10 Jun 12
I'm not quite sure what we are going to do, we keep going back and forth. The only thing we are sure of is there will be a cake. LOL
• Pamplona, Spain
3 Jun 12
Hiya PD, Make the best of the Party with having the simplest things around like everyone else states like Birthday Cake and Icecream and take lots of Photos too of course although I know it has already been mentioned. Photos are the best conveyors to children when they are older of what happened in their very first Birthday Party. Also have a really great time and wishing you lots of fun because with one or two Babies it just has to be fun even if it´s with Ice Cream and Jelly. xxx
• United States
3 Jun 12
I plan on making it fun for them. Im also considering a picnic at the park. Barbecue, slides and swings, a nice breezy day. that could be awesome too.
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• Pamplona, Spain
4 Jun 12
Hiya PD, In the Park that is a great place to have a Picnic and a Barbecue as well and with them having the slides and swings and hoping its a very nice sunny Days so your photos come out just right too. It will be awesome I am sure about that really am. Have loads of fun PD and not forgetting the babies.xxx
• United States
10 Jun 12
I like the park idea, except for the fact that August Summer days can be scorching. We are still debating where to have it.
• United States
10 Jun 12
I think that it depends upon the children and where they are in their development process. My girls were already walking and talking by their first birthday, so they were more active and could enjoy it more, especially playing with the other children. It was their first taste of cake, and they got a small one to themselves so they could just dig in and enjoy it. Of course they don't remember it really, but they do remember the pictures and videos, which is wonderful for them to see. I also know of some children that were not very active on their first birthday nor were they allowed to have cake or ice cream yet ... they were premature and their development had not yet caught up with the "average" one year old. The children could not really enjoy a party, so the parents didn't have a large party on their first birthday, but they did have a very special "two year old" party, and the children really were able to enjoy it. Therefore, I think that it is up to the parents what is best for the children.
• United States
10 Jun 12
My twins are somewhere in between. They are active, but cant walk or talk to good, but I do think they will like eating cake and ice cream. Who know with two months to go, they may turn out smarter than their parents lol.
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• United States
11 Jun 12
LOL! It sounds like they would have a great time at a birthday party, especially eating the cake and ice cream. I think that if you do not want to make it a large affair, then that is just fine. I think that the most important part is taking pictures and/or video of it not just for them to see when they get older but also for you and their mom to watch as they get older, so you can remember all the good times and see just how tiny they used to be.
@Jenith (1382)
• Philippines
2 Jun 12
First birthday on your first baby is so exciting! You can't wait to that special day to come. Lot of preparations made only to find out later that your 1-yr-old baby has no idea at all what you guys are doing. What keep you busy, why so many people around specially those kids who give presents...etc. My son is already 3 years old and I just realized that during 1st birthdays there's no need to make it special 'cause the celebrant can't understand what it is all about. You can make it simple. Just make sure that there's a cake to blow. Have some pictures for remembrance later and that's it. Good luck for the upcoming celebration.
• United States
2 Jun 12
But what if my babies remember that we didn't go all out. LOL. It's a real special day.
• United States
2 Jun 12
Now I just have to think about a theme and presents. Twins make it hard because you have to do the cake half boy and half girl.
@wolveren (1569)
• Cebu, Philippines
2 Jun 12
Your fiance is right. Not too big a celebration. The children will be too young to enjoy it anyway. But it's good to celebrate. Take it as a family's celebration of life every time there is a birthday. Perhaps when they are older and can enjoy what life has to offer. I had been asked that same question from relatives when my son was 1 year old. So we had just a simple celebration took pictures to record it. When my kid grew up he had the chance to look at what he looked like at 1 year old. hehehe. When he was older we had bigger celebrations that he could enjoy, just within our means and not too grand. Now that my son is 26, when he sees his old child pictures he says he looks terrible. really funny.
• United States
2 Jun 12
That's what I look forward too. Showing them everything when they get older. I'm sure we will have just as big a laugh. All though I'll refrain from dressing them up in some ridiculous outfit.
@wolveren (1569)
• Cebu, Philippines
2 Jun 12
lol yeah that would be embarrasing.
@ShyBear88 (18113)
• United States
2 Jun 12
The first birthday is only special to the parents that is it not to the child. Your fiancee is correct they will not remember it so its kind of pointless to go all big and wast your money. What me and my husband did for our daughters first birthday was we took her to Chuck Cheese used our own cameras and took pictures of her eating pizza for the first time, eating cup cakes that I made early that day, had presents that family and friends sent to her and did that with our cupcakes at home. I would wait till they are 4 or 5 to have a real good birthday party where you can kind of go all out with the things they truly to do like with people that they are friends with so you can have your own loud little kid party.
• United States
2 Jun 12
Chucky Cheese might be a bit to stressful. Dealing with other peoples misbehaved children, and bad pizza sounds like no fun at all. LOL. I think a more intimate setting like my dads house, some cake, and lasagna will do the trick.
@ShyBear88 (18113)
• United States
4 Jun 12
We had no issues and there pizza is better then you think it is. To 1 year old's they really don't care about the quility of food or where a party is at for that matter. My daughter had a blast we did all the little toddler rides and me and my husband played some of the big kid games for her and won tickets we took turns holding her or putting her or walking around the place. The day of her birthday there was over 15 birthday parties at the one we want to and all of the kids were well behaved. Didn't have to worry about other peoples kids because there was a lot of adults around with there kids watching them play games the older kids not so much but they never bothered my daughter or my husband and I. We also gave most all of our tickets to other peoples kids to use that where behind us in line when getting things. It's really up to you two what to do. But don't make a big thing out it really they will not remember it no give a rats a$$ what you did when they where under 5 years old. We plan for our daughters second birthday to do Chucky Cheese again of course she'll be more active by then and we will have another baby to deal with at the same time but it can be done. Our family isn't in town and if they all where we would have like 3 different parties which is just annoying we have to do this for like Christmas and Thanksgiving once a year I can't imagine doing it for both plus birthdays. We like it being just us with our kids and if anyone wants to join us they can drive 9 hours here or just send us the gifts. I don't now how my husband did when he lived in town since his parents are divorced and remarried they him and his sister have to have 2 birthdays which can be pain. We can't do that with our kids since they have like 4 sets of grandparents so we stay away from the all till the holidays and summer. Less stress for us since we only have to do one time year to see them all in the same place.
• United States
7 Jul 12
I feel that a child's first birthday should be special. A time spent with family and friends that love and care about your little one. And, it makes for some GREAT pictures later on (face covered in icing pictures are the best).
• United States
8 Jul 12
Well we have decided to have it at my dad's house, so there will be plenty of family. We are still undecided on decorations and food still. We are thinking about a full sheet cake so we can split it in half for each twin, but other food is still undetermined.
@pahak627 (4198)
• Philippines
3 Jun 12
A child's first birthday must be something special. Caring for a baby in his first year of life is difficult. We have to celebrate and thank God for giving the child a whole year of health.
• United States
3 Jun 12
I am of the same mind set. I think the ceremony has to be special, but I think it can also be toned down. It's so weird to think they are turning 1 already.
• India
3 Jun 12
Hello, We adopted our two year old child. now he is eight years old. He often asks us to show the photographs taken on his first birthday. As we have not revealed about the adoption, it is very difficult to answer his question. A first birthday is very special day in a childs life and it should be celebrated with special things and dont forget to take the photographs
• United States
3 Jun 12
Wow that seems like it would be a tough situation to handle. How do you think you will handle it?
@FrugalMommy (1447)
• United States
3 Jun 12
I think that no matter what you decide to do for the twins' first, it will be special. You don't have to have a huge party and go all out to make it special. For my daughter's first birthday, we bought a small cake and a banner that said "Happy Birthday." We got her a couple of gifts, and Grandma and Grandpa brought her a few things, too. They were wrapped really loosely so she could open them herself. She had a blast with that. We got tons of pictures of her opening her gifts and eating cake, but she ended up sleeping through half of the "party" because it was nap time.
• United States
3 Jun 12
Wow, are my babies the only ones who dont take naps. LOL. Everyone has said they will fall asleep, but my twins are little balls of energy when people are around.
@mikyung (2234)
• Philippines
3 Jun 12
I always wanted to have a baby of my own. That's why, my wife and I are doing our best to have one this year. The thought of celebrating their first birthday is so overwhelming and exciting. As I seel it, reaching a year is really both a milestone and a blessing. They only have one "first birthday", so I would give them something that they really deserve, though they cannot perceive the meaning, but that is just for now, it will be amazing for them to see those pictures and videos of their first birthday. A birthday celebration does not necessary be that expensive. Relative and some friends will be invited and potlock would be a good thing. The birthday celebration will be well documented - photos and videos would be there for sure.
• United States
3 Jun 12
I'm liking this potluck idea. I'll talk that one over with my fiance. Then I can invite the best cooks from my family to bring something. LOL.
@mercvict (127)
• India
3 Jun 12
As your fiance says, celebrate it but not too big birthday bash. One thing, they don't know anything now, so its better to have a small party. And, don't forget to take pictures to show them when they become big.
• United States
3 Jun 12
It's hard. I look at their little faces, and I can just see them smiling while they are the center of attention. Part of me wants to really celebrate the moment.
• United States
2 Jun 12
I went and had a big party for my daughter. The best part was the pictures that I have in her scrap book. If I had to do it all over again. I would have cate,ice cream and some ballons and family and little friends over. I wasted a lot of mone and she could no keep her eyes open enough to enjoy the party. it might have been a party for the neighborhood.
• United States
3 Jun 12
Do you really think it was a waste? You must have had fun, and the pictures should be worth it as well. What did you do for the party that made it so big?
• Philippines
2 Jun 12
i think a first birthday should be special. it doesn't have to be grand like 200 guests in a hotel venue. it can be an intimate dinner with family and maybe some close friends like the kids' godparents, at home. your fiance is right in not going too big. aside from being tiring and stressful, it's also not practical to throw a lavish party nowadays. you can search for simple do-it-yourself party ideas in the net. whatever your preparations will be, just make sure that you have your cake to let your twins blow candles with. for my baby's first birthday, i organized dinner in a local restaurant for about 40 people. to cut costs, we did most of the decor like the banner and balloons. the guests were mostly adults. i hope to have a bigger party when she's older, this time with more kids and with games and all.
• United States
2 Jun 12
I know exactly where I want to take them when they get older. It's a special place that really knows how to do birthdays right.
• United States
2 Jun 12
i think you should do in between because your rite its there first and they won't rememeber it so you don't need to go all out
• United States
2 Jun 12
I think so too. We definitely have to have a cake though, and I think it will be good to have the family together.