My teacher

Spain
June 4, 2012 11:07am CST
Help me! I am a medicine student. I also do a part time job in a shopping complex. Now I'm just 23. My gf is 21 and she is 6 months pregnant. Yeah you got it right it's mine. It's a twin girl. Now I don't earn too much so you know I'm in trouble. My gf wants to marry me after the birth. Great things happening too my life. Money is not the problem too. But I'm from London and she is from California. I study my medicine here in US. So no way I can take her to England without completing my studies. I asked her to stay in her own house but she wants to live with me. She told me that after the kids she will rent an apartment. As i told before my earning are not that bad but you know I really don't know how to handle kids. So, what should I do? Any advice? You guys help me out I'll tell something more. Please I do need help.
4 responses
@bjc66bjc (6745)
• United States
4 Jun 12
Ihi lawrence, I hate to be so curt, but I am a little confused. first as a serious medical student, how could you be so irresponsible to get someone pregnant and with out the money to take of her and the children and maintain an appartment. I mean 'are your really serious'...You surely do need help... What do you mean 'you don't know how to handle kids'... Are you staying in Cali, as well as she... I hope you get yourself together soon, because you don't have a lot of time before the girls arrive...
• Spain
4 Jun 12
Mam I'm in Boston (Harvard Medical school). She was here month ago,has went to her home. My problem is not the money mam. My problem is I am here in USA it's not London. Renting an apartment is not the main problem. Needs almost $3000/month. The problem is We are both young. Newborn babies are delicate like flowers. They need a lot of attention too. That's the problem as I have to study for almost 10-12 hours a day. My gf's pretty face is not going to give good marks. I just all bloody messed up. Despite of being a medical student I am a young 23 years old lad mam. I do have eyes, mind, emotions hard to control too. My gf wanted to be a doctor too. But now she wants to be a housewife for at least few years. I'm bloody wasted. I'm exited too. You know problems do come. But I'm going to be daddy. I'm very happy. I'm going to be daddy. I'm going to be daddy. Yeah! By the way can u give any advice?
@bjc66bjc (6745)
• United States
4 Jun 12
hi lawrence, I wasn't thinking that we were not a 23 year old with needs I definately understand, I just think there were steps you and her could have taken to prevent pregnacy, that what I was saying... The advise I can offer is even tho you are young and obviously smart, becoming a mother and father will be something that comes naturally once you see those beautiful girls,..There really isn't a book about how to be a good parent...Now lot everyone is a good parent but if you want to be you can certainly become great parents...Just remember you need to know that those babies need both of you,,,Now even tho you will be working a lot but you and your girl have to make some serious decision ,,,It can and hopefully it will work for the two of you... Much love in the future and I am really wishing you guys the very best....
@lady1993 (19634)
• Philippines
5 Jun 12
Well, you have to accept your fate.. you made a baby with her and you have to face the consequences. Both your parents are okay with it right? If that is the case,then maybe she can just live with her parents to help her take care of the kids easier.. How long till you graduate? She can just live with you when the kids are at an age when they are not so hard to take care of.
• Spain
5 Jun 12
For me 4- 8 years(residency included). Parents are no problem. She is very possessive, hope you know what I mean. She just don't want to leave me. You know taking care of babies, two babies is difficult than getting highest marks in exam. But I love her so I think I can manage somehow. I don't have too much time, I have to buy few things too. I'm bloody happy after all.
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
27 Mar 13
Hi, You should take the responsibility of raising kids. Because it is not your girl friends responsibility only. You ahve to think over it seriously. You can call your parents or her parents to take care of your kids. But she wants your support in delivery you should support her. You have to face this trouble together. because you both are responsible for this pregnancy. Best of luck for your future.
• United States
5 Jun 12
Well there is not much you can do now the babies are on their way. But don't marry just because of the babies. Let your gf know you want to take your time, get your education first so you can better the kids lives. There is no rush to get married. You just need to be there for her and the kids. Not knowing how to handle kids is normal. You will learn and make mistakes along the way that you will learn more from