living in before marriage

I disagree you with because it is kind of correct how do you know your going to get alone with someone if you never live with them and learn to live with each other. Once your married and see what its like living with each other you might find deal breakers and might not like how they live and you can't change your partner and you might not want to change for them. Its a risk. There isn't anything wrong with living with each other it doesn't take away the excitment of being married and learning what is a marriage and expanding your relationship with each other. It is the next step in to getting to know your partner and what you do and do not want form a partner. I live with my husband before we got married I'm just as excited about living with him then as I do now. I love it it hasn't change anything. We drive each other nuts but we live with those craziness all of the time. Not because we have to but because we just love each other and we can over look certain things.

I think I support come with stay kind of thing before marriage. This can give time to really have a glimpse of what you expect in the coming marriage and decide whether you are ready for marriage or not.

I lived with my bf for 5 years before we got married. It is a great way to know if you can stand each other all the time and know if he is right for you or not. I have known friends that married and moved in after and it was a big shock to them how the other one lived. Whether it be messy, liking things a certain way etc...

Yeah, it does take the excitement out. I guess we have the same sentiment about it. It's just that when you do get married, it would seem like, nothing really changed since you guys are already living together.

I think that it is important to know whether you're going to get on with the person who you're going to be living with. Living with somebody full time is very different to being with someone and seeing them every so often, and if you only find out whether you like living with them or not when you're already married, then this could be a very bad thing to realise indeed. I lived with someone who I thought I really loved, and then I realised that I would actually never be able to live with because he had some very annoying habits; so I am glad that I discovered that before I married him!

Hi, Katrina. Marriage is not a year or two. If living together before marrying someone can ruin the excitement of living together after married, then, what about the next 5, 10, 20 years etc. What I am trying to say is it actually depends on the couple on how they feel about their relationship or what their plans are. Even if a couple living separately before getting married, the relationship won't work if there is no spark and other essential elements in nurturing their relationship. So, basically, it all comes back to each individual especially when it involves cultures and traditions. If one is comfortable with living with each other before tying the knot, it is also an advantage to learn more about one's partner. My hubby moved in when we were engaged not because we wanted to test if we've made the right decision on moving to the next level, but I remember it's the feeling that we just wanted to be together and now that we've been married for than 5 years, sometimes, I still feel that we've just gotten married yesterday. It's a cliche, but time does fly so fast!

I'm currently living with my girlfriend & we've been living together for a while now... Sometimes we feel like a married couple, lol... We didn't really get together with an intention of "test driving"... We just felt that was the natural thing to do at the time...

I still believe in sanctity of marriage. I am not an appliance or something that should be test before buying. I am human so I want to be treated as one.

I think different people have different view for this discussion,for me,i don't agree with living in before marriage,because i am a traditional person,maybe living in before marriage is a way to know each other better,but i still don't agree this way.