age difference

Romania
June 4, 2012 4:03pm CST
could you have a relationship with someone that is much older/younger than you? personally I don't think I could. I don't have a special reason...but I couldn't see myself with someone much younger than me. women are more mature than men so I would want to have a man that is older than me. let's say 5 years old is the biggest age difference that I would accept
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@PageTurner (2827)
• United States
4 Jun 12
I suppose that it's according to what stage we are in our lives as to what consititues a huge age difference, swissheart. When I was a child, let's say, age 7, then five years would be huge. Likewise, if I was 13, and someone was five years older or younger it would be a big deal. I imagine that it would be less of a deal if I was 85, and my sweetheart was 80 or 90 or even 60 or 100. My sweetie is now almost five years my junior, and we are happy together.
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@sacmom (14317)
• United States
4 Jun 12
It's true. 5 years apart seems like a big difference when you're little. As you get older it doesn't seem to matter as much. Take my husband for example. Before we met he couldn't imagine dating someone his sister's age. She's 5 years younger than he is so all her friends always seemed so immature. LOL However, that all changed after we met. And here I'm a few years younger than she is! LOL But then again I came off more mature, even back then, though I certainly didn't do it on purpose. Happy mylotting!
• India
5 Jun 12
hmm age matters a lot because age factor means a maturness factor .or yes more than 5 years gap is also not comfortable because too much older or younger partner also create a kind of generation gap,,,,thanks
@sacmom (14317)
• United States
4 Jun 12
Yes, I can. In fact, I am married to a man that is 8 and a half years older. I have to say neither of us were seeking someone with such an age difference before we met. It just happened. Happy mylotting!
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• Abbeville, Mississippi
6 Jun 12
to me i never thought about age. it just happened.. We fell in love. And we never let anything get in our way. Do not let age get in the way of happiness.
@jricky1 (6809)
• China
6 Jun 12
Honestly,i also feel uncomfortable being friends that are much older than me,for i have a feeling that we can be friend,but normal ones.Anyway,several years old are just ok,not too many.
@thess0312 (442)
• United States
6 Jun 12
I believe you can. As long you guys love each other why not? I have been married for twenty two years now and my husband is eight years older than me. We have four wonderful kids that rock my wold. I don't think age matters at all. Although women do mature faster than men, I believe that once a person reaches their highest peak of maturity, age begins to become a less than important factor in terms of finding a partner. This is where compatibility plays a huge factor; although we spend our lives trying to find our own exact identity and persona, our main keys begin to flower with age. Sometimes some faster than others. When a person matures to their highest, their keys become more known and finding someone that truly connects with them overcomes any obstacle of age.
@WakeUpKitty (8707)
• Netherlands
6 Jun 12
I think this all depends on your own age and the life experiences you have and of what your "partner" has. I had for many years, even as a kid, way older friends (female and male). I had nothing in common with the kids in my school or the teenagers. I did find my ex boring and old although they were about 5 years older. But I do believe this had way more to do with their character, lack of enthousiasm, energy, creativity. Boring high educated people without any sense of humor. The older I get the younger my friends became. Might be we have more in common because society changes or I am more able to find the same bird of a feather? Age is no longer important to me, it's about the person itself. What I call old mostly has to do with behaviour and boring.
@ginspearl (209)
• Philippines
5 Jun 12
For me it is okay to be in a relationship with age difference. Though, I haven't experience it, I still consider it okay and it all depends to the people who are involved in the relationship, thus, it is a matter of choice and acceptance. I have known a relationship of two person who are in a ten year gap, and it is already their ten years of being together and their relationships really went well and still getting well. Age difference doesn't matter for me when it comes to a relationship. I do believe that once in a relationship we should have known the principle of give and take. Thus, no matter what the ages is, as long as there is a commitment to one another and as long as they feel love to one another and both are really working to make their relationship last longer then age doesn't matter at all.
• Philippines
5 Jun 12
i am a woman and i prefer man with my same age or older than me 2-3 years. i don't want someone who is younger. so yeah, it's a yes to your question. :)
5 Jun 12
Well,my husband is much older than me,he is 32 years old but i only 26,heheh~~~i think it's ok if you like~
@shibham (17025)
• India
5 Jun 12
I started a discussion regarding this issue just days ago. Here is the link... http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/2659854.aspx Well, between me and my fiance, we have 4 years age gap and i am satisfied with it. I hope we will be enough happy in future. have a nice time.
@swapmind (357)
• Australia
5 Jun 12
Well this choice is very relativistic ,Finding your Mr right is a matter of parameters you set in order to make a choice.For me 5 years is not a big age difference if you share a nice chemistry,You are able to tune your tempo,understand the needs and add meaning to each others life.
@ryanong (9695)
• Vietnam
5 Jun 12
i'd love my guy older than i from 4-8 years old..but if i love an old man, who knows, then it is ok because i always put the love is the priority. I think the true love can solve any problem including the big difference of ages...
• United States
5 Jun 12
Take it from someone who is in that kind of relationship, it can be a challenge. I love my boyfriend, don't get me wrong, but it hasn't been easy. We have certainly had our ups and downs, and sometimes, I just want him to act like more a man, and then I realize that he probably won't.
@Paper_Doll (2376)
• Philippines
5 Jun 12
I've been with a guy who is 9 years older than me for almost 7 years. I thought he is the one but I was wrong. I met my husband when he was 20 and we got married when he was 22. I am 9 years older than him. Yes you are right, women are more mature than men and usually, this is the main cause of our problems. I sometimes feel that I am with my younger brother who makes me want to explode for doing something unexpectedly. But this thing could also happen when you're in a relationship with an older guy.
@obe212003 (2302)
• Philippines
5 Jun 12
As i always believe that falling in love is not a choice, it is a chance that happens unexpectedly, and i guess would not make any difference at all. My wife is 38 and am 50, and we got seven sons, lol! The generation gap has its disadvantages and advantages, but so does at any age, but the important thing the affection and respect that we have.
@Bhebelen14 (5074)
• Philippines
4 Jun 12
Yes, to be honest my husband is older than me but age difference is doesn't matter as long as you love each other and makes you happy. I can love any one as long as he's honest, responsible, lovable, mature, loyal,trustworthy and able to support a family. Age for me is just a number that continious to add up every year but doesn't affect to person's attitude and characters. :)
@sk66rc (4261)
• United States
4 Jun 12
I'm much more attracted to older women... That's not to say I don't find younger women attractive, I guess it's just preference... I've dated a woman who was 28 years older than I was... Just to put things in perspective, her youngest daughter was 2 years older than I was... We dated for about 2 years... When we decided to break up, age wasn't t the issue... My current girlfriend is my age... Well, if you wanna get technical, she's 4 month younger Than I am... Go figure...