Clueless...

@Boyetski (989)
Philippines
June 4, 2012 10:08am CST
We have encountered fights, love quarrels and the sort.. But how frequently can we experience a rather serious fight with your be half and almost have no clue on what triggered it. I have, and it make me think of so many reasons to have caused it but cannot really pinpoint it. Somehow I don't hesitate to apologize, but the trouble is, I am trying to apologize on the things I thought I did wrong, rather than saying sorry on that THING I really did, and it will backfire on me putting more salt on the wound of my sweetheart. We never really intend to be the bad guy on a love quarrel, but sometimes it's inevitable. In my case for example, I have tried not to get into senseless arguments with my wife, but it seems like a black hole sucking us both in and before I notice it my wife left and sleeps at her ancestral house leaving me behind CLUELESS!!
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@PageTurner (2827)
• United States
4 Jun 12
Ai yi yi!! Has your wife gone to her ancestral house even now, Boyetski? Did she not tell you why she is so the upset? It is not fair if she no tell you why she is the so upset. How can you defend yourself, man?? Sometimes these quarrels happen. They sneak up on us and we have no idea what is happens. I hope the best for you and that your wife returns from her ancestral home and that all is well.
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@Boyetski (989)
• Philippines
4 Jun 12
Hi PageTurner, Unfortunately she hast told me any reason so I was left thinking about until now. There can be things I can possibly do wrong at that moment, but I have no idea what I did. One minute she's smiling and the other she's throwing her clothes in her bag and leaving.
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• United States
4 Jun 12
Do you think that she is just looking for reason to make you upset? Maybe she is the one in the wrong and is throwing up the smoke screen to put you off and confuse you? Why would someone act like this?
• United States
5 Jun 12
Before you say something when you are angry think about what you are saying... leave the room and take a couple of deep breaths if you have to first to calm yourself down. Words hurt and in the heat of an arguement you may say things you don't mean
@SIMPLYD (83173)
• Philippines
5 Jun 12
So have you talked about why did she do that to you when she came back calmer? Me, the most that i have done to my husband when we quarreled is get a scissor and aimed it at him! I was so angry, that i tried to hit him by it. It's a good thing, he grasped my hands and held me so tight until i was calmer.
@sukumar794 (5047)
• Thiruvananthapuram, India
5 Jun 12
Familial quarrels happen on menial factors on most occasions. The issues crop up all of a sudden but are likely to end up in a matter of few hours. However certain differences of opinion are carried over to a level of non-redemption. The right and appreciable solution to this malady is one of the partners becoming silent .