is it okay for girls to do the first move?
June 5, 2012 6:19am CST
hi mylotters! i heard the new song of 2ne1 (korean girl group) entitled "Be Mine". the song is about a guy and a girl who like each other, but the guy is afraid to admit it to girl. the girl had already knew that the guy likes her and she's getting tired of waiting for the guy. so, what she did, she confront the guy and told him "Please be mine". that's it. Based on the song, the girl made the first move. In our country, it is inappropriate to see girls making the first move because elders believed that it is the guys obligation. Our country is a bit conservative people. But, what if you are in the same situation with that girl in the song, will you do the same? or just wait?
5 Jun 12
In general, that is the concept in your country that men should make the first move however, there is a saying that "in every rule there is always an exception." So this is an exception to the rule. If the girl sensed that the guy also likes her then why not make the first move. There might be several situations like this that happened in your country. However, nowadays, society is becoming more lenient. There are girls now who are making the first moves even if guys doesn't like them. Here comes the problem. It might end up for the guy to take advantage of the girl concerned. There are guys like that, even if they don't like the girl they will take the girl and abuse her. Well, a girl should see to it that the guy likes her before she makes the first move.
• United States
25 Jun 12
I love 2ne1!! I honestly don't understand why it would be considered inappropriate for a girl to be the one making the first move when it comes to the possible start of a relationship. If the girl can tell that the guy likes her, but he's too shy to admit it..I do believe that I would also make the first more in that situation.
6 Jun 12
I think there is nothing wrong if the girl made the first move. If the girl can carry the situations, why not? But in some culture it is not a modest way for a girl to do that. A man can be turned of to a woman who is so aggressive. Making the first move shows that a girl is aggressive. So a girl who is planning to do the first move must consider all these consequences. Still, many men prefer a girl who can wait until they say what they feel for her.
5 Jun 12
Hi effinmuffin! I think, girls can possibly make the first move. We have equal rights and obligations. I believe, it goes without saying that courting is one of those right or privilege given to anyone regardless of the gender. Who knows, that guy could be your future husband or your knight in shining armor or can also be your soulmate. We may not know what we are missing. This is from my own point of view.
5 Jun 12
I will do the same. You should be the one to create your own destiny and not the other way around. And besides, there's already the fact that we both like each other right? There are some guys who needs a little push from us to make everything work out. There's really no harm in making the first move as long as you know yourself and the limits. I also came from a conservative country and we also have that belief that guys should make the first move but its different now. Its already the 21st century! Anyway, its my own opinion though! :)