i just don't know what to do anymore

@jazel_juan (15767)
Philippines
June 3, 2012 7:47pm CST
Guys i won't be able to log in that much this day as i need to bring my son again to his pediatrician. Last night he was having a hard time breathing due to asthma and nebulizing is not working It is again my middle son, the one who had dengue back then, now he is having asthma, i scheduled an appointment at the doctor at 10 in the morning and he is here with me in the office right now as no one else could take him at the doctor, i had to bring him and glad my boss is ok with it.. phew. I asked permission to be out at the office for awhile so he won't get mad. sometimes i just do not know what to do, i am trying everything for him to be healthier, more vitamins, more outdoor activities so he will strengthen his lungs, more veggies and to think he eats more veggies than my two other kids and he is a big milk drinker.. i just do not know what to do to prevent him from getting sick. this mommy is just so tired right now from lack of sleep last night.
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@toniganzon (42803)
• Philippines
4 Jun 12
As mothers we only want to do the best for our children but no matter how hard we try they still end up with something that we don't want them to go through. You said you've done everything to make him healthier but despite of that he still gets sick. What kind of milk is he drinking? Is it powdered formula? Maybe you should cut down on the milk. I forgot where i got the information but i read in a health magazine before that milk actually could contribute to asthma attack. Not sure now what kind of milk. And when i stopped giving milk to my son, his attack wasn't frequent as before. When he started swimming it made his lungs stronger too.
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• Philippines
4 Jun 12
That's a good advice too, i guess my nephews and niece got a little bit better when they started swimming during summmer. i am not sure what is causing her son to get asthma, i still bet pollution on this one. anyways, prayers are powerful and it works mostly on every one so i think she shouldn't loose hope. with prayer things can be done
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@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
4 Jun 12
Hi Toni and Letran, my son is drinking Pediasure. I will try cutting down the milk and i will see how it will affect him and yes maybe Letran is right pollution is a factor on this one and yes i am praying he will get better and the medicines will work this time. I am positive it will, though tired but positive.
• China
4 Jun 12
Being the parients is really a hard work,you need to take care of your son as well as work hard for work.Last week,one of our colleague's little baby got a fever.So she took her little son to the company,She was very worried about her little son,so she can not foucs on her work.Well our workmates are willing to help her take care of her son.I love child very much.Hope you little baby will come back to health soon.
@writersedge (22579)
• United States
4 Jun 12
Has he been tested for allergies? Food and environmental? I'm sorry he's having such a rough time and so are you with lack of sleep. I hope no one is smoking around him. Beyond that I don't know what to tell you.
• United States
4 Jun 12
That's my kind of asthma. Humidity and environmental. I cannot even stay in the bathroom too long after a bath and I have to leave the door open. This time of the year is humid and there is a ton of pollen in the air. I and my whole family is coughing with tons of mucus. The only time we were all perfect was when we lived in the dry west with no humidity and very little plants. Desert life was perfect.
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@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
4 Jun 12
Yes someone smokes - my husband i told him many times to stop but he won't listen...or seems find it hard to stop.
@writersedge (22579)
• United States
5 Aug 12
For Souls, we have an air conditioner with a dehumidifier and that works wonders. Jazel Juan, people need to smoke outdoors away from other people who are ill. This was sooo long ago, but I thought it was your son with the asthma. If it is then your husband really needs to not smoke anywhere near him. Children can die around smoke with asthma.
@gaiza12 (4889)
• Philippines
9 Jun 12
Sorry to hear about the illness of your child. I do hope he gets better pretty soon. I am not yet a mother, but I can feel your worries about your son because I have seen a lot of moms already with your feelings now. There is nothing more you can do to your son because as you have mentioned, you have already given everything and done everything just to keep him healthy. Asthma's are really hard to prevent especially when a child already has it. I think what you can do is just to be with him and give him all the necessary meds for him not too feel any more pain. You deserve an award for being such a loving and caring mom.
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@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
11 Jun 12
I really do not think i deserve an award gaiza, i actually feel so rotten because no matter what i do he is sick..
@gaiza12 (4889)
• Philippines
11 Jun 12
You are not the reason why your son got asthma and nor were you the reason why he got DHF. You did great in protecting him and that makes you a better mom.
@mikyung (2235)
• Philippines
4 Jun 12
Hi jazel...I congratulate you for being a very good mother. All mothers are like that but I think you are one of those that really defines what truly a mother is all about. Kids are so vulnerable to diseases particularly to allergies such as asthma. I was like that too when I was a kid, but I outgrew it. Maybe because of all the medical treatments such as food, medications, combined with the emotional support by my parents, everything went ok. I believe in the "mind over matter" thing. Sometimes, it really help. Just find time to rest and relax, ask for help. Someone to babysit while you are sleeping or resting especially right now that your kid is sick. You need to rest to have the energy to able to do all of those activities of daily living.
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
5 Jun 12
That was flattering mikyung, often times i really do not think i am even a good mother as he is getting sick, if i am good how come he always gets sick? sometimes i do torment myself with these stuff. But thank you, finding someone to look after him is quite tiring right now as my mom is away and hubby works, so all is up to me..right now he is with my cousin. I am still looking for a nanny..
@mikyung (2235)
• Philippines
5 Jun 12
It's good to hear that you have someone to help you. Even healthy people can get sick. Even how intense is our preventive measures - i.e. vitamins, regular medical checkup. We may overlook some things but at least we do our best to take care for our loved ones. Find time to rest and relax.
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• Philippines
4 Jun 12
Hi @jazel_juan! I understand your predicament. I am also a mother too and I always worry whenever one of my children is sick. I have trouble sleeping when they have a fever and I think this is natural since we are moms. I don't know if you believe in "hilot"? I don't know what is the exact English word for this but I am pretty sure that you know what I am talking about. I have a friend whose son was often hospitalized because of bouts of asthma. So she thought of bringing him to one who does "hilot" once or twice a month. And since then, his son has less incidence of asthmatic attacks and was not hospitalized ever since. His son also gained weight and very energetic. I don't know if it will work for your son but it is worth a try. Thank you for reading this post!
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@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
4 Jun 12
oh i actually did try that before anne, we have this "hilot" that we often bring our kids too, we like him because he is gentle with our kids and is effective but lately there is no effect on my son as his situation worsen
• Philippines
4 Jun 12
Oh, that is sad that it didn't work out with your son. Anyway, you are doing the right thing, making sure that he eats a balanced diet. As much as possible, let him avoid triggering factors like for asthma like dust, pollens, too much fatigue, and nuts. Thanks!
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@Shellyann36 (8566)
• United States
4 Jun 12
I am so sorry that your son is having so many problems. My twins have respiratory problems but the nebulizing usually helps clear them up. It is very scary and as you say very tiring looking after one so sick. You just have to keep doing what you can do, see the doctor and do what the doctor says. I would also pray that he gets healed. I will say a prayer for him and for you.
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
4 Jun 12
Thank you Ms. Shelly, it is tiring at the same time heartbreaking to see you little ones sick, especially when i feel so helpless after all i did i was never able to alleviate him. We also have a nebulizer at home and the medicine we used was not working anymore, so the doctor prescribed a new medicines
• United States
5 Jun 12
I am glad to hear you got new meds. Please keep us updated on his condition. Hugs to you and prayers for your family as well.
@lynboobsy11 (11347)
• Philippines
6 Jun 12
How old is your son? My youngest daughter who is 14 now also suffers from asthma and respiratory track infection when we are still in the city. It's an allergy that's why it is very hard to cure we don't even know where and what kinds of things that triggers there asthma. She is very active child and love to eat veggies, she the one I'm talking about you that is a vegetarian but still she got that asthma. It is also inherited from other relatives, I know she got it from her father side. But when she reach 7 it was gone until now. Just be patient and don't worry too much I know the worries of mom but still think of your self too your a busy hardworking mom and it is very hard if your the who one got sick.
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@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
11 Jun 12
I am sorry for the late reply lyn as i was busy. Well my son inherited it from me... and i over grown it and i hope he will too
@SomeCowgirl (32273)
• United States
4 Jun 12
I am so sorry to hear that. A good thing is that most children who have asthma grow out of it before they come an adult. I had asthma as a child. I went out to play a lot and pushed myself a little further each time whilst running and the such until finally my lungs were strengthened enough and I didn't have problems with asthma anymore. They didn't feed me any differently however. I can't suggest anything to you but to look online for natural cures or natural help for your son. Maybe there is a certain fruit or vegetable to support his immune system and strengthen his lungs. A lot of kids are not in the habit of enjoying anything healthy though and so that's a struggle of itself. Maybe the doctor will have a suggestion for you as to help with his asthma.
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@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
5 Jun 12
I am actually doing that right now, i am searching which fruit and veggie is best for him as he needs it. I also do not want him to be dependent on anti biotics as well.
@Dominique25 (9476)
• United States
4 Jun 12
I'm sorry to hear that your son is having such a hard time. One important thing for you to do is get your rest so that you can take care of him. Look up all that you can about his condition and natural ways to make him feel better. Also ask his doctor for advice.
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@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
5 Jun 12
I did bring him to the pedia and those were advised and medicines were given to him
@jaiho2009 (39034)
• Philippines
4 Jun 12
Oh mommies- always the worry wart, but what can we do, that's our part How far you are from the sea? Took him there as often as you can, that is good for asthmatic kids. Give him freshly squeezed fruit juice and not vitamins. Give him ascorbic acid -Rhea brand is the best as far I know. Try to research the benefits of ascorbic acid and how to give your son the best dosage
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@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
5 Jun 12
this is my first to hear about the Rhea brand, i will look it up and yes i am giving him vitamins.. maybe i should change it and stick to squeezed fruit juice...he loves kalamansi juice even..
@elmiko (6640)
• United States
4 Jun 12
i feel too much milk could cause more asthma problems. try to limit his milk consumption to see if that helps. i would recommend an inhaler for asthma if he doesn't already have one as well.
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@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
4 Jun 12
oh i really do not know that milk can cause that, i will look it up..
@bunnybon7 (33964)
• Holiday, Florida
4 Jun 12
it seems a person always has one kid that gets sick more then anyone else. i had a girl like that. asthma, broncitis, and even pneumonia once. shes grown out of it now and shes my healthest one. so hopefully that will be the case.
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@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
4 Jun 12
most of my friends say it is that way, well i am praying he grows out of it soon as it is hard to see kids sick..
• Philippines
4 Jun 12
Hello Jazel_juan, I am so sorry for you getting into this situation every day. most specially right now that it's rainy season, i think there's a lot of factors involved as to why you're son is still getting sick. It could have been the weather change, maybe you're son is having a hard time adjusting to it. Or it can be the environment you're living there, you know pollution had been rampant too these days, like if the smokes are coming from Luzon it could reached there i think. i hope you're not over doing it too, getting your child to be healthy takes time. look at me, i was so thin when i was a kid and now am heavy weight
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@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
4 Jun 12
Pollution could be a factor Letran but i am not sure because he is always inside our home's premises and it is always that clean.. but i guess his immune system is just that weak like me when i was a kid and yes like you i was thin and now i am big!